MSE Pregnancy Club 24

MrsExcited · 11 May 2012 at 4:50PM

sending you loadsa labour vibes! Hopefully baby will come very soon!

When is your due date?

Sorry about your pain - hopefully it should go after your third girl is here!

I would love a mini me for DH too but he has got quite a big head and very square shoulders so I'm a bit worried about giving birth to a mini DH! LOL!!

MrsExcited · 11 May 2012 at 4:53PM

ok - i'm signing off now - have a fab weekend girlies!

It looks like good weather here at last!

xxxxxxxxx

labour vibes to thoses who need them and pain free vibes to the poor spd ladies. xxxxxxx

Miss_Money · 11 May 2012 at 4:53PM

due date is the 21st... :eek: If she manages to hang on in there until then i will be amazed!

fluffnutter · 11 May 2012 at 4:54PM

Fishcake_Random wrote: »

I am one of those anti medicine types. I refuse any and all things medical without extremelly careful thought before hand. I believe that if I am ill then I will notice. I also believe that pregnancy is not an illness and hate it being treated as such.

I agree that the medicalisation of pregnancy and life in general can have its drawbacks, but you're not just making decisions for yourself now, you're making them for your baby.

It's an irrefutable fact that certain conditions won't be detectable by you, you won't necessarily feel ill. Your glucose can be too high without your realising it. You can have protein in your urine indicating pre-eclampsia is likely even though you feel fine. Bringing both of these under control will help you and your baby. Group B strep will have absolutely no symptoms whatsoever if you're just a carrier, but if you transfer this to your baby during its birth, your baby could die.

None of these tests are invasive; it's always a balance between risk and benefits, particularly is something is unpleasant or costly, but for the sake of a quick blood test or a swab I'd do it willingly if I thought it might help my baby.

Having said all of that, I totally support your right to make these decisions yourself. It's all about being informed at the end of the day, isn't it.

Miss_Money · 11 May 2012 at 5:00PM

fluffnutter wrote: »

I agree that the medicalisation of pregnancy and life in general can have its drawbacks, but you're not just making decisions for yourself now, you're making them for your baby.

It's an irrefutable fact that certain conditions won't be detectable by you, you won't necessarily feel ill. Your glucose can be too high without your realising it. You can have protein in your urine indicating pre-eclampsia is likely even though you feel fine. Bringing both of these under control will help you and your baby. Group B strep will have absolutely no symptoms whatsoever if you're just a carrier, but if you transfer this to your baby during its birth, your baby could die.

None of these tests are invasive; it's always a balance between risk and benefits, particularly is something is unpleasant or costly, but for the sake of a quick blood test or a swab I'd do it willingly if I thought it might help my baby.

the rhesus neg test rang true with me too... that can kill a a baby if they are different to your blood group. they are born "blue" and need transfusions. some don't make it

that's why i've always agreed to the anti d injections even though I have panic attacks and sob like a baby when they inject me. I couldn't bare the thought of me not doing something and it would harm my babies.

however that's just me. I suppose she has assessed the risks and deemed them acceptable to her. everyone is different i guess.

fluffnutter · 11 May 2012 at 5:08PM

Please tell me, Fishcake, that you at least know whether you're rhesus negative or not :eek:

Miss_Money · 11 May 2012 at 5:22PM

fluffnutter the thing with being rhesus neg is it doesnt affect your first baby only subsequent ones.. more scary imo. After I had 1st dd i whined at the midwife "do i have to have it?!" actually no i didnt whine i sobbed!

petrified of needles etc. she said "no you don't have to have it. I wont force you. However should you need a blood transfusion in later life it probably wont work. Your blood will have mixed with the baby's during pregnancy and your body has now built up anti bodies against the babies blood type. that is now swimming around in your system. if you had a blood transfusion your body would attack the blood being given to you. Also if you choose to have another baby and it has a different blood type to you (quite likely) your body will now see that developing baby as an intruder and reject it. Meaning either you will abort in early pregnancy naturally, OR if you manage to go full term you will have what they call a blue baby which will need multiple transfusions to survive." needless to say her word didn't need saying twice.. i told her to inject me, and excuse me whilst i sobbed!

It wasn't worth the risk to me not having the injections. I'm glad i had them as i now have 2 beautiful girls and another on the way. And even though this will be my last baby I will still have the anti d injection after the birth if she has a different blood group to mine because should i ever need a blood transfusion i want to live through it to be with my girls!

fluffnutter · 11 May 2012 at 5:34PM

Miss_Money wrote: »

fluffnutter the thing with being rhesus neg is it doesnt affect your first baby only subsequent ones.. more scary imo. After I had 1st dd i whined at the midwife "do i have to have it?!" actually no i didnt whine i sobbed! petrified of needles etc. she said "no you don't have to have it. I wont force you. However should you need a blood transfusion in later life it probably wont work. Your blood will have mixed with the baby's during pregnancy and your body has now built up anti bodies against the babies blood type. that is now swimming around in your system. if you had a blood transfusion your body would attack the blood being given to you. Also if you choose to have another baby and it has a different blood type to you (quite likely) your body will now see that developing baby as an intruder and reject it. Meaning either you will abort in early pregnancy naturally, OR if you manage to go full term you will have what they call a blue baby which will need multiple transfusions to survive." needless to say her word didn't need saying twice.. i told her to inject me, and excuse me whilst i sobbed! It wasn't worth the risk to me not having the injections. I'm glad i had them as i now have 2 beautiful girls and another on the way. And even though this will be my last baby I will still have the anti d injection after the birth if she has a different blood group to mine because should i ever need a blood transfusion i want to live through it to be with my girls!

Plus they won't take your word for it that it's your last baby! They'll always veer on the side of caution... you might change your mind!

Miss_Money · 11 May 2012 at 5:38PM

fluffnutter wrote: »

Plus they won't take your word for it that it's your last baby! They'll always veer on the side of caution... you might change your mind!

precisely! Had i not met the oh Maddie would have been my last baby. I swore blind to the MW that it was my last :rotfl: but i still had the injection due to the transfusion issues. Nearly five years later and here I am again dreading that sodding needle!! but i know if she is a different blood group i really DO need it.:)