Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

sss555s

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Natch.

Now that I think about it I did get asked by a woman if I would buy her a drink once. I think it was during a stag do in a strip club in Portugal. I don't remember what happened next....

You regained consciousness up a close, muddy knees with your pockets rifled.
Fortunately you managed to stagger back to your apartment where OH was tucked up sleeping. Quick thinking chewey then threw his jeans in a heap beside the washing machine. He knew OH would throw them in for washing in the morning and by the time chewey came round, he could blame her for washing the passport and other pocket belongings that had been lost from the night before.

Reeeeeeesult!!!

misskool

chewmylegoff wrote: »

I understand that, but i would have thought the easiest way to effect this is to walk up to someone and say "can i buy you a drink, sugartits?". do they actually just send drinks over whilst leering at you from a dark corner?

I might start sending pints of real ale over to birds to see what happens. "madam, the 'gentleman' over there has asked me to give you these three pints of hobgoblin".

both happens, some men just like sending them over, just in case.

Some will inevitably walk by, grab your bottom and ask if you want a drink with them.

lemonjelly

Wondering if anyone can help. I saw a chap walk down the road earlier this week, & on his back, he had an umbrella in a quivver type thing for ease of carrying. Brilliant for when it isn't raining/might rain/has finished raining.

Anyhows, been googling to no avail. Starting to wonder if he made it himself? Has anyone seen/aware of anything like it?

lemonjelly

BTW I should mention, we have had snow through the night & all morning. It isn't sticking, but I am glad I brought my plants in yesterday!

It is very windy too - my greenhouse blew down the garden this morning!

vivatifosi

misskool wrote: »

both happens, some men just like sending them over, just in case.

Some will inevitably walk by, grab your bottom and ask if you want a drink with them.

Might be an appropriate time to say what we do and don't like:

Don't like:
"Get your coat love, you've pulled" or any other chat-up cliche.
Drinks being sent over from the other side of the bar by a bloke you think is your Dad, then comes the slow horror when you realise it isn't.
Significantly older guys looking over, smiling and thinking that they are in with a chance. All the time you look back, thinking 'wow that's expensive dental work/hair weave, he must be loaded' but ultimately its still a no-no.
Men who get on the dance floor and then suddenly come over and start simulating sex with your thigh, or worse still, your butt.
Men conversing with our chests.
Men whose fingers show tell-tale signs of hastily removed wedding rings.

Do like:
Ordinary men who engage in witty conversation, appear comfortable in themselves, well turned out, nice smelling and preferably don't have a face like a Picasso painting.

SingleSue

Sorry Viva, trying to get information from middle son (currently in the middle of GCSEs) is like trying to pull teeth and I am not sure if James' GCSE course he did is as much outdated as the books in the library.

Your question gave me the excuse to look up on the school reporting system we parents can use to see how our children are getting on as they sometimes break down what they are currently studying in a particular subject, unfortunately, English was not one of them. However, I then looked at youngest's latest grades and begger me, he has jumped up levels in Maths and science in the last half term...for example from a 5c to a 6c in science and 5a to 6a in maths.

He is still working under his potential but at least he is starting to show them what he can do...just wish he would show his full potential as he shows away from school. Think it means he is feeling a little more settled than he has done which, when it comes to youngest, is so very important (and rare).

sss555s

Doozergirl wrote: »

Have any of you read this article? I just wondered what you thought of it?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html

It's normal that attractive, rich, nice car, nice house, nice holidays people get a bit of jealousy but it can be a good tool if you know how to use it by being humble, respectful and nice with it.

She looks like she's sending out all the wrong messages and even more people will dislike her now. Course, it's only a news paper article and not real life.

lostinrates wrote: »

Well, we have had another tender package returned with the builders declining to bid.

Its made a mockery of our closing dates and frankly, going on the one price we have had back, a mockery of our plans. Six figure number for three rooms , and services. Not sure what we do now tbh, not the house thats for sure!

