ex partner wants half my benefits for my son???

Dognobs

My point is very valid. She is happy to get EXTRA benifit and we are only hearing one side of the story.

kelloggs36

If you apply to the CSA they would take account of the 3 nights per week that he has your son, but he would still be liable to pay you maintenance for him - he is NOT entitled to claim any of the benefits for him because as he stays with you for the majority of the time, YOU are considered to be the main carer. If he earns 3k per month net, for 1 child with overnight stays of 3 nights per week he would have to pay you £59 per WEEK. Now that is double what he is giving you for 1 child. If he pays for 2 children then it will be more - they will work it out exactly for you. Obviously if he takes home less than 3k, then the maintenance will be less, but in short, legally you have a case to claim maintenance from him, not the other way around!

System

Carl31 wrote: »

Always nice to see a father using his kid to try and make money :mad:

Wow an NRP trying to play dirty like a lot of PWCs!

Vejovis

!!!!!! wrote: »

Wow an NRP trying to play dirty like a lot of PWCs!

like most NRPs

Empty_pockets

Might not be law but but it is more than fair to split the benefits.

Many on here profess how they are needed so the child can be provided for...well what happens when the child is with the other parent? Surely they still need providing for.

I can see the other side as i'm in that situation. Of course thier mother has primary care but I still have to fund a 3 bed house, i still have to fund food and clothing for them, I still have to fund trips, entertainment, birthday presents and christmas with no assistance whatsoever.

Why should the benefit not be shared?

Simple way to do it would be to decuct 50% of any child related benefit (not to inc housing etc) from any maintaince award.

Those that use private arrangements would have to decide between themselves.

seven-day-weekend

I actually don't see why she should have full-time child Benefits if her son is only living with her for 2/3 of the time. The dad obviously earns too much to be entitled to any benefits and I agree he should pay pro-rata maintenance, but full-time money for part-time childcare is not on imho.
The law however, says she is entitled to this so my opinion is not really very important.

sunnyone

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I actually don't see why she should have full-time child Benefits if her son is only living with her for 2/3 of the time. The dad obviously earns too much to be entitled to any benefits and I agree he should pay pro-rata maintenance, but full-time money for part-time childcare is not on imho.
The law however, says she is entitled to this so my opinion is not really very important.

Too true, especially in this case where she is most likely claiming DLA and the enhansed rate of CTC for him yet she dosnt have him for a large part of the time.

gravitytolls

Dognobs wrote: »

So what does she do with the surplus cash she has not looking after her son for 3 days a week?

Presumably her only saving on those nights are a meal, lighting in his room and some soap and toothpaste. She still buys clothes and shoes, whatever his needs require etc. I doubt the savings amount to enough for a Chinese takeaway, never mind the oodles of teat money you imply she's getting.

Not the embittered ex are you?;)

DaisyFlower

Does he have to pay for childcare given he obviously works?

It does seem unfair you are claiming everything and now trying for carers allowance yet the child is in anothers care for almost half the week.

paddygirl

Dad should be paying maintance

Dad is doing what any parent should do and that's care for a child even though he's a non-resident parent. Nothing special in that.

Dad is not entitled to a percentage of any benefits.

take control of the situation and tell him to grow up!