MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

I have had a text from DS telling me that twin1 had gone out leaving the balcony doors unlocked, and he had climbed in that way! Always scares me that he may get arrested as it looks like he is breaking and entering thier own flat!. He was cross as he said thier stuff could have been stolen. (I thought well if people see you going in that way they may think about it!). I also thought what am I supposed to do about it? I did try to contact her for him but I didnt get a reply. Which is often the case as the phone is often on silent for some reason?

And why, pray, did he not unlock the front door and walk through that like a normal person? Don't tell me, he went out without any keys, and no doubt that would have been her fault too ...

Slightly off topic, but as you know my own DS3 is only a little bit older than your DS, and I was absolutely astonished on Monday when I saw him pull his wallet out of his jeans pocket. I was even more astonished when he produced £5 from it! He said he had his flat keys with him too!

He NEVER used to carry a wallet, or indeed any money at all. And keys, what would he need keys for? Why invent doorbells if you've then got to carry keys as well? :rotfl:

Savvy_sewing

He doesnt have any keys to the flat. They have a special fob that gets them into the building and the Housing association only gave her one. They said that if she lost it they didnt have anymore. To buy them they are charging something like £36 but that they didnt have any at the time.
So thats why there is only one set. I did used to have a set of keys to the place (for the doors), but DS had them, but has lost them somewhere in the flat/or outside. Who knowns. I have cleaned the place up once, but didnt find them.
I cannot and will not pay for more keys for them. So they usually have to tell each other where they are going or going to be, and where they can collect the keys from. So if we know that one is staying in, they let the other in. If they are going to be out, its usually who will be back first that gets the keys. But obviously that doenst always work. If she wont answer her phone and is not where she is supposed to be, he is locked out. Or visa versa. But usually he is where he says he is going to be, or is very close.

Ah well. I cannot do anything so worrying is not going to help me.

Today I am about to pack up our stuff here, and get us back home. I am running out of my gabapentin tablets. Without them I cannot function.
Its been a pleasant break from the normal but I will be glad to get back home and tackle my washing etc. Get the shopping ordered/delivered etc and the usual things I get up to at home.

Savvy_sewing

The Police got back to me today. To sort of update me on thier meeting yesterday. although the line was not good so I missed some of what was said.
The worrying factor that stood out, was the fact that the girls both have had issues reported about the commings and goings and the noise etc, and that it has lead to the housing associations thinking about evicting them.! this has hurt me hard.
I had a letter today from the Social Services adults team,
The line that stood out to me was
The notification doesn not meet the threshold for investigation and the following action will be taken.

The notification has been passed to Younger Adults Team (south) for consideration for a Care Management/Vulnerable Adult Assessment.

In my view. yet another pass the buck situation.
it will be too late for the girls if they are not careful. They will be homeless the pair of them.

I have rung both girls today to yet again warn them that they must stop the visitors, must stop the noise levels NOW.
But of course I fear that it is too late.
I am so concerned. I really feel lost and rather desolate today. I do not know what to do next for the girls. What is the point of me battling against redtape?
My girls need help, not eviction.
They should be protected not used and abused.
I am in tears at the moment. Frustration and exhaustion at it all.
Why is the system so bl00dy wrong? Why can we not find help? I feel pretty victimised by it all.
I am not happy. sorry.
I want an early night, and hope that tomorrow I will be able to pick up the gauntlet and get fighting again.
I fear I have no fight left in me, and who am I fighting anyway?
It is ludicrous.

~Chameleon~

I can't convey my thoughts in the right words right now Mooloo (meds have given me cotton wool for brains) but want you to know I've read & heard you and my heartfelt thoughts are with you & your family. Really hope you manage to get a restful night xxx

grandma247

(((hugs))) Mooloo

gizmo111

Mooloo wrote: »

The Police got back to me today. To sort of update me on thier meeting yesterday. although the line was not good so I missed some of what was said.
The worrying factor that stood out, was the fact that the girls both have had issues reported about the commings and goings and the noise etc, and that it has lead to the housing associations thinking about evicting them.! this has hurt me hard.
I had a letter today from the Social Services adults team,
The line that stood out to me was
The notification doesn not meet the threshold for investigation and the following action will be taken.

The notification has been passed to Younger Adults Team (south) for consideration for a Care Management/Vulnerable Adult Assessment.

In my view. yet another pass the buck situation.
it will be too late for the girls if they are not careful. They will be homeless the pair of them.

I have rung both girls today to yet again warn them that they must stop the visitors, must stop the noise levels NOW.
But of course I fear that it is too late.
I am so concerned. I really feel lost and rather desolate today. I do not know what to do next for the girls. What is the point of me battling against redtape?
My girls need help, not eviction.
They should be protected not used and abused.
I am in tears at the moment. Frustration and exhaustion at it all.
Why is the system so bl00dy wrong? Why can we not find help? I feel pretty victimised by it all.
I am not happy. sorry.
I want an early night, and hope that tomorrow I will be able to pick up the gauntlet and get