MSE Pregnancy Club 24

thegreenroom

happydays77 wrote: »

Can I ask everyone's opinions on something please? Honest answers aren't minded at all as I jut want to know if it's me being a weirdo.
Right, my main reason for not breastfeeding is because my DS is 12 in June. I feel this would embarrass him and as it is just the two of us i don't want to push his nose out of joint or make him feel uncomfortable in his own house. Our house isn't big and so it isn't an option to always be in a different room etc. As it is just me and him I also feel it would be nice for him to bond with his brother and he has said he would like to learn to feed, change the baby etc.
However, I have been thinking, and i do recognise that during the night and when he's at school it would be a lot easier for me to be breastfeeding than have to faff around with bottles.
Is it just me being odd thinking a 12 year old wouldn't want to see his mum bf?

I bf and I have a 16 year old son and a 12 year old son who have never felt embarrassed when I feed,I thought they might be but after the 1 st couple of times its as if they don't notice,they bring their friends into the room when I'm feeding and I have to quickly cover up with a blanket

happydays77_2

Thanks greenroom. Its nice to know that someone else has successfully done it. Ill definitely speak to him and suss him out about it. Like you say, maybe after the initial embarrassment he will be cool with it.

lisa26_2

flutterby_lil wrote: »

Does anybody know if iron tablets can give you the runs and make you feel sick? I am on day 5 now and feel rubbish.

Most people find they make then constipated but there is the occasional exception to the rule! My mum suffered with the runs when she initially started them, she had been told to take 2 tablets a day but cut down to 1 and was much better so perhaps try reducing your dose a little and see if that helps.

snoopytweety wrote: »

Ohhh and one last thing in this yet again epic post (I should log on every day and do small ones - sorry), please don't tease me, but we booked the little lady's christening the other day!!! Now to make invites, and start planning food and guest lists - do you think 6 godparents is excessive - we can't choose between them???? x x x

Blimey that's a bit organised! I'd personally be too scared to plan anything until the little monster is here safely but I guess its probably a bit different with all the problems we've had so far! I've never known anyone have more than 4 god parents but I assume there's no limit so why not!

Dinah93

My husband is Irish, and he was shocked that you have multiple Godparents over here. In Ireland you just get one and they're almost always a close family member. Both my brother and I have 3, 2 ladies and a man for me, two men and a lady for him, and that's what we're planning with our little one. How far after your LO is born are you planning the Christening Snoopytweety? Again I shocked DH by saying it's a few months over here, it's always within 3 weeks where he's from.

Icey77

I'm hoping to give the BF thing my best shot, I had a breast reduction almost 15 yrs ago so I am realistic that if I can achieve combination feeding of boob and bottle I will be doing well.

If it doesn't work out then I know that I have given it my best and woe betide any medical professional that tries to give me a lecture!!

My friends have warned me that it is incredibly hard work and although it might be "natural" this doesn't make it any easier. To my mind hats off if you can do it, no problem if you can't - as long as your baby is fed and gaining weight its all good!!!

Just my 2p worth

happydays77_2

Icey this may well be a ridiculous question. But if you combination feed do you still have to express to keep your milk supply up at the times you are using formula? That doesnt make a lot of sense does it but i know what i mean!!

jovichick123

Glad the midwife appt went well Happy

I know what you mean about feeling older, I am 31 on Saturday and feel about treble that I have agreed with DS that I will have a birthday with pressies and pampering etc but will stay age 30 as it makes me feel better :rotfl:

Gillyx

happydays77 wrote: »

Icey this may well be a ridiculous question. But if you combination feed do you still have to express to keep your milk supply up at the times you are using formula? That doesnt make a lot of sense does it but i know what i mean!!

your supply will adjust to how often you feed, so for example if you have 8 feeds a day and you chose to bottle feed 4 of those and breast feed 4, then if you keep that up, your milk should adjust to that.

Breast milk is basically supply and demand. Or that's how it should be.

Some people may just do top up though, so breast feed at the start of the feed and then give the formula after. It all depends how you want to do it.

Sammie_03

Jovichick - I have never breastfed for the same reasons as you. If people (apart from close family) ask if I intend to breastfeed I never know what to say as I don't want to feel looked down on if you know what I mean, maybe people wouldn't look down on me and it's just me being silly thinking that!! Breast-feeding. Can be such a touchy subject at times. Xx

Icey77

happydays77 wrote: »

Icey this may well be a ridiculous question. But if you combination feed do you still have to express to keep your milk supply up at the times you are using formula? That doesnt make a lot of sense does it but i know what i mean!!

Gillyx wrote: »

your supply will adjust to how often you feed, so for example if you have 8 feeds a day and you chose to bottle feed 4 of those and breast feed 4, then if you keep that up, your milk should adjust to that.

Breast milk is basically supply and demand. Or that's how it should be.

Some people may just do top up though, so breast feed at the start of the feed and then give the formula after. It all depends how you want to do it.

I'm working on the assumption that I may not be able to produce much so will have to top up with formula, the exact workings of this are still a little vague but once Elvis deigns to show up and I can attempt the BF I will try to get myself down to one of the BF clinics and capture a counsellor and not let them go until I have a better idea of an action plan