MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

duchy

Finally the girls are getting the support they need !!

As for that daft mare-take no notice Mooloo some people turn on their PCs and turn their brains and compassion off at the same time !!!

Savvy_sewing

MatyMoo wrote: »

I have been lucky enough to meet Mooloo and DGD (& Molly ) in the flesh and it is obvious that they have a great bond. All children have their challenging moments, especially when tired, but I wouldn't say that DGD is any more challenging than other children I have come across.

Mooloo, good luck with your interview next week, it really is wonderful news that you feel up to giving voluntary work a go. :j

You must be breathing a huge sigh of relief that the twins are getting some much needed outside help at long last.

Thanks MattyMoo.
Hope that things are going well for you as well. Where has the time gone since you came to visit. Hope the dog is doing well.
Molly and I havent managed to see as much of each other as we would have liked, but we are still best of friends, and we know that the other is there if we need them. That is a good feeling.

I am thrilled that the twins are going to get the help that they deserve. I have fought for them for many many years now. They are going to be 24 in November. Its been a very hard slog. The release of stress and time, will be monumental to me. As I said to the carer that I met. My visits can be for pleasure soon instead of for crisis.
I am hoping that we all have a good christmas together this year. Something we havent done in 7 years or so.
Its all been very bitty. Last time twin1 was with me, the first year DGD came to me, we were all ill with the flu. So no celebrations. Once the presents were opened we were no good for anything. I probably documented it on here somewhere.

I didnt take any offence at the comments, I explained the way I am, and if I am going to put my life out here then I expect some flack. I have a broad back, and I can see things from all the angles that are presented to me.
I cannot always react the way that I should, but I try.
On the whole I am pleased that things are now improving and that the battles I have faced are beginning to be won. If I had been stronger, perhaps I could have taken on board more of the comments and followed through with some of the actions, but at the times, I was either too bogged down, or in denial perhaps. But the good thing is that things are now much more on track and life has improved considerably.
There is probably a long way to go, but look what I have tackled over the years. If you knew the history of me as well, then you would understand that I have been through a hell of a lot. But the history is going to stay buried now. I am pleased that I am not where I used to be, lets just say that.
Onwards and upwards..

SuziQ

In answer to sparklebaby, when I was health visiting, I went on a course once, run by one of the few very down to earth social workers I ever worked with. He said that you should look at childcare like a pyramid. At the bottom, is the solid care, the love, the acceptance, encouragement etc etc that happens on a daily basis. At the top, you may see a parent or carer who occasionally snaps, shouts, swears, even smacks a child. When that child has a bedrock of loving care however, they will come to no harm. Honestly believe that, have seen it both in my career and amongst friends and family, and I honestly believe that is what Mooloo's DGD enjoys.

Jo4

Mooloo good luck for Tuesday, I hope all goes well for you!

Savvy_sewing

Well we had a good weekend. We went for a drive, and a walk down by the canal in Aynho. DGD loved it. Looking at the boats, the railway trains going by etc. Lucky we went Saturday and didnt wait for yesterday. She was rather bored in the house with all that rain. Trying to keep her occupied was the main part of the day. I was sewing my patchwork, the hand sewing, while watching the Grand prix. She played with some cardboard wings, and jumping off of the chairs! She was flying she said. Mind you the exercises was good for her. She was up and down the steps to her chair for absolultely ages. Must have been best part of an hour.!
We had the playdough out, and some other craft things for her to do. But I didnt want to get the paint out, as I had spent so long cleaning up the mess from the last time!. She loves to mix it all up. So I prefer her to paint when its a lovely day, and we are able to use the garden.

Today I have my appointment with the Head of the Childrens Services. To explain what I felt went wrong etc, and to help them to make sure that its not the same for eveyone!. mmmmmm
I havent prepared anything. I didnt want to get all stressed out about it. I will just see how it goes.
Right, I have been up for an hour and a half and I am still not dressed. Had my cuppa and my shower, then been checking on my post etc. I stayed off of the computer for the best part of the weekend. Gave me back a lot of my time.
Saturday morning DGD helped me to clean up in the kitchen. We had a good go at the floor. On our hands and knees as I dont have a mop. But she had fun cleaning the cupboard doors etc etc.
Right time to get on, get dressed and get her up. Typically she was up at 6.45 on Saturday, and today she is still asleep at 7.30! Oh well.

