Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

sss555s

vivatifosi wrote: »

I've told everyone here who I find attractive (George, Robert Downey Jr, etc). Who floats the NP's boats (or swan pedalos)?

Good question and I'll have to think about it.

Funny how you name actors. Actresses would, on the whole be one of the least fanciable types I could think of.

If you're really feeling that naughty then your welcome to abuse my PM box :beer:

PasturesNew

I don't know if it's still the case (can't see that it would have changed), but at Cambridge you weren't ALLOWED to have a car - even if you kept it well away from the College. So, even if you had a house 2 miles away, with a driveway and everything..... undergrad = no car. I think you also had to live within the sound of the bells of some church (might have been St Mary's? Maybe the one on the Market Square?)

But that was 30 years ago.... I believe some things in the world changed a bit.

lostinrates

chewmylegoff wrote: »

plus if you have a car at uni all your mates constantly pester you to drive them around the place and then get all grumpy when you wont do it, a couple of mates who did have cars at campus universities used to moan about it all the time.

i suppose the only advantage as a parent is that you don't need to drive up there yourself to cart all their possessions about the place at the end of the year.

Haha. I took a car and a lorry. Needed a one way lift when could not drive both myself. Sometimes did train it though.

I did the carting about in my car though, its true. Also stopped me drinking a lot, which is good, and let me get a good job with undociable hours, then my own start up. Could never have done it with put transport as needed to be mobile and independant at awkward times and with no delays

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

Yes, he's applied 3 years in a row, determined to get an oxbridge acceptance, which he didn't get - cos he did not do a stroke of work at school.

Ouch.

Well, i guess there is a lesson in that that will do as much for his future as oxbridge would have done.

Has he used the time well?

lostinrates

Can it be a fictional person viva? Jem merlyn ( without the silly name ) from jamaca inn may be? But i think i'd get bored of that flight of fancy. Yes, bored now even before posting it, wore it out.

zagubov

Leeds, Sheffield, Nottingham, Cardiff, UCL to choose from. Staying in halls for all five choices, so she can live independently.

Much to agree with the other parents here. A faraway one = car problems. They're all cities so parking problems loom large.

If it were up to me and all else was equal I'd push for UCL and Cardiff for logistical reasons. But who listens to their old dad?

lostinrates

Just had a look at the mary portas knickers on the liberty website. She wants us all to wear british knickers and support british business. I think thats laudable, the knickers run from size xs to l, l being a 14 according to size guide. If supposedly half of british women are a size sixteen or over, then it seems not all will be buying th ebritish made knicks, a statistical problem for mary's aims?

They do look like nice knickers though. http://www.liberty.co.uk/fcp/categorylist/designer/kinky-knickers?resetFilters=true&designer=true#filters=AVAILABLE_SIZE!l

lostinrates

Oh, another book one...For viva... Forgotten his name...the man who made husbands jealous.....nice but dim and god like. If its raw fanciabilty godlike beauty probably would do it.

silvercar

lostinrates wrote: »

Silver, i do not disagree with any of those points, i think they are all absolutely on the mark...that is not why i asked...( and in fact in most cases, but not all.....i would not have managed without a car, i know it would have severly hampered both education and career, bu i was in the sticks, not normal un)

Apart from point number two, and in a way, seven....., i agree in any case, and its not that i argue against those points exactly.

They are your kids, but......they are also now adults. I can imagine its the most difficult thing to do, to watch the kuds you have invested so much...emtionally and practically in make decisions about their careers and adult life.....and driving! If there were particular reasons not to want someone to drive, i might wonder if, for example, i wanted them to be where i could not get to help them on another continent as a 'dependant'.

Practically the ramifications for the natural protectivity, (not the not providing them with a car, which i see as a separate if related spthing) can be large, though i accept my vantage is skewed! My mil felt the same particularly about driving, so much so her other two children still do not drive...because they are stuck in the frame they were in when she died while the eldest two were students.
The driving i guess is a very common example of what can be a greater ( natural ) potentially hampering effect.

Difficult age....for parents as well as kds i guess!

They both drive, in fact they drive a lot from/ at home. They do travel independently. Eldest (now 21) has stayed in Berlin for a month, done a uni exchange in China and travelled around Brazil, as well as the usual festivals here and abroad. Youngest (18) has also holidayed abroad with mates. They do make independent career choices too, I wouldn't have chosen psychology as a subject to study. All parents have to choose where to let go and where to rein in and my issue is with having a car.

It also comes down to not spending unnecessarily. We don't want to be running 4 cars with the extra running costs, insurance etc when they can manage perfectly well to share when they are both at home.

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

They both drive, in fact they drive a lot from/ at home. They do travel independently. Eldest (now 21) has stayed in Berlin for a month, done a uni exchange in China and travelled around Brazil, as well as the usual festivals here and abroad. Youngest (18) has also holidayed abroad with mates. They do make independent career choices too, I wouldn't have chosen psychology as a subject to study. All parents have to choose where to let go and where to rein in and my issue is with having a car.

It also comes down to not spending unnecessarily. We don't want to be running 4 cars with the extra running costs, insurance etc when they can manage perfectly well to share when they are both at home.

Hmm. I hoped i had made clear i was not criticising, just asking why and wonderig what the answer would be. Perhaps i didn't make it clear i was not meaning to be being critical.