17 years old, pregnant...

missbishi

louise3965 wrote: »

Gawd no she didn't, an angel came down and put a baby in her tummy Babies dont just happen you know, there has to be a sperm fertilising an egg. Quotes like that make my blood boil, its not a primark t shirt she just bought on a whim, or a bus she missed cos the sink overflowed, its a baby. With no means of being supported whatsoever.
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What I meant was that she got pregnant BY ACCIDENT, ie, it was not her intention to do so.

I do hope this explanation cools your blood down :eek:

babysteps24

can you spruce up your wee room at the inlaws, to make it feel a bit nicer, clean the walls and put on damp proof paint etc, just to make it nicer while you are there

tescobabe69

missbishi wrote: »

What I meant was that she got pregnant BY ACCIDENT, ie, it was not her intention to do so.

I do hope this explanation cools your blood down :eek:

It is virtually impossible to get pregnant by accident.
Or are people having sex by accident nowadays?

Plans_all_plans

Well I got pregnant in my final year at uni...I can assure you it was an accident and precautions had been taken.

And anyway, even if the OP deliberately got pregnant or wasn't careful, it doesn't change the fact that a baby's on the way!

Good luck OP, it's not easy, but if you're determined you'll do it! Try to get some work experience temping before the baby comes and I think you should stay put with your b/f's parents for the time being!

elvis86

darlyd wrote: »

God i remember how easy it was for me when I was just 17 and pregnant. I love with my then bf in a one bed flat. He went prison I got a bedsit then found out I was pregnant. I got a 2 bed council flat within days. That was 13 years ago. All changed now.

Ah, the good old days...:cool:

I for one am glad to hear that spreading your legs no longer automatically entitles a teenage girl to a 2 bed flat and a load of money.

Gillyx

I would be another one who would say stay put if it's possible at all. I'm 35 weeks pregnant with my first child and only found out when me and my OH had already moved into our first place (a rented 1 bedroom flat) I had quit my job to move across the country to be with him, and thought with 7 years of retail experience, management experience within retail etc I'd find a job fast, sadly the market here is dire and I couldn't find anything. So I do understand how difficult it is, but I'd give anything to have a job at the moment, as being in the house 24/7 while your partner is at work is hard, so if there is any way of you finding something, try, try, try.

We do struggle and it isn't easy, my partner works almost full time and is in the final year of a intense degree, obviously we also have student loan to help us out, but it's not easy with money, we've had to rely on others to help buy all the "big" things we needed for baby, although we're finally sorted now.

So if you can stay within the family home and save as much money as you can for baby and to see you through he/she's first year of life without working, do it. I'd also say get on the housing lists NOW, even if it seems like it'l be forever and a day before you get one, it's still a better prospect than not being on the list at all. Good Luck xx

onlyroz

Do you work, or have you worked at all in the last year? Because if you have then you might qualify for Statutory Maternity Pay or Maternity Allowance.

peachyprice

tescobabe69 wrote: »

Or are people having sex by accident nowadays?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Oooh, I slipped and fell on a penis today, will I get preggers?

Gigglepig

Some people are pointing out that the baby was an "accident". It may be harsh, to say this, but even if the conception was by accident, however in the UK having a baby is a result also of subsequent choices and decisions (morning after pill, abortion, adoption, private fostering...).

Anyway back to the financial/practical situation. I hope that the OP and boyfriend have supportive families, it sounds like they will need any support they can get. It sounds like good advice to stay at home for a while and save as hard as possible.

When the time comes to look for rentals, the renting and buying board is helpful. There many expenses to take into account (deposits and agency administrative fees, costs and logistics of viewing places and moving, initial payments on utilities, potentially appliances and furnishings etc). I'd strongly recommend having a savings "buffer" since there are very likely to be unforeseen expenses.

OP do you have an older sibling or relative who could sit down with you and show them their housekeeping budget? It may be useful to see what the different outgoings are for running a home, and approximately how much. If not, perhaps look at the other boards here for information, and post a budget to see what you need to take into account? If you are only 17 and living at home it is not to be expected that you are already an expert on these things, but it is a huge advantage to find out before you move out rather than the hard way when you are on your own.

Basically, even if you can only get a little temping work, it is a golden opportunity to save some money now before you have the costs of running your own home and a baby.

In short, live at home as long as you can, and make/save as much as you can!

Good luck OP.

dizziblonde

peachyprice wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Oooh, I slipped and fell on a penis today, will I get preggers?

Waiting for this to be the next daytime TV no win no fee claims advert...

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