MSE Pregnancy Club 24

gtothec

emsbet wrote: »

Gtothec I totally forgot to put you as a boldie yesterday, sorry! Happy due date for yesterday!

xx

No bother, thanks!

To say I'm a bit scared is an understatement. Went for my final scan & meeting with consultant on Friday there. Was offered a sweep but I declined it. It just seems so unpleasant. And I think in the back of my mind I am putting the whole labour thing off.

Feel really silly now - Of course I want to meet my baby, but I just want a few more days first! Does that make sense? I feel a bit of a chicken to be honest!

Just found out yesterday that a friend had died in her sleep. 30 years old. Thats the second person I know to have died suddenly in the space of 5 days. The other person was a 20 year old boy. It certainly puts things into perspective. SO sad.

What is happening? Do you think more people are dying from this sudden adult death thing these days, or is it just the case that they are reported more often now? The whole thing is very upsetting.

Molly41

Sexy Mouse - I had a major wobble when I found out my fourth child was also a boy. I stropped around for a bit after the scan and couldnt decide on a name. Then my husband had a suggestion for a very appropriate name and it stuck. Naming the baby and giving him an identity in the womb really helped us bond and me come to terms. Now DS still gets called that name and he is nearly 16:eek: You have plenty of time to get used to the idea of having a roughty toughty baby boy!

rjh090384

I been awake
Since four re hay fever u can't take anything. I been using plain eye drops
To
Try ease itchiness but thy not much help. Some nose sprays are ok but diff doctors advise diff things. Personally I steer clear just in case.

Sorry about your friend hun. It's crazy how much it seems to
Be happening these days. My friend did a sky dive for charity yesterday and broke both ankles landing. Really worried coa he suffers from depression and I'm
Worried if he is stuck in all the time
That he is going to spiral again.

Currently trying to get out of bed as I'm ouchie bdaughter is being a sweetie pottering round house and bringing me things to play with in bed.

Cheetara

Morning ladies

Lots to catch up on.....was hoping to hear some baby news from Hannah27, Nutella and the other boldies. Fingers crossed some good news soon.

Happy due date GtotheC, I hope you get a few days to chill before LO arrives.

Well done to Millie, MM what a lovely surprise for your girls the trip to London will be

Well, my spd has improved a little which I think is due to the baby moving further down towards to my pelvis (apparently her head is now floating just above it), so I am sleeping a bit better. Still having pain at night but it doesn't wake me up every half hour which is a huge improvement. I'd expected it to only get worse so I am glad of the respite even if it's temporary. Unfortunately though, I can't stand for more than a nano second before my feet turn into pillows. So with the spd (which although improving is still bloody sore) and my stay puft cankles I gave in on Friday and have started my maternity leave 3 weeks early. Yay! :T I really had wanted to get to 37 weeks as we could really use the money but I had to face up to the fact that even though I feel well in myself my body is falling apart and needs to rest haha!

On the subject of girls, my DD12 has always been very affectionate and still is, despite already beginning the teenage phase. She is an absolute sweetheart (when hormones aren't in play) so whilst I know we'll have a bumpy ride over the next few years (if she's anything like me as a teen!) I am still chuffed to bits to be having another girl on the way. If they've got it wrong and we're having a boy I know that I would take some time to adjust as I want another girl but I also know that when I clap eyes on my baby I will love them no matter what. I've got friends with boys who are absolutely adorable so I know I would come around to the idea after the intial disappointment.

The birds and the bees chat for me happened in the loo in Tesco when DD was 3 "Mummy, where do babies come from?" I could hear the ladies in the other cubicles stifling giggles.......:rotfl:

emsbet

Big ((hugs)) for you Gtothec. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

Thanks for the info re hay fever rj, I fortunately don't really get the itchy eyes, just a scratchy throat, snuffley nose and headache. I guess if it gets too bad I can take some paracetemol to ease the worst of it. I'll have to find some alternative way to relieve my prickle heat when that kicks in as usually antihistamines are the only thing that get rid of it. I love summer but my body isn't so fond of it!

Cheetara, glad you are getting a bit of a break from the SPD.

xx

rjh090384

Yeah I get them all lol. Cold drinks ice Lollies lol. I hate te stuffy feeling in your head which nothing can relieve. I feel really blonde with my jay fever I can't think properly.

rjh090384

Ps get your butts down to asda today. Boxes of nine pampers sensitive wipes for £3.50. I got a Moses basket and mattress for £15 and the stand for £9. Avnet bottles pink and blue £3.50 for a two pack and many more bargains!

fluffnutter

sexymouse wrote: »

Thanks for all of the reassurance about my disappointment after the sex was revealed at my scan ladies. I've been trying to come to terms with it by thinking about all of the lovely baby boys I've looked after in my teens and younger (neighbours' children), and how affectionate they were, as well as looking specifically at boy clothes in town today (couldn't bring myself to look at them yesterday). Of course my cat is a boy, and he's definitely a Mummy's boy - even more so at the moment now I'm pregnant. I've read a bit online today that it actually has a name - gender disappointment. I felt really guilty yesterday too, as my Mum said that the baby would be able to sense I didn't want him as I was probably all tense inside, as well as the fact that I was lucky I could have children at all, and I felt awful - of course I want him, it's just my dreams of having a daughter and all of the things that I would do with her, have been lost (I don't know if Moon and I will have any more children in the future), and it's a sort of grieving process for what might have been. I really hope that my honesty in this post doesn't upset or anger anyone on this thread - it's just that I found it really helpful to hear of other people's experiences and how they came to terms with everything.

Don't push it, sm. Just give it time. I don't think it's something you need to rationalise or overcome, just accept you feel disappointed, understand that it's not an uncommon way to feel and try not to dwell on it.

Fact is, I expect all those feelings will have disappeared by themselves before your baby is born, and if they haven't, they will do so the moment your meet your little baby.

fluffnutter

More gems from the MIL yesterday. She really does seem to have a selective memory about pregnancy and childbirth...

Apparently, babies don't kick. Nope, they just gently flutter a little bit. To say they kick, punch or headbutt your cervix is nonsense. I think I must be having a donkey then because my little wriggler kicks me so hard I struggle to stay standing sometimes.

There's something wrong with me because my tummy button hasn't popped out (yet).

Any woman who doesn't instantly fall in love with her baby the moment it's put in her arms is a bad mother. God help me if it takes a couple of days (or more) for me to bond with my baby! She'll be on to social services

Maddie

gtotech sorry to hear about your friend, must have been such a shock.

Thanks for the replies re my maternity leave question. I started off thinking 2 weeks as I was working with a lady who left then because she thought that was the latest she was allowed but then wished she'd left on her due date as she felt fine and was only going to get bored at home. I on the other hand don't get bored of doing nothing (its bliss) plus will prob still have lots to do to get ready, and will be fed up of work no doubt. So I think I will try to save holiday to allow myself to leave 4-6 weeks before EDD without actually starting my ML very early.