Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

Brallaqueen

Oh it's all systems go in NP Land - missed whole pages over the last few days (whoops)

Silvercar - not a nice predicament to be in, hope you don't mind but ((hugs)) for whatever you decide to do.

LydiaJ - go you hope it went ok and no-one ended up wearing coffee.

Motherofstudents - hey fairly newbie here too, they're a lovely bunch I've found.

LIR sorry to have missed your altar, bet it was gorgeous.

PN, agree with you on food for singles being more than food for couples and families. Paritucalrly unfair.

Have a great weekend everyone xx

GDB2222

I was never very good at this dating lark.

I met my wife at my vet's son's bar mitzvah do. I wasn't even invited, but my parents brought me along anyway. (My parents were invited because my mother, a gynaecologist, had had a hand in the birth.)

She (not my mother, but my vet's cousin) was a very, very striking girl, and we really hit it off. We spent a lovely time at the party. I asked her if we could meet again, but she told me that she had to go back to Israel. What she did not mention was that she was married at the time.

After she was divorced, she decided to look me up .... and we have been together nearly 35 years, now. The funny thing is that, by the time she returned a year after the party, I could remember very clearly meeting her, but not at all clearly what she looked like.

She booked us tickets for Twelfth Night at the Old Vic, and I suggested that we meet at the National Theatre for drinks and something to eat beforehand at 6PM. It shows how knocked-sideways she was by the divorce that she agreed to this time, even though she did not finish work until 6PM the other side of London. Amazingly, I was still there when she arrived an hour late. She should just have said 7PM, but somehow she couldn't do it. I remember that she used to "I'm sorry" all the time, for no good reason. She even apologised for saying that she was sorry. Is that what divorce does to people? Mess up their minds?

LydiaJ

GDB2222 wrote: »

I remember that she used to "I'm sorry" all the time, for no good reason. She even apologised for saying that she was sorry. Is that what divorce does to people? Mess up their minds?

That is what living with a hyper-critical partner does to people. There's a correlation between living with a hyper-critical partner and getting divorced, but it's not the same thing.

Thanks for your kind wishes about the coffee. I have sent you a link for "elsewhere" in case you haven't got one. Do any other of the NPT regulars not have it? Brallaqueen, am I right in thinking someone has recently sent it to you?

PasturesNew

GDB2222 wrote: »

She booked us tickets for Twelfth Night at the Old Vic, and I suggested that we meet at the National Theatre for drinks and something to eat beforehand at 6PM.

Posh alert...!!!

Best date I've probably ever had has been a pint at a local pub!!

GDB2222

LydiaJ wrote: »

That is what living with a hyper-critical partner does to people. There's a correlation between living with a hyper-critical partner and getting divorced, but it's not the same thing.

My wife's ex- was a bit free with his hands. Fortunately, she was able to escape, and fortunately I have never met up with him (fortunately for me, probably, but that is not the point).

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

Posh alert...!!!

Best date I've probably ever had has been a pint at a local pub!!

How many times have you booked theatre tickets for you and your date? That's a rhetorical question, but there's a point there somewhere.

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

That is what living with a hyper-critical partner does to people. There's a correlation between living with a hyper-critical partner and getting divorced, but it's not the same thing.

Thanks for your kind wishes about the coffee. I have sent you a link for "elsewhere" in case you haven't got one. Do any other of the NPT regulars not have it? Brallaqueen, am I right in thinking someone has recently sent it to you?

I used to say i am sorry all the time and it was my hyper critical partner who hated it and broke the habit. :rotfl: So he was good for smething.

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

My wife's ex- was a bit free with his hands. Fortunately, she was able to escape, and fortunately I have never met up with him (fortunately for me, probably, but that is not the point).

Fwiw dh says something similar and the thought horrifies me. I would prefer if we ever had the misfortune to sere him that dh was just disdain ful but polite, just behaves like he would any other horrid person. The idea of anything else makes my blood run cold. I have done everythng i can to make sure i never see the prat again apart from one thing some organised crime person i met in the aftermath offered, and something less bad my male friends wanted to do. But i did not want that either. Tbh, the whole incident feels shameful to me and i am embarrassed about it. But i suppose its part of who i am now.

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

How many times have you booked theatre tickets for you and your date? That's a rhetorical question, but there's a point there somewhere.

Its an excellent point gdb. I was nopt that into dh when we went for a drink the first time, and met him the second time because in my arrogance, i thought he was sweet and felt a bit sorry for him (oh how i cringe at that now) the third time it was because i thought he was a nice guy and maybe we would become friends and I didn't want to dent his confidence...again, what a fool i was, the fourth time...he took me to portugal. By the time we came back i was in love. .

michaels

Wow - FIR persevered for a 4th dater - you must be very special...

lostinrates wrote: »

Its an excellent point gdb. I was nopt that into dh when we went for a drink the first time, and met him the second time because in my arrogance, i thought he was sweet and felt a bit sorry for him (oh how i cringe at that now) the third time it was because i thought he was a nice guy and maybe we would become friends and I didn't want to dent his confidence...again, what a fool i was, the fourth time...he took me to portugal. By the time we came back i was in love. .