Please can you take your shoes off

Person_one

Any wrote: »

If you are not used to taking your shoes off it won't even enter your mind.
Also especially in heavy boots the mud get stuck in between the threat on the sole of the shoe and you don't see it unless you check them.
Again, as it is normal here not to even think about it I cannot see you do that.

It wouldn't even enter my mind to take off shoes that have a layer of mud or snow on the bottom of them? See that's insulting my intelligence, therefore reinforcing my point.

Any

Person_one wrote: »

It wouldn't even enter my mind to take off shoes that have a layer of mud or snow on the bottom of them? See that's insulting my intelligence, therefore reinforcing my point.

I am not saying you as only you as a person one.
I have seen it happen, and someone here said "if I've just been walking in my walking boots you don't want me to take my shoes off...." suggests that no, not everyone thinks like that.

peaceandfreedom

Any wrote: »

You are pointing at extreme - car with no eating no this and that is extreme. The issue here is not extreme, no one is saying that you cannot eat in living room or sit on a sofa if you have no shoes policy.

The car thing might seem like an extreme but I know people who are exactly like that with their cars. And the only person I know who is a no-shoe person is very much concerned with everything to do with house cleanliness and roars at her kids all the time for transgressing what my kids consider to be ridiculous rules.

Any wrote: »

You might have noticed that I consider house the thing to be most proud of. That does not make me cleaner freak (:rotfl::rotfl:I'll tell my hubby, he will laugh his head off) and does not mean that in my house you cannot live, move or eat.

And I would have to admit that I lean far too much towards slobbiness, I loathe housework with a passion. However, the house is generally clean and reasonably tidy but a bit of dirt doesn't trouble me.

I suppose it's just that if I'm in a very clean and tidy house, I don't feel comfortable, I am worried I'll do something to mess it up or upset the owner, I feel I have to perch on the edge of the sofa and not chill out. I think this is partly because often the owner is also not relaxed in case someone dirties their house.

I should add that if I see a house has a no-shoes rule, I would take my shoes off without being asked, but I don't like it. My feet get very chilly and I don't particularly want to walk on someone else's kitchen/toilet floors in my bare feet or socks.

Person_one

Any wrote: »

I am not saying you as only you as a person one.
I have seen it happen, and someone here said "if I've just been walking in my walking boots you don't want me to take my shoes off...." suggests that no, not everyone thinks like that.

Well, its entirely possible to walk in walking boots without them getting muddy, but you tend to get sweaty feet!

Any

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

The car thing might seem like an extreme but I know people who are exactly like that with their cars. And the only person I know who is a no-shoe person is very much concerned with everything to do with house cleanliness and roars at her kids all the time for transgressing what my kids consider to be ridiculous rules.



And I would have to admit that I lean far too much towards slobbiness, I loathe housework with a passion. However, the house is generally clean and reasonably tidy but a bit of dirt doesn't trouble me.

I suppose it's just that if I'm in a very clean and tidy house, I don't feel comfortable, I am worried I'll do something to mess it up or upset the owner, I feel I have to perch on the edge of the sofa and not chill out. I think this is partly because often the owner is also not relaxed in case someone dirties their house.

I should add that if I see a house has a no-shoes rule, I would take my shoes off without being asked, but I don't like it. My feel get very chilly and I don't particularly want to walk on someone else's kitchen/toilet floors in my bare feet or socks.

I hate housework with a passion.
In our house we are not that bothered about downstairs, only upstairs where there are high pile cream carpets. We have polished wood dowsntairs and live in the kitchen (biiig living in kitchen with aga etc:-)) and rarely go to living room. I have a carpet (beige, still curse at myself for it) there for 3 years and it needs replacing, because the entry area is different colour then the rest.

I would never argue with someone else asking me to take my shoes off.

splishsplash

Any wrote: »

If you are not used to taking your shoes off it won't even enter your mind.
Also especially in heavy boots the mud get stuck in between the threat on the sole of the shoe and you don't see it unless you check them.
Again, as it is normal here not to even think about it I cannot see you do that.

