MSE Pregnancy Club 24

Miss_Money

alizee :j YES!! this is it!! ring the delivery suit!! you my girl are in labour! xxxx

fluffnutter

I have a HV appt next week (I'll be 34 weeks). She's not visiting me; I'll meet her at my local birthing centre. I wasn't expecting to see her until after the baby was born but it's nice to know what they're all about, isn't it?

BB1984

HV just left, got my nice red book with all the leaflets etc to read

She seemed nice enough - although it was a bit hard to get a word in edgeways, I have a feeling she could be a bit of a battleaxe if she wanted....!

Doors have arrived, and carpet fitter coming over shortly to measure up....all go go go here!

BB x

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Miss_Money wrote: »

Ive been googling autism. My mind is made up. he's autistic.
He's a fool. my toe really really hurts!

Sorry to hear you oh is being so awful to you but I don't think it's just due to autism.

I have asperger's & 2 of my son's are on the spectrum, we have trouble understanding how other people feel & seeing things from other's peoples point of view but we are not bullies.

I feel very uncomfortable seeing someone upset & there is no way i'd treat someone the way you describe.

It sounds like it's more part of his personality tbh, he may well have some autistic traits (most people do especially men as asperger's is sometimes referred to as extreme maleness) due to the lack of empathy etc.

Does anyone in his family have similar issue's? Is there anyone in his family you are close enough to confide in that could give him a kick up the backside?

picklepick

Hi ladies

Just a heads up in case any of you are interested. Aldi's Thursday specials today includes a few baby bits. Blankets, babygrows, bottles, etc, and their own version of Bio Oil which I am stocking up on!

http://www.aldi.co.uk/uk/html/offers/offers_week19Thursday12.htm

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Good morning ladies.

I've got an appointment at the aau (antental assessment unit) today, that's 2/3 hours of my life i'll never get back. :cool:

I absoloutely hate going every 2 weeks but have diabetes so need regular checkups, i've missed the last 2 appointments due to moving house etc so have to go & they are probably going to tell me off.

I hope everyone is ok & the babies are all behaving themselves.

fluffnutter

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Sorry to hear you oh is being so awful to you but I don't think it's just due to autism.

I have asperger's & 2 of my son's are on the spectrum, we have trouble understanding how other people feel & seeing things from other's peoples point of view but we are not bullies.

I feel very uncomfortable seeing someone upset & there is no way i'd treat someone the way you describe.

It sounds like it's more part of his personality tbh, he may well have some autistic traits (most people do especially men as asperger's is sometimes referred to as extreme maleness) due to the lack of empathy etc.

Does anyone in his family have similar issue's? Is there anyone in his family you are close enough to confide in that could give him a kick up the backside?

I happen to agree with this Miss_Money. When you were talking about your OH's behaviour it didn't ring true with me that he had autism.

Sounds to me like he has anger management problems and that he's a bit of a bully (no doubt due to his inability to express himself effectively).

If he's serious about staying with you, then I think you should ask him to seek help with the way he behaves towards you and the kids. If he's unprepared to do this... well, you've got your answer then, haven't you.

Miss_Money

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Sorry to hear you oh is being so awful to you but I don't think it's just due to autism.

I have asperger's & 2 of my son's are on the spectrum, we have trouble understanding how other people feel & seeing things from other's peoples point of view but we are not bullies.

I feel very uncomfortable seeing someone upset & there is no way i'd treat someone the way you describe.

It sounds like it's more part of his personality tbh, he may well have some autistic traits (most people do especially men as asperger's is sometimes referred to as extreme maleness) due to the lack of empathy etc.

Does anyone in his family have similar issue's? Is there anyone in his family you are close enough to confide in that could give him a kick up the backside?

i'm sorry i didn't mean to come across as disrespectful or imply anyone else was a bully. We have cut ALL contact with ALL his family due to their abuse of him in his childhood and continuing into adulthood.
I'd like to make clear he's not ALWAYS like this but little things build and then he blows. anyway erm.. i don't really have anything else to say sorry once again.

turtlemoose

Wow it's all been on the go since I last checked on here!

Seems to be a little flurry of MSE babies on the way.....I'm keeping my legs crossed and hanging on to mine a little while longer, we don't have a cot yet!! eeek!!!

I FINALLY got discharged from hospital at 6pm last night, been sent home with beta blockers and have a home visit from MW today to check all is ok. They really p*ssed me off, after the fiasco in the first place, they then kept me in overnight on tuesday night AND DID NOT MONITOR ME AT ALL. I was awake until 3:30am (they put me on a ward where they were bringing the women in labour before transferring to delivery suite - not quiet!), I dozed off but was woken up at 5:30am by more labouring mummies - it would have been much better to send me home for some decent sleep in my own bed and make me come back first thing in the morning!

The eventually gave me some BP medication (labetalol) at 10am, told me I needed another dose at 2:30pm....despite OH chasing them, me chasing them etc, my second dose did not appear until 5:30pm, only 3 hours late eh! Absolute idiots.....I REALLY am thrown about what to do as I do not want to give birth in that joke of a hospital.....will have a chat to my MW when she comes over today....she's a bit battle-axe-scary sometimes but also really knows her stuff so I trust her opinion.

my bargain £3 changing mat from Halfords arrived today, but I am too pregnant to rememer who gave out the link, so whoever you are, thanks! It looks really handy for just popping out and about.

Also Mr Postie brought me this today - for only (inc postage) £5.99 on ebay...bargain and it's so cute!

http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay0_10751_-1_7629_10001?zmam=87452784&zmas=1&zmac=38&zmag=56014&zmak=Cosatto%20Snoozi%20Bouncer%20Jolly%20Jelly_E&zmap=KC07620&rw.cm=Google,ppc,happy+hopperz&cm_mmc=icrossing-_-Google-_-Toys%2C+Bouncers%2C+Swings-_-happy+hopperz&OVMTC=Exact&site=&creative=22561631637&OVKEY=cosatto%20snoozi%20bouncer%20jolly%20jelly&url_id=18286481&adpos=1t1&iclp=http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay0_10751_-1_7629_10001?zmam=87452784&zmas=1&zmac=38&zmag=56014&zmak=Cosatto%20Snoozi%20Bouncer%20Jolly%20Jelly_E&zmap=KC07620


Oh, and heartburn!! I've been sharing my bed with a pack of Rennie for about a month now, I find it comes whenver it wants to, despite my best efforts, so I just give in and have one or two rennies if it wakes me up.

Stretchmarks.... I got terrible stretchmarks during puberty (breasts, inner thighs, outer thighs, hips, underneath stomach horizonatally)...which was very unfair as I was very very skinny the whole time!! I think I just grew too quickly (I ended up 5ft 10). They were angry purple when I first got them but over the years have faded to pale silver, and as I am rather pasty pale skinned anyway, they just blend in and can't be seen. Pregnancy has been kind to bump (so far! with twice daily bio oil rubbings, it was on half price at lloyds pharmacy a while ago), however it seems to have re-used exactly 5 each side of the puberty stretchmarks on my hips!! So I can't complain about having NEW stretchmarks, but I still have them and they are rather angry and purple! However I'm hoping they will fade as they did before, plus I find bio oil effective at lessining the appearance of blemishes/scars etc in general with my skin so I'm cautiously optimistic about them fading again.

Right I'm off as supposed to be working from home today, not reading what you are all up to, so I'm off to get something done. Tomorrow is my last day at work, unless midwife decides otherwise today (hmmm!) ....exciting stuff!

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Miss_Money wrote: »

i'm sorry i didn't mean to come across as disrespectful or imply anyone else was a bully. We have cut ALL contact with ALL his family due to their abuse of him in his childhood and continuing into adulthood.
I'd like to make clear he's not ALWAYS like this but little things build and then he blows. anyway erm.. i don't really have anything else to say sorry once again.

No offence taken.

It sounds like it's more learned behaviour due to his upbringing in that case. As fluffnutter say's he should seek counselling of somesort after all he's going to be a father pretty soon & if he doesn't address his behaviour then he will lose his new family too.

I hope things get easier for you hun.