MSE Pregnancy Club 24

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Hello!

Hope everyone is ok
Ikkle glad you're feeling a bit better today.
LittleMoog hope you enjoy your scan and not too tempted to find our which team youre on
Emsbet maybe trying to jot down times he's most active? I guess the worry is you might forget to write then look back later and worry. I don't mean every kick but like say he has a mad half hour of kicking about you could maybe write the time? Maybe you might see a rough pattern. I'm not sure mine has a pattern, normally food related though! He's often quiet when my sister is here as she's so desparate to feel him move, she bought 3kg of sweets last time to get him to kick! Have you spoken to your midwife about your worries? Or are you having anymore scans? Tbh I worry that I won't notice if he's quiet, I don't really measure his movements. Since his performance, or lack of, on Saturday he's been very active :mad:
Rups I was embarrassed to tell my mum I was pregnant and telling some people. I know we've been together for a long time and living together (not married ), but still I guess people knew what we'd been up to! But I've never been embarrassed about the bump, enjoy it I've had some people ask if I'm gonna wear short tops etc. er....I didn't wear them before hand and no way now would I wear things so my belly hangs out!
Moneypenny congrats and welcome!

I have to drs this afternoon. Not really looking forward to it and I have no idea what to say. I don't want to go and look like an idiot or burst into tears. OH and my mum are very keen for me to start antidepressants, I am not so sure. I know being this teary and sad all the time isn't good for the baby. I guess I always thought when I was pregnant I would be blooming and energetic when I'm stuck indoors, not walking much and really not energetic. Feels very very ungrateful to say I'm depressed really when, touch wood, my baby boy is very bouncy and healthy.

Anyway enough doom and gloom, think I'll go in search of some brunch
Hugs to all that need them and labour vibes to the boldies xx

Rups32

welcome moneypenny. hope you are well! congrats!

The weather is making me feel bleurgh and i just feel tired today. need to buy some maternity tights as my usual ones are annoying now. Thanks for the reassurance message sexymouse. was slightly worried. yesterday my bro was saying how my niece wasnt growing much but that could be also that my sis in law was so small when pregnant. they had to keep going for scans to check she was ok. what a scary time though!

emsbet

little_miss_moneysaver wrote: »

Emsbet maybe trying to jot down times he's most active? I guess the worry is you might forget to write then look back later and worry. I don't mean every kick but like say he has a mad half hour of kicking about you could maybe write the time? Maybe you might see a rough pattern. I'm not sure mine has a pattern, normally food related though! He's often quiet when my sister is here as she's so desparate to feel him move, she bought 3kg of sweets last time to get him to kick! Have you spoken to your midwife about your worries? Or are you having anymore scans? Tbh I worry that I won't notice if he's quiet, I don't really measure his movements. Since his performance, or lack of, on Saturday he's been very active :mad:

Thanks, I have been toying with the idea of writing them down but I worry that I'll get obsessive about it and if he doesn't move one day around that time I'd panic.

little_miss_moneysaver wrote: »

I have to drs this afternoon. Not really looking forward to it and I have no idea what to say. I don't want to go and look like an idiot or burst into tears. OH and my mum are very keen for me to start antidepressants, I am not so sure. I know being this teary and sad all the time isn't good for the baby. I guess I always thought when I was pregnant I would be blooming and energetic when I'm stuck indoors, not walking much and really not energetic. Feels very very ungrateful to say I'm depressed really when, touch wood, my baby boy is very bouncy and healthy.

((hugs)) the doctor won't think you're an idiot. It's best to be as open and honest with him as you can be so that he can help you.

xx

snowyz81

Quick question, just want to see if anyone else is aware of this, or whether its changed.

When i had DD 4 years ago, i was living in St Helens and used to visit the surestart, at one of the Health visitor checks, must have been before she was one. We got 2 free piece of safety eqiptment (2 gates). I cant find anything on the website about this, so not sure if it still happens or if it was just a st helens thing?

Kitten_Pie

ikkle87 wrote: »

I'm not scared of labour per se, I'm scared that when the baby is here and handed to me I won't love him.

Same here, I am worried that I will compare her too much to the boys and subconsciously take it out on her. OH and Counsellor know my fears and will support me should that happen.

I was offered GA in theatre and although the skin to skin contact wasn't an issue I really wanted OH with me and he would have to leave if I went under. I did have lots of drugs in me and kept falling asleep, OH thought I was dying because he didn't know it was ok if I dropped off as long as I woke up to push. (This was an additional worry that no OH should have to deal with, if in a similar position let him know it is ok)

Mini_cub seems to push when I have lots of sugar, unfortunately it means that I have been having much more sugar and sweets in my diet that usual.

Rups32

eek that will make me panic.. will think about that nearer the time!

kittenpie thanks so so much for the suggestion of the comfy pants. they are amazing. i ordered last week, took a day and they were at home when i got back from work, the next day. they are so comfy, it feels like that i am not wearing them. thanks so much. xxx

Kitten_Pie

So glad you like them Rups, i now have them in every colour as do all my family. It was like a whole new discovery.

LittleMoog

Rups32 wrote: »

hehe... i weighed myself and i seem the same. i know gaining weight is sometimes indicative of the baby growing, but people can lose weight or stay the same too right?

Hi Rups, I lost weight in first trimester due to morning sickness/not eating much for about 8 weeks. I'm 21 weeks tomorrow, and I've finally started to gain weight - 3lb last week :eek: Still not back to where I started, but when I asked midwife about it she said not to worry as long as I was eating a reasonable amount and not going crazy with exercise, Beanie should be growing fine. I've got a definite bump, so baby obv growing.

NBirdy

With both my daughters, I honestly didn't get that rush of love, for several weeks - I can distinctly remember the point at which I suddednly felt overwhelmingly protective and terrified for DD1, when she was about 10weeks old.

To start with I was just very shocked (fast first labour, even caught the midwife by surprise). I would never have let anything happen to her, cuddled and cared for her as normal, just the change inside me, in my feelings, didn't happen for quite a while, and I was the only one aware of that.

At the time I felt a little worried by it, although my mum had been honest with me and told me it was the same for her, and now I know it's just the way it is for me *shrugs*.

Regarding the skin-to-skin contact, my DH would be very happy to do that if I couldn't, so I'm not too worried about it. With DD2 she was plonked straight from my foo to my belly still covered in gunk, covered in a towel and left there for almost 2 hours (midwife shift change). By the time they came to take her and weigh her etc she'd peed on me twice and pooped once. We were both naked and in quite a mess by then! DH wiped her off, stuck a nappy on her and then tucked her inside his t-shirt for more cuddles while I went and had a bath

colli

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Same here, I am worried that I will compare her too much to the boys and subconsciously take it out on her. OH and Counsellor know my fears and will support me should that happen.

Aw Kitten, that's a very natural worry. My friend felt the same when she was pregnant after losing her daughter at 26 weeks, especially as she was having another girl. She was worried about nothing . The way she explained it was that she'd never love her daughter J any less or forget her but L was a different baby and whilst she loved both equally it was impossible to compare them. I hope that helps you a bit xx

Has anyone seen/tried these? http://http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B003O8LOOQ/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&m=A1MK87RFC3UYDH. The look like they'd be useful for someone like me who has got a bit carried away when buying newborn vests, I did a count the other day and I have about a thousand :rotfl: