MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

Sorry that my DD has not been able to help last week. She has had a number of assignments and a very bad cold to boot. Hopefully back to normal in the coming week. Sorry you are feeling out of sorts x

Hi Molly, you dont need to apologies, I completely understand. I was just saying how I miss her when she isnt here. She has been around for 2 years!.
Its Biggest of Mooloo's birthday today!.
Must give her a quick call before she goes off to work for the day. Will be seeing her tonight. If all things go to plan.

DS's JSA has still not been paid to him. It is now a Month since he had any money. I really dispair. I know he signed on, as I have been taking him. ITs really unfair. What are they supposed to live on? They ran out of electric, and I know that the food is limited and not healthy enough. Which is why they are all subjected to colds etc. There is no heating in twin2's house, as the Gas supply has been capped off. (Due to her not using it, and the daily standing charges were adding up, so she owed too much!). I give up.
Biggest of Mooloo and I are going to see about each of us taking over one of the twins funds and setting up the bills etc. Also to make sure that they have somebody with them to do a food shop to make sure that there is enough food for them. We are going to discuss the details next time we get a chance. probably on Friday.
Right time to get DGD ready for the school run.

Savvy_Sue

Could be a good idea for you and Biggest to help one twin each, however aren't their support workers able to help with budgeting, finance, bills etc? I can see they might not have time for a food shop, or even able to 'direct' them to healthy food as directly as you might like, but we were hoping you could step back there!

Savvy_sewing

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Could be a good idea for you and Biggest to help one twin each, however aren't their support workers able to help with budgeting, finance, bills etc? I can see they might not have time for a food shop, or even able to 'direct' them to healthy food as directly as you might like, but we were hoping you could step back there!

I too had hoped that things would be handled with their carers. However at the moment it isnt looking like its being tackled. I cannot keep letting them run out of food, electric etc and with the winter coming on, I am worried. I will be talking to them, and the carers as well as Biggest to sort things out the best way.
I would love to "walk away, or hand over" this to someone else, but at the moment its a problem that needs action.

I have just lost my temper with twin1. DS had double booked himself, and so I asked her if she would come over and look after her daughter tonight. She refused. She said that she had made plans with her sister, and she wouldnt help me.
I said " I forgot she is my daughter not yours, and its my responsibility, forget it. Forget it all, I will look after her."
I am not going to rush to get her to and from her daughter anymore. She really is a bit of a remote person, which even though I know she had problems, I still cannot fathom out.
She used to come over twice a week, but now we are lucky to get the one night. Which is luckily going to stop soon anyway, as I dont need to look after DGD2 after she starts Nursery next month.
I feel like re arranging Friday, and taking DGD with me to collect DGD2, and come straight back for the school. Bit unfair on DGD really, but it would show the Mum that she is not needed!!
But can I carry on the bad mood with the Mum? Probably not. I am so soft at times.
Have a small sewing repair to do this morning for one of the Mums. So I am off to do that.

Errata

It sounds like mum is slowly distancing herself from DGD. Would that be such a bad thing? You can't make her feelings towards her daughter what she can't feel. IYSWIM

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

It sounds like mum is slowly distancing herself from DGD. Would that be such a bad thing? You can't make her feelings towards her daughter what she can't feel. IYSWIM

Yes I suppose your right. It just seems so sad that she has "given up" on wanting to have more input with her daughter. DGD loves her Mummy, and misses her, and askes after her most of the time. Although she knows that she cannot live with Mummy, she still wants to be able to visit and for Mummy to visit her.
Its a pity as the other twin would give her I teeth to be able to be with her sons more! The irony of it all.
I feel still very guilty that I didnt have the strength or health to have the boys. Twin2 really gets cross with her sister for the same reasons as I do. (and the rest of the family for that matter).
Luckily DS is coming, well I am going to get him at 4pm after I have collected DGD from school.
Of which I better get going. I walk to school when ever I can. umbrella time though as there is a huge black cloud just over head.

Savvy_sewing

Well DGD behaved for her Uncle, and I had a great night out with my eldest daughter. We had a really lovely meal in Town, with half a dozen of her friends.
I really enjoyed a girly night out. Havent had one of them in years.
Although I am very tired today.
The Charity rang me yesterday and I went in for a meeting this morning, then this afternoon after I had taken DS back home, I was in the charity shop, sorting out the layout/ etc etc. And starting to put my ideas into action! I had a great time, and working with some of the Customers of the charity was good.
I am very very tired and sore now. But thats only to be expected I suppose.
I was at the doctors this afternoon. They are going to research into my documents and come back to me, to see where my diagnosis has been mis diagnosed. I have been treated for the wrong condition for the last 4 or so years it seems! So I want to find out why, and also see if the Nuerosurgeon saying that I have to just learn to live with the pain is actually all that can be done.
Although I am learning to live with the pain, and been on the pain management courses, the councilling and everything else to try and get better. It is a shock to know that I have been on the wrong diagnosis and medication all this time.
I dont really know what to think or say about that at all!

Errata

It sounds pretty awful, what diagnosis have you been given to replace the wrong one and have you been taken off all the wrong meds?

Savvy_sewing

Had a rough night. My brain was all over the place, I just couldnt stop thinking about what was to be done etc, from the shop to the house to the home decoration etc etc. And a lot more as well.

The doctor is going to ring me back, as I was not with this practise so he needs to go through my medical records etc and see whats happened. Look for the first MRI scan etc.
I am still on the same medicines at the moment, as I would need to be weened off of any that I take that I may not need anymore, but for the moment as I have been improving I am staying on the same.
But it doesnt answer the problem that I am getting all this pain, and where I am getting it, and of course if I dont take my medicines for more than 8 hours I am in a stonking mess. So we will just have to see what he said.
The hospital had said that the meds are all basically painkillers so that as far as he was concerned they would do me no harm! As its pain that I suffer. But he was so dismissive that it really confused me. If he did give the condition a name I cannot remember it. But hopefully this doctor here will set me on the right road. If not it will be as they said, something unexplained that they cannot do anything about, as apparantly 5% of the EU population have. Well I pity the others in that group, if they are suffering the same as I have suffered, and I want to know why I am in Pain. Doesnt everyone?

On a good note today is the last of my Councilling sessions. So I will be freer on a Wednesday to arrange my day better.
I have the hairdresser and to collect DS to take to sign on.
Yesterday we managed to get his money sorted out and he was paid. Although he owes it all to me really, as I have still been paying off his debts etc by DD. But I will only claw back some of it each week, and let him have a bit to survive on, or he will just be borrowing again.
He is going to need the busfare by next week, as I wont be going into town for a start.
I still havent spoken to twin1 since our arguement on Monday.
I will just have to wait and see I suppose. If the worst comes to the worst I will have to get DGD up early, and dressed for school, take her to Biggests with me, collect DGD2 and come back here to drop her at school. Not something I want to drag her through, but it could just about be done, if the traffic isnt too bad.!
I just don't want to be doing that to the pair of them, it will upset both hers and the babies routines, not to mention be a lot of extra drving for me, which sets my pains off.
Twin2 rang to tell me she has a job interview at the new Pizza place in town on Thursday. She sounded keen anyway.
Now its time for me to go and get todays kickstarted. Have a good one everyone.

Savvy_sewing

Well the day was a little slower then normal as Biggest of Mooloo's rang me and she was going into town, so she collected DS for me, and brought him in. It meant that I was able to go to the town straight from the hairdressers. We had time to have a snack together, and wonder around the market and Primark. I bought a dress for DGD to go to her school disco tomorrow. I rarely buy her clothes just for a one off occassion, but thought for once I would treat her. Although her Wonder Woman outfit arrived for The Hero day at school on Friday, so she is wearing it now!.
I talked with the Doctor, and he said that the diagnosis seems to have "slipped into" the records some how and that he would like me to get a double slot and go and see what the medications are that I am on, and he wants to examine my neck himself, etc and see if he can help me. So I will get an appointment and see him asap.
I rang the Charity to see if things were OK. She said that she had the note book and notes that I had made, and that the other volunteer that was there was "enthused" by my input, and that the takings were £24 ! Oh dear very low I thought. Then she said it was better then the day before that only took £6.80! and the day before that only £1.60!
Lets hope that I can do a lot better then that for them. What a pitance. I will have to rally around the town and remind them that they have this little shop on thier door step, etc.!! Although I think that I will have to ask persmission to do anything official.
Meanwhile tomorrow I am going to their sort room to see what they have to add to the shop and see if we can get some new stock in there.
Right time to cook the dinner.
p.s. councilling was a summing up. Felt a bit ddrained afterwards, and told him I feel a bit scared about not having him to follow my problems and show me the way so to speak. He did say that they would still be there if I needed a point of contact but I know that he will not be with them he is moving on. I am not sure I would want to start again with another councillor now.
I am telling myself, that I am strong, that I can coping so much better now, and that I will survive and cope.
If only I can continue to believe in myself.

Errata

If he did give the condition a name I cannot remember it. But hopefully this doctor here will set me on the right road.

The consultant will send his written opinion to your GP, ask the GP for a copy of it if you're having problems remembering things.