Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

lostinrates

Having a moan is not a bad thing. It sometimes creats enough steam to get up daily hills.

Not counting the beplessings of life to balance it is where disatisfaction sets in.

You seem pretty well balanced to me misskool. I am getting excited about a summer friday!

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

one of my tree peonies is in bud. I am so excited! will take a photo if i can get day release from cleaning but doubt it as I'm still having morning cuppa (and it's really late)

Oooh, which is it? I have a purple one but its at my parents house, not sure whether to fetch it or leave it....

zagubov

Cost £1500 for parents to remove 5 trees but got tons of firewood out of it!
Looking around up here and wondering for the 5000th time what's the big advantage of living in London..

Even in built-up areas here there's so much space you've not got buildings in every line of sight which I've realised is all you see in London whichever direction you look.

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

We can always site the trampoline next to the tree:)

Trampolines should always be sited as close to your own house as possible .... so many people put them furthest from the house so neighbours can spend their spare time being annoyed by noisy kids, being naughty as they're out of sight of their parents, and faces appearing every 1.5 seconds over the fence.

PasturesNew

Shipwreck Detectives on Yesterday Channel, freeview 12... it just started.

Not seen this one before - they're somewhere hot. Truk Lagoon.

SingleSue

michaels wrote: »

No amount of money would be worth not being there for my family, I wouldn't work at all if I didn't have to to provide for them.

Still Sue, PN and I can look in through the windows at the bright lights of the rest of your lives.

Talking of which, I need to have a wall light above my new desk unit (new to me, from freecycle). There is currently a wall light fitting above the desk at about 6 feet - I guess the desk is normal height about 3 feet.

Edit: Nearly forgot your Q Viva - ~Kelis is da bombe!

At one point, I was one of those in the bright lights.

I was a high rate tax payer by age 20, future looked very bright, more money than I knew what to do with, an owner occupier and had lots of choices...except one. I had been told I could not have children as the endometriosis had made me effectively sterile.

Lots of operations later, James happened and although my financial life went a little wrong from that moment on, I would not change it for the world...the impossible had happened, the million to one chance and I grabbed it with both hands. Unfortunately, with pregnancy came ill health and PND plus working for a rather un forward thinking company and rather stricter maternity leave rules than we have now, meant I could not return to my old job and had to take on any old part time job I could find to fit in with everything (early morning cleaner, late night care assistant and finally after a short break while my kidneys were in failure and had severe pneumonia and of course bad PND, a 5 afternoons a week job for a haulier)

But things did improve, along came baby number two (with a little fertility help and further copious amounts of operations) and very quickly after (with no fertility treatment or operations and despite having the contraceptive injection!) baby number 3. Life settled down, I got a secure evening shift job in my old sector which allowed extra shifts as and when I could do them during the day and our financial life improved.

Then firstly middle son was permanently excluded from school and secondly we split up.

In that last year together, his money was knocking on the door of paying high rate tax, my money was not shabby either, certainly more than what people earning minimum wage now full time would earn (my basic hourly rate was over double minimum wage rates). The following year was looking to be very good indeed with him taking over as big boss for the company he worked for which would have meant a huge huge pay rise.

And here we are to today....on benefits and hating it, finding getting a job which allows me to be here for the boys care issues (which have increased rather than decreased over the years) nigh on impossible as the only area which fits, also are aware of the boys care needs (both statemented plus James with his never ending hospital appointments/joint dislocations at school) and the amount of time I would have to take off with little or no warning.

No begger will take the two younger ones in holidays, after school etc and if I dared leave them at home alone (they are 14 and 15 now) and chanced it, social services would crucify me and I would likely come home to no home or one of the boys in hospital as they have done something very silly/dangerous or middle son has gone into an aspergic rage.


But I am still positive about the future....hence my signature.

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

I've never tweeted, so all your retweeting words are lost on me, I think you need to be on FB as well, to capture a bigger audience.

To be honest, I only tweet because one site's set up to auto-tweet.... I mostly don't even remember it's done that - and I never actually log onto twitter.

Twitter has uses.... e.g. if you were, say, running an event, you could use tweet to keep people advised of situations - e.g. tweet the length of the queue, or a new door opening, or a band about to start playing on a stage, or a surprise guest, or loos out of action, or free coffee with every panini if you show them this tweet before noon ..... information to crowds gathered - it'd be perfect. It could become part of the emergency evacuation procedure too .... imagine being able to tell everybody at an event that there was a major incident and they all needed to proceed back to their cars in an orderly fashion and await marshalls.

Same for major disasters - coach crash on the M1, 400 feared dead... phone this number for details - tweeting could keep everybody updated real time.

Race/challenge events.... participants/organisers can tweet when they reach stages.

Regular businesses could tweet last minute offers/deals... but you don't have the captive audience to make that effective. Bluetooth marketing's better for that. e.g. pasty shop, end of day, all pasties 50p.

And I am not even thinking about it.

SingleSue

Doozergirl wrote: »

Are you sure about that statement? I'm not a fan of putting people in boxes.

I'm not sure what box I fit in; like one of the nice ladies has suggested, I fit in different boxes by geography, hair colour, BMI or charge out rate. I think, I hope I know everyone here enough to know that we're each faced with our own challenges and, for those lucky enough, choices. Most, if not all, have crosses to bear. This thread makes it clear for me that none of us has the money to buy our way out of situations we'd like it to, or give us back what we've lost, and that honesty is what provides the level playing field. We're all differing ages, with differing commitments, in different areas of the land.

Numbers shouldn't be thrown around without thought. Some comes as part of conversation, some doesn't; we're all accepting of each other but, well...

It doesn't actually bother me reading about what others have or don't have, or how much they earn or don't earn...my parents taught me it is never good to be jealous of what others have as there may be another area of their lives where it is not as good and that I may be doing better.

SingleSue

Doozergirl wrote: »

Facebook is pants. It makes for nice, easy photo displays but doesn't convey a message to people unless they're already, purposefully listening. I think there's something in twitter for small businesses of a certain kind. It does give you a face and for me, after finally grasping twitter, it appeals more than being clever at google. There's something a bit more organic about it, but you have to stumble across it. It's proper networking.

Facebook is great for my site..Twitter less so but still handy.

Unfortunately I don't earn anything from it apart from thanks and gratitude.

michaels

Would it do any harm if you put ads on your site and may be split the proceeds between rewarding you for the effort you put in and a charity for those injured in the sport?

You could always run a poll on the site and see what people thought?

(Of course linking to other discussions on this board you may have an effective marginal tax rate of over 10% making earning anything pointless?)