bridesmaid to bestfriend, buying my dress and she would like money as a gift

pinkshoes

I still can't believe they've asked you to pay for the dress! No matter how broke I was, if I wanted a bridesmaid, I'd pay for her dress.

I'm sorry, but I find your friend really rude! The whole point of bridesmaids are people that mean something special to you, who play a major part in your big day, and if they can't shave £100 of their honeymoon to pay for a bridesmaid dress, then they clearly don't want a bridesmaid that badly.

Present wise - just get them a photo album with some nice personal photos, and space to add more. Or an album for honeymoon photos. Or a voucher to get their honeymoon photos printed.

bouncing_bubbles

GracieP - they are putting a poem in the invites requesting money. we were discussing the wedding etc and she showed me the poem.

Thanks Pinkshoes - she is lovly just very sheltered - her parents contributed largly to her deposit for their house, paying a proportion of the wedding/hunnymoon etc. My friend has a decent job in the bank and works hard but her parents have always helped her out with the big things. I wouldnt say she is scrimping to save - they eat out or get a takeawy once or twice a week. Its not upto me how they spend their money but trying to convey that my friend isnt to hard up.

victory

It has always been a contention though who pays for bridesmaid dresses as much as it is those lovely cute page boy outfits that every mum would love her son to wear pays for and it never gets worn again..ebay appropiate but it always sells for a loss

jtr2803

victory wrote: »

A voucher for a trip to the cinema when they get back? Buy some tickets for their fav day out/show/gig?

I actually think this is a REALLY good idea and I seem to remember hearing of another couple doing it, they asked for restaurant/cinema/days out vouchers as they had saved every penny for the wedding but it gave them something to look forward to after the wedding and an opportunity to do all those things again as 'husband and wife'.

GracieP

bouncing_bubbles wrote: »

GracieP - they are putting a poem in the invites requesting money. we were discussing the wedding etc and she showed me the poem.

Oh ok, that's vile. I hate people making such presumptions. Sure gift giving is traditional for weddings but presuming people will give you something and making requests based on nothing more than that is rude.

bouncing_bubbles

I love my best friend but the whole asking for money is beyond me and personally i think the poem thing is tacky.

I thought a wedding was about celebrating the very special love of two people in the company of the people they love? To me it is anyway, its not about a flash wedding or hunnymoon or 'keeping up with the jones' sort of speak.

faerie~spangles

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