Savvy_sewing

Just got back from my visit to the local head of Childrens Social Services. With a stop off to loan the bus fare to twin1 to go and sign on, and similar for DS to get electric and loo rolls! Great.
The carer for twin1 was there, and so was twin2. So between all 3 of them, with a witness, I once again told them that actual this time Mum is not going to help anymore. I expect the money back on Payday, and that they will have to now do without. IF they havent got it, they will have to do without. Now i just have to remember that and stick to it!!
I was just short of two hours with the Social.
I had a very frank discussion. It was noted that obviously she couldnt repair the damage that had been done over the situation, but she listened, and took notes about where things went wrong, my opinion, and a lot of my suggestions. She said what I said was a valid point on several occasions. They have already implimented changes since our last meeting, and although I will not benefit from it, she is looking to make sure that others do not go through the same as me.
She is also sending someone from the new team that she has set up, to come and have a chat.
It may even be an option that I will go and give/talk to other workers and tell my side of things. (I said for a Fee I would come in and advise). I have seen the system from a Grandmother, a foster carer, a mother dealing with their children. And of course the adoption side too.
Twin2 is having her meeting with the Liveability charity and her social worker on Friday afternoon. This will hopefully put her carer in place, and the carer for twin1 thinks that she may be assigned the sister as well. So she would do 3 hours with one and then go and do 3 with the other. ! She will need some stamina!
Right I have 15 minutes to drink my tea, and then go and collect DGD from her first full day at school.
Catch up later or tomorrow.

Savvy_sewing

had my little visit to the offices of Liveability. Offered my services, come back with a volunteer form. etc. Feel quite excited that I may be able to do a few hours to help out. etc.
Did my first sewing lesson, but alas it wasnt as smooth as I would have liked. I Hadnt had time to use the machine since it came down from the attic, and the tensions were all wrong, so it wasnt as plain sailing as it should have been. But never the less, we had a start, and she seemed to have gone away with some enthusiasm.
Then i went for my back massage. Its been a while since I had that so it was lovely. I also had a mini manacure and pedicure. Never treated myself to these things before. So now I am feeling all relaxed and Fabbed.

geminilady

Hope you are ok noticed you have not poste for a while

minimoneysaver

I was thinking that too. Big hugs to you Mooloo. X

Savvy_sewing

Hello, sorry I have been missing in action. Spending far too much time running around after the children. But I had the weekend off, as DGD went to grandad. Mind you he returned her 2 hours late last night, and then also said that as its getting busy at work, the winter coming, that they will not be having her until next spring etc. He works on the road maintenance vehicles. So gritters etc and the cooler weather means he is on call apparantly.
Well that blew the idea of him having her for one weekend a month. Blown that one out of the water somewhat. Considering that he was going to take her on holiday in the summer as well, and he didnt. I am not surprised.
Well I went to London for the day on Saturday.! eek.
I did the London Eye. Wow. It was very MSE, as we had free tickets from a contact from a friend of a friend!. Even got fast tracked and didnt really have to cue.
Went to the embankment, the Houses of Parliament, St Katherine's dock, passed downing street, the Natural History Museum, and even Trafalgar Square.
With a train ride here and there inbetween.
A very exhausting day, but well worth the time.
We also had dinner at a Jamie Olivers, in Stratford. With a discount as a relative works there!.
So although I have come back, and there is not a bit of me that doesnt ache. It was good.
I have never walked as much on one day, in 5 years I do not think. I had to take all my tablets and a few more. sssshhh don't tell the doctor.
Good job I didnt get DGD back until last night as I could hardly move yesterday. I had a hot bath first thing in the morning as the sciatica etc was rip roaringly OW.
Today I struggled to get DGD to school, but i did walk it.
My estranged/ex Hubby came around this morning with his copy of the letter for the divorce application. So that I could help him fill it out! Strange really. Oh well at least I know he is not contesting it, and that its now signed sealed and in the post to be delivered!.
I am trying to keep an eye on the finances, as I am still trying to get back on track. Not doing too badly but the funds for DS's JSA have not arrived in the bank, so trying to get hold of him to let him know. I still ended up making sure that the money he owes is paid out. But it does mean that now he is owing me some, if its not in today it will leave me out of pocket until its in.
He did ring me at the weekend wanting to know how much money he would have left, I had to remind him of the money that he already owes me etc from the last of the borrowing, and that there wouldnt be any left.
I am sticking to my guns and not letting any of them have any more money. I know that twin2 has limited amounts of food, and DS is in a similar situation so its going to be a tough one not to help, but I have to try and keep my money for us. Its not as if I am getting a fortune in after all.
I havent heard back from the Charity yet. Had to fill in the forms for the CRB check on line on Thursday. Trying to remember my addresses for just the last 5 years was bad enough.
I have put you down as a reference Molly. Hope that you dont mind.
So I am now awaiting for the results etc coming back before I can do any work with them.
Now I am going to have another hot bath, and get the joints working better if I can. I have just over 2 hours before I have to go and collect DGD. And I am going to just continue to have a leisurely day, until the body gets its self back to normal.