MSE Pregnancy Club 24

NBirdy

With both my daughters, I honestly didn't get that rush of love, for several weeks - I can distinctly remember the point at which I suddednly felt overwhelmingly protective and terrified for DD1, when she was about 10weeks old.

To start with I was just very shocked (fast first labour, even caught the midwife by surprise). I would never have let anything happen to her, cuddled and cared for her as normal, just the change inside me, in my feelings, didn't happen for quite a while, and I was the only one aware of that.

At the time I felt a little worried by it, although my mum had been honest with me and told me it was the same for her, and now I know it's just the way it is for me *shrugs*.

Regarding the skin-to-skin contact, my DH would be very happy to do that if I couldn't, so I'm not too worried about it. With DD2 she was plonked straight from my foo to my belly still covered in gunk, covered in a towel and left there for almost 2 hours (midwife shift change). By the time they came to take her and weigh her etc she'd peed on me twice and pooped once. We were both naked and in quite a mess by then! DH wiped her off, stuck a nappy on her and then tucked her inside his t-shirt for more cuddles while I went and had a bath

colli

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Same here, I am worried that I will compare her too much to the boys and subconsciously take it out on her. OH and Counsellor know my fears and will support me should that happen.

Aw Kitten, that's a very natural worry. My friend felt the same when she was pregnant after losing her daughter at 26 weeks, especially as she was having another girl. She was worried about nothing . The way she explained it was that she'd never love her daughter J any less or forget her but L was a different baby and whilst she loved both equally it was impossible to compare them. I hope that helps you a bit xx

Has anyone seen/tried these? http://http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B003O8LOOQ/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&m=A1MK87RFC3UYDH. The look like they'd be useful for someone like me who has got a bit carried away when buying newborn vests, I did a count the other day and I have about a thousand :rotfl:

savageHK

NBirdy wrote: »

Regarding the skin-to-skin contact, my DH would be very happy to do that if I couldn't

Does it still work this way if he's not in the room though?

dizsiebubba

To those of you who are worried about the feeling of love when you first see your baby...how do you feel about your bump?

I'm totally in love with mine already and I feel like I have part of OH with me at all times too so I have this weird lovey dovey feeling all the time at the moment - especially now I know he is my little boy! I think that I will be fine when he is born because I already love him IYSWIM...obviously I could be wrong!

savageHK

dizsiebubba wrote: »

I feel like I have part of OH with me at all times too

Ha ha... OH said to me on the weekend 'yes, but it was only one cell' - well, yes, but it was only one of my cells too!! men

LittleMoog

colli wrote: »

Has anyone seen/tried these? http://http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B003O8LOOQ/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&m=A1MK87RFC3UYDH. The look like they'd be useful for someone like me who has got a bit carried away when buying newborn vests, I did a count the other day and I have about a thousand :rotfl:

I've seen them on washable nappy sites, as washables can be more bulky than disposables so may need extenders! Was planning to see how we go before ordering any as our washables are very slim fitting Guess they'd also be useful to extend the lifetime of vests in each size though!

whowants2brich

Just to let you all know, 2.5 weeks after our little boy was born, we've finally named him...! We got discharged after 5 days, then got readmitted 2 days later - due to losing 12% birth weight, and getting jaundice levels flying through the roof. The main thing is that all is well know, and he's drinking loads (just not latching on, so we're expressing), and he's steadily gaining weight and growing lots.

If you want to update the list, his name is... Ryan Jacob...

Hope all the pregnancies are developing just fine, I haven't exactly had much time to read back on things over the past 2 weeks.

And following from above, we had to do skin to skin because he refused to maintain temperature, we weren't complaining as it was amazing holding him for the first time. My wife was out of it a lot in the first 2 days so I got a lot of bonding time much faster than anticipated. (It's about the only thing I'm pleased that the midwives in postnatal care told us, a lot of the postnatal support we received was borderline dreadful, but that's a different story. Medical care, excellent. Support, shocking!)

colli

LittleMoog wrote: »

I've seen them on washable nappy sites, as washables can be more bulky than disposables so may need extenders! Was planning to see how we go before ordering any as our washables are very slim fitting Guess they'd also be useful to extend the lifetime of vests in each size though!

Ah I see! I didn't make the connection and thought they were for dunces like me who bought too many vests in the wrong size. they might be useful if the baby takes after me, i've got a long body (dumpy legs though so I'm still not very tall)

Kitten_Pie

Glad all is going well whowants2brich and you got lots of bonding time with your little man.

Rups32

congrats whowantstobirch! great news indeed! Hope mummy and baby are fine.

i am liking my bump too and keep checking its there and ok and growing. i dont know how fast/slow it grows? today having some sort of pains. i do feel DH is there too. so lovey isnt it? sometimes i sit on the sofa staring at DH and think, wow we have made this little miracle. i am sooo soppy!