When to stop giving birthday presents

Linda32

EstherH wrote: »

Do any of these nieces and nephews that are now grown up buy for their aunts and uncles?

If on becoming adults and starting work they reciprocate the present buying all well and good. But I don't think it is right to keep buying for grown up children and them expecting it if they aren't buying something back. And I know it isn't about giving to receive.

I agree with you. We both get presents from OH's Sister and
b-i-l (OH's nephews I mentioned above, their children) the presents are labelled from all of them, I suspect the parents do the buying
but thats upto them. We havn't got children so I don't know how things stand with them paying.

ladylouise62

As a rule I'd probably say 18 (although a reduced present), although for most of my nieces and nephews I took it through university as well. Should any of them complain about the situation, how about suggesting that as they are now adults they would be expected to reciprocate

balletshoes

we stop at 21 for nieces and nephews. both christmas and birthdays.

Pink.

Hi jas,

As your thread has dropped down the Old Style board I've moved it over to the
MoneySaving in Marriages, Relationships & Families to see if you can get some more replies.

Pink

victory

18 as many other posters have said, xmas and birthdays and no presents unless it is a big one 21 etc just cards:D

geri1965_2

I have a nephew and two nieces - my nephew was 18 in March so my dad has stopped giving to him, however, it seemed wrong to miss him out and give his two sisters something so I have carried on. Yes he is technically an adult but he still lives at home, the only job he can find is delivering take away food in the evenings, so he isn't very well off. He's a good lad, never been in any trouble, despite not having a dad and my sister living in a really rough estate for most of his life, so I figure that as long as I can afford it and he needs it I will carry on.

jokeyjo

i stop at 18 for both xmas and birthday i would have bought for my brothers 21st this year but after his kick-off over no xmas pressie he can shove it

FatVonD

In DH's family it stops at 18 but with a bigger than usual cash gift on their 18th birthday

*max*

Unless you have a large family and/or can't afford it, then never! It's not a rule that you have to stop giving presents when people reach a certain age. If you want to, do it. If you don't, don't.

Caroline73_2

I don't understand why people are are stating ages. We give based on whether we regularly see , what our relationship is like and level of gratitude. The same as with friends. Age is irrelevant to me.