Not sure what the work involves but 3 rooms isn't a big job for any contractor. I also don't think they will be in this together from my experience. I'd get other quotes and maybe try some of the larger company's. Don't get hung up on your deadlines and if anything it could give you more time to save and get your head round things.

It's not like your looking for a quick turnaround.

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

Might be an appropriate time to say what we do and don't like:

Don't like:
"Get your coat love, you've pulled" or any other chat-up cliche.
Drinks being sent over from the other side of the bar by a bloke you think is your Dad, then comes the slow horror when you realise it isn't.
Significantly older guys looking over, smiling and thinking that they are in with a chance. All the time you look back, thinking 'wow that's expensive dental work/hair weave, he must be loaded' but ultimately its still a no-no.
Men who get on the dance floor and then suddenly come over and start simulating sex with your thigh, or worse still, your butt.
Men conversing with our chests.
Men whose fingers show tell-tale signs of hastily removed wedding rings.

Do like:
Ordinary men who engage in witty conversation, appear comfortable in themselves, well turned out, nice smelling and preferably don't have a face like a Picasso painting.

Like

Nice hands.
Noce shoes,
Trousers that fit just right
Smiling.
Understated confidence.
Kindness....not to be confused with exagerrated 'chivalrous' opening of doors etc.
Decent conversation
A nice cheek kiss on introduction, hand on my elbow.

People who hold a glass correctly, and later a knife and fork.
A good, deep laugh.
Nice back of head shape.
Well read, intelligent, openminded

Don't like...

Men who speak unclearlyor grope
Bad teeth or breath.
Fat fingers, dirty or long nails. (shudder)
Weird facial hair doodles.
Bling
Any form of aggression, verbal, physical or just latent
Poor losers
Trainers or white shoes.
Any form of check being worn ( unless its a kilt )
People who teeter or slouchy hunch habitually ( tired slouch or lean dicernable and acceptable)
Drunkeness ( as opposed to drinking)


Adding: snide ness, smugness, white socks.
Greasy hair, or obvious hair product.
Would not choose, but not rule out, blue eyes.
Faddy eaters, smokers, underweight men, pushovers, closed minded, people who think the same as me too much.

Don't mind..

Occasional address to boobs, i forgive.
Older men ( with own hair or lack of)



I'll be honest, this is a very edited highlight list i will undoubtedly add to through the day.

lostinrates

sss555s wrote: »

It's normal that attractive, rich, nice car, nice house, nice holidays people get a bit of jealousy but it can be a good tool if you know how to use it by being humble, respectful and nice with it.

She looks like she's sending out all the wrong messages and even more people will dislike her now. Course, it's only a news paper article and not real life.






Not sure what the work involves but 3 rooms isn't a big job for any contractor. I also don't think they will be in this together from my experience. I'd get other quotes and maybe try some of the larger company's. Don't get hung up on your deadlines and if anything it could give you more time to save and get your head round things.

It's not like your looking for a quick turnaround.

Thanks sss.

Its not a huge job, some structural work involved. Tricky bits include taking down and rebuilding two walls while propping a roof, and taking down and rebuilding a lean too....thats less hard that bit. Services are a big chunk, some plumbing to finish, some to at this stage just put in place for furture work. Heating...thats a big part. Some joinery....new windows and doors.

Decliners includes the biggest local firm who do heritage domestic and commercial work, and a local firm who do domestic work locally and acroos the cotswolds. This part needs only some heritage work (lime mortars, but probably going with modern plaster for kitchen, utility and cloakroom, because it is not inappropriatethere)

chewmylegoff

lemonjelly wrote: »

Wondering if anyone can help. I saw a chap walk down the road earlier this week, & on his back, he had an umbrella in a quivver type thing for ease of carrying. Brilliant for when it isn't raining/might rain/has finished raining.

Anyhows, been googling to no avail. Starting to wonder if he made it himself? Has anyone seen/aware of anything like it?

i can't help you with this, but my gym bag has a mesh sling on the end in which i keep an umbrella. bloody handy, what.