I don't have a shoes-off policy, but I would certainly let a screech if someone trekked muck or water into the house... this is why I have mats. Likewise, if I went to someone else's home, I'd be pretty sure I wasn't leaving a trail behind me. If someone has earth-filled grooves in their shoes or if they've stood in doggie droppings, then I would also expect them to take off their shoes.
That's not a shoes-off policy though.
I still think it's a social/cultural thing. My lifestyle and the energy in my household sounds very different from some here. At present, we are home for lunch. That's me and five teenagers. In a few minutes, we'll have another few teenagers calling for the ones already here. After school yesterday, my son went skateboarding for a couple of hours with four of his friends, and they all came here afterwards for a while. I don't think I'd be alive to type this today if I'd insisted on them taking their shoes off...
That's a day in the life here, it's always open house, there are always people in and out, along with the various pieces of kit that went with the current fads over the years - roller skates, roller blades, skateboards, longboards, scooters, bikes. That's aside from riding boots, muddy jodphurs, hay-covered jackets, mud-covered back protectors, etc. Floors are swept and mopped or vacuumed in the mornings, kitchen is mopped in the evenings, carpets are washed once a week, otherwise it'd done as needed.

I'm curious to know what people do with baby buggies and prams - are they not allowed in the house either?

TITEASCRAMP

Errata wrote: »

I slightly agree, except I would view it as somewhat passive aggressive behaviour. In any case, I do NOT believe any of these 'shoes off' posters would tell the Queen to take her shoes off should she decide to pop in for a cuppa.

I would.

I'm glad I started this thread as I can now see people point of view and why I may have caused offence to people in the past.
I have atmitted that I am ott with cleaning and I do have ocd's but thats just the way I am.
What I have a problem with is people who know me, know what I'm like but still try to walk past the mat with shoes on. So basically I have to ask everytime they come. Why? I really don't understand it. They've been before, they know how I feel but yet still I have to ask them. MIL is by far the worst for this.
My husband takes his off because he knows I nag, but if I didnt then he would leave them on.

peaceandfreedom

splishsplash wrote: »

That's a day in the life here, it's always open house, there are always people in and out, along with the various pieces of kit that went with the current fads over the years - roller skates, roller blades, skateboards, longboards, scooters, bikes. That's aside from riding boots, muddy jodphurs, hay-covered jackets, mud-covered back protectors, etc. Floors are swept and mopped or vacuumed in the mornings, kitchen is mopped in the evenings, carpets are washed once a week, otherwise it'd done as needed.

You are right that a lot depends on the household - I think some of the posters here who have a shoes-off policy have small children still crawling about on the floor and so they obviously want their floor to be as clean as possible. Perhaps their rules will change when those small children are teenagers in and out of the house all the time with their friends and associated outdoor equipment.

I must say you clean your floors much more often than I do, knew I was a slob.

Marisco

GracieP wrote: »

As for the germs on the soles of our shoes, the vast, vast majority of those are germs we need to be surrounded by in order to build up our immune systems. Keeping them out of our houses does us much more harm than good and is largely responsible for the rise in allergies our society is presently experiencing.

Couldn't agree more!!! We seem to be obsessed these days with "killing 99%" of germs, no wonder there are so many "bugs" around, people haven't the immunity to fight the dammed things!! I didn't realise there were so many people paranoid about their floors!!!!:eek: If folk are that fussed about marks on the carpets, then get a serviceable colored carpet for the living room! White or cream is just asking for trouble IMO!

seven-day-weekend

Marisco wrote: »

Couldn't agree more!!! We seem to be obsessed these days with "killing 99%" of germs, no wonder there are so many "bugs" around, people haven't the immunity to fight the dammed things!! I didn't realise there were so many people paranoid about their floors!!!!:eek: If folk are that fussed about marks on the carpets, then get a serviceable colored carpet for the living room! White or cream is just asking for trouble IMO!

We have always had beer-coloured carpets until we got laminate flooring