MSE Pregnancy Club 24

flutterby_lil

happydays77 wrote: »

Can I ask everyone's opinions on something please? Honest answers aren't minded at all as I jut want to know if it's me being a weirdo.
Right, my main reason for not breastfeeding is because my DS is 12 in June. I feel this would embarrass him and as it is just the two of us i don't want to push his nose out of joint or make him feel uncomfortable in his own house. Our house isn't big and so it isn't an option to always be in a different room etc. As it is just me and him I also feel it would be nice for him to bond with his brother and he has said he would like to learn to feed, change the baby etc.
However, I have been thinking, and i do recognise that during the night and when he's at school it would be a lot easier for me to be breastfeeding than have to faff around with bottles.
Is it just me being odd thinking a 12 year old wouldn't want to see his mum bf?

I see your reasoning behind this and think it is very thoughtful. Maybe drop into the conversation that you want to bf for the first few weeks and then maybe go onto bottle if it doesn't work out.

I haven't had to cross this bridge as my son is only 3 and has a thing about nipples so loves seeing my boobs lol. He keeps asking why daddys nipples are not as big as mine and will they grow when he gets a big boy hahahahah.

snoopytweety

happydays77 wrote: »

Can I ask everyone's opinions on something please? Honest answers aren't minded at all as I jut want to know if it's me being a weirdo.
Right, my main reason for not breastfeeding is because my DS is 12 in June. I feel this would embarrass him and as it is just the two of us i don't want to push his nose out of joint or make him feel uncomfortable in his own house. Our house isn't big and so it isn't an option to always be in a different room etc. As it is just me and him I also feel it would be nice for him to bond with his brother and he has said he would like to learn to feed, change the baby etc.
However, I have been thinking, and i do recognise that during the night and when he's at school it would be a lot easier for me to be breastfeeding than have to faff around with bottles.
Is it just me being odd thinking a 12 year old wouldn't want to see his mum bf?

I think your reasons are very valid, and regardless of what we think - it is your choice.

Please don't shoot me for the following.

I want to try bf, straightaway, but have this gut feeling it won't work. I am very adament that I will not be made to feel bad if I don't and infact I think one of the reasons I won't be able to is that I feel a little odd about it, and am not sure I will like it. Selfish I know but I have fought very hard to be where I am now, with a lot of tears along the way, and nothing, really nothing will ruin those first few days with my child. I feel sorry for any midwife that tries to tell me otherwise, because she will see the sharp end of my tongue. Having said all of that, if it works, and is easy going, then I will go for it!

Your body, your baby, your choice!!! x x x

flutterby_lil

snoopytweety wrote: »

Here I am Happy!!

Lisa is right - although I am now on Maternity leave I agreed to work on some projects from home for them for a couple of weeks, so have been trying to be diligent. Am bored with it now, and just want to watch daytime TV! lol

Oh and yes - tis me with a pink bump, although I have a little feeling that Lisa's might be pink too - but I think only because now I know her, I spend all my time talking about my bump as a "she", that I kinda refer to everyones as a "she".

The other reason I have been a bit quiet is that I had a Diabetes Consultant, Normal Consultant and Scan on Monday. My "little" lady is a big chunky mare!!!!! I am 33 + 2 and she nowweighs 4lb 15oz!!!! Which is not good according to the hospital. My blood sugars have been great for the last two weeks, so went on Monday feeling really positive that I could stick to the tablets, but OH NO, insulin is needed.

So I am now "officially" a type 2 diabetic (have an emergency card to carry with me and everything), and I had to go back yesterday for the nurse to teach me how to torture myself with the needles!!!!

HOWEVER (PLEASE TAKE NOTE THOSE IN THE SAME BOAT), It does not hurt! It is blummin scarey, and I was shaking like a leaf, almost passed out, which is weird because I don't mind injections, but it was the thought ofdoing them myself!

Anyway as I was saying, it readlly DOES NOT hurt, infact I can't even feel the needle going in, you kind of grip a bit of fat on your tummy, not very hard though, and inject and by holding the piece of skin I can't even feel it.

So all that worry and stress, and in fact it is niether here nor there.

Downside. I have to test my blood 4 times a day, via the finger !!!!! test - which after a week does blummin hurt - my fingers are sore, and let me tell you, if you like a squeeze of lemon on your fish or seafood, put gloves on first, cause if not all the holes in your fingers soak it up!!!

On top of the four tests a day, I have to take 2 tablets, twice a day with food, and inject three times a day. I am so glad I am at home now, which makes it easier, but I feel like I am working to a constant timetable, and the rebellious side of me wants to say "no", but this little girl clearly needs it.

Potentially though if she keeps growing (next scan in two and a half weeks) then I might have a baby in 3 weeks!! Good job I have massive OCD and am ready now, otherwise it could be a shock to the system.

Anyhoo - congrats on all the babies we seem to have had,

And a little jump up and down, and squeel for Emsbet (had a few tears again).

Ohhh and one last thing in this yet again epic post (I should log on every day and do small ones - sorry), please don't tease me, but we booked the little lady's christening the other day!!! Now to make invites, and start planning food and guest lists - do you think 6 godparents is excessive - we can't choose between them???? x x x

Wow you are defo queue jumping snoopy!!

Glad you are at home and all seems to be going well with the pr1cking your fingers and the pain is bearable.

Wow you are organised re the christening. I thought girls had 1 god mother and 2 god fathers and boys had opposite....thought there was a limit actually, maybe me that is wrong and that is what me and my brothers and sisters have and all my nephews and nieces. Maybe it is a coincidence that we all have same or maybe that is what mum told me lol.

Sammie_03

Have you spoken to callum about breastfeeding to see how he would feel? It's probably not a conversation he wants to have with his mum and if he does get embarrassed then you can end it, I think kids do grow up to fast and find certain things "embarrassing" but I also think when it comes to it children your sons age can be very mature so he might surprise you, it is entirely up to you if breastfeeding fits in with your family/routine so dont let anyone make you feel bad if you decide not to breastfeed. I'm sure whatever you decide will work out for you both. Xx

flutterby_lil

snoopytweety wrote: »

I think your reasons are very valid, and regardless of what we think - it is your choice.

Please don't shoot me for the following.

I want to try bf, straightaway, but have this gut feeling it won't work. I am very adament that I will not be made to feel bad if I don't and infact I think one of the reasons I won't be able to is that I feel a little odd about it, and am not sure I will like it. Selfish I know but I have fought very hard to be where I am now, with a lot of tears along the way, and nothing, really nothing will ruin those first few days with my child. I feel sorry for any midwife that tries to tell me otherwise, because she will see the sharp end of my tongue. Having said all of that, if it works, and is easy going, then I will go for it!

Your body, your baby, your choice!!! x x x

I defo agree with what you say - I bf my DS but only for the first 5 weeks, it was hell, so painful, so emotional and so bloody hard work. He was losing weight and never settled. My mum came on one wednesday night, i remember it as clear as anything as I rang her crying saying I couldn't cope - I was a single parent as sperm donor left me when 3 months pregnant!! - she came and gave DS his first bottle and he has slept through since - the bottle was the best thing i ever did.

I am however going to try it again with this baby, as I know it may be different and my circumstances are different too, I have a lovely man and don't have all the emotional baggage like i did last time, so i am not saying i will not bf, i am going into it openminded but i still remember the pain from last time....

serendisglair

Hiya,
def not had time to catch up!

Ioan David was born on march 1st weighing 8lb 6 oz.

The induction ended up in a forceps delivery, a third degree tear and the entire spectrum of drugs.
The first week has been hard as the drugs i am on to help heal have caused the trots and typically our baby thinks the night time is daytime :-p

love him to bits though. will share a photo when I work out how and have time

seren

snoopytweety

serendisglair wrote: »

Hiya,
def not had time to catch up!

Ioan David was born on march 1st weighing 8lb 6 oz.

The induction ended up in a forceps delivery, a third degree tear and the entire spectrum of drugs.
The first week has been hard as the drugs i am on to help heal have caused the trots and typically our baby thinks the night time is daytime :-p

love him to bits though. will share a photo when I work out how and have time

seren

Huge congrats - look forward to hearing more, get better soon x x

jovichick123

Congrats Seren Sounds like a tough week, can't wait to see a piccie

Sammie_03

Congratulations seren :j:j:j

Hope you and baby are recovering well, look after yourself. Can't wait to see the pic. Xxx

jovichick123

Might get shot down for this but....

I'm probably not the right person to offer breastfeeding advice. I didn't BF DS and I won't be doing with this one either... I knew from day one in the first pregnancy I didn't want to - a mixture of reasons really; I wanted others to be able to be involved in the feeding (OH, mum etc.), I am quite a private person and wanted to be able to feel comfortable from day one and the idea of BF in public scares the hell out of me.

I have the utmost respect for anyone who breast feeds, it's just not for me, I think it comes down to personal choice.

Having said that, I would second talking to your DS about the benefits and making him aware of why you want to BF; from that you should be able to gauge how comfortable he will be with the situation - he might suprise you and be completely fine with it

Hope I haven't offended anyone, I remember when I was pg with DS and went to an NHS class and the midwife leading the group asked for a show of hands to ask who would be breastfeeding, out of all the women there (approx 10), there was me and another lady who kept our hands down - we were social outcasts for the rest of the session