MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

It probably would be, but then after spending ages sorting her stuff out, and it now having a place, it will be in a state again. But its the principle of the thing. They give to her, then they change thier minds and take it back.
They borrow money from her, stay over, eat her food, and use her place as a hang out zone. Its just continual abuse of her vunerability. Sometimes its time to make a stand against these people. Test them I suppose. Its just so unfair.
The children that hang out with her, steal from her, and have even caused her to be threatened with eviction as the neighbours complain about them coming and going. But to her they are "her friends" so she doesnt understand it all.
If they say "sorry" she forgives and forgets and then it will happen all over again.
I am just sick of them using my girls.:(

Have you considered speaking to the police? This kind of abuse of a vulnerable adult is a very serious matter.

Savvy_sewing

I have mentioned it to the support workers etc who have been around when I have been there, but I have rung them up to complain as such. Perhaps I should find out the local number and see about it. I suppose I didnt want to bother them. But they really must be aware of things as the twins will ring the police about things, and I worry they may pester them!

Savvy_sewing

I have rung the police. They have taken details of my concerns and will pass the information on to the local police etc. They will make an arrangement to meet me at the girls and to see what the various vunerability problems are. He also told me, that I must Lean on the Soical Services, keep on and not give up, as its something that needs to be tackled. He was very sympathetic and sounded very concerned which was good.
I fear involving others but I am also aware that I cannot keep it up.

am still not dressed. No energy. Cup of tea time. And then gather my muster I suppose.

Errata

He was very sympathetic and sounded very concerned which was good.
I fear involving others but I am also aware that I cannot keep it up.

I'm sure you are aware of high profile cases of vulnerable adult abuse which have had tragic endings. Because of this, they loom very large on the police radar and they will be very concerned.
Involving the police in a more substantial way can't make things any worse than they are already, can it?
HTH and hope you can give it some very considered thought.
Social Services are .......... social services! They have a list of problems they need to deal with, and for some of them they perhaps don't score them with the same degree of urgency as the police do.

Savvy_sewing

I am waiting now to see what will happen.
I am also concerned that there is a girl staying with twin2 who is 15. Had rows with her mother etc and has been there since I threw the young man out. Apparantly Social Workers have been around, but what are they doing leaving my daughter basically with the welfare of this young adult (child officially), when she cannot look after her own needs how can she look after this girl. They run out of food and electric all the time. The gas has now been capped off, as she wasnt able to keep up the payements of the daily/weekly charges even when not usuing the gas boiler system. So they rely on electric for everything now.Maybe today I am just not very good and so the problems seem to be exaggerated in my fears?
I do worry at the best of times I suppose. But I do feel that I have good cause too.
what can be done I have no idea, but even if the community support officers will befriend my girls and keep an eye on them may be a help. If they are ever present in the girls life it may stop the others from loitering and using the girls and thier homes as hang out places.
It may of course ailienate me from the girls, as interferring, but then when i get calls of stress from them as I did yesterday. I am afraid of the consequences.

(I am in a bad way today. I still havent mustered up the energy to get us dressed. - keeping an eye on DGD as she eats and plays is about as much energy as I can muster today. I hope that Molly's daughter will be here soon and I will get a sleep. Then maybe I will be feeling better after a rest. I do hope so.)

Errata

I've taken this from Camden's Safeguarding Adults document, and HTH. It sounds like all the stress and upset is making your arm etc more painful, not surprising and I hope you feel better soon.

It is a criminal offence to abuse a vulnerable adult
In 2005 the mental capacity act was introduced and made
it a criminal offence to ill treat or neglect a person who is
vulnerable or lacks capacity. If a person is found guilty of
such an offence they are liable to be sent to prison for a

term of up to five years.

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

Cannot seem to do half the things I could do when I had my old system.! I dont seem to have the opportunity to SaveAS, something else, and I dont seem to be able to then Save it where I want it, within my own sub folders. They just seem to end up in the computer somewhere!.
I have tried dragging and dropping into files, but if the files I want are in a different section of my Documents I am still struggling. One day I will get it right.

You have my sympathy, we're upgrading from XP at work, and when I'm on one of the 'new' computers I haven't got a clue what I'm doing!!!

However, I think you'll find that if you click on the 'File' tab, to the left of 'Home', you'll find 'Save As' there.

And also there, you'll find 'Options', if you click on 'Customise Ribbon' you can have what YOU find the most useful options showing all the time.

There is probably also an 'Idiot's Guide to what's new' somewhere, not that I'm suggesting you're an idiot, just that I need to go and find it myself ...

Savvy_sewing

I wont take it as if you thought I was an idiot. Mad as a hatter, yep I would understand.!
I had a call back from the police. They have arranged for an officer from the twins areato come and see me and to see what they can do to help. The conscensous is that they could at least befriend and drop in on the twins regularly, so that the girls can gain the trust but also that if it is known that they have the police checking up on them perhaps these people will disappear a bit more. The persistant ones we wll have to see what they come up with. Lets hope that we can start to have some sort of positive response.

I managed to have an hours rest this afternoon, while DGD was cared for, and then spent another hour with Molly's daughter and DGD trying to sort out the mess of toys etc and get rid of broken etc, and try and put them in an organised way into the new room.
Got on to DS about going and getting the bedframe. Yet again.

Its true that the stress is probably adding to my pain, and my stress levels are sapping all my energy.
Hopefully I am going to "escape" on Sunday and go to Oxford for a couple of days. Hopefully if there are problems with the twins they will be able to contact someone else. Although my parents are away in yorkshire for a while. But Biggest of Mooloo will be around at least on the phone.
I just wish I was able to relax a bit more about them, it seems when i just think its all in order it goes pear shaped again. Such is my world!.
On a plus note, I have managed a No spend day today and my ESA was in so I transfered 10% into my esavers account. I am trying to put 10% of all income into a savings account so that I can rebuild my slushfund/holiday fund. £302 saved so far. But leaves the bare bones to the main accounts. (Which helps as then the Twins cannot have so much from me, or DS.). Twin2 owes me £10 for electric this week. Will be interested to see if she remembers to give it back to me tomorrow. At least I know that she was paid today, so she will be able to get electric and food this weekend.

Savvy_sewing

Didnt see the file bit anywhere, so I pressed the questionmark. I needed to click on the logo in the corner. That has given me a dropdown menu wth the file, save as etc etc.
I didnt know that there were commands under this symbol. Thanks Sue. I can now find and file, and move etc.:T:T:rotfl:

BEAR

Hi
Iread your thread one day and am now hooked!. I have also read the older postsand think you are a really brave and wonderful woman

One thing I would love to know ( and if you think I;m being nosy then tell me to shove off lol) is why the twins are on their own. I am in a similar position wth my son....what with the giving lifts and trying to make sure he sorts his bills out.

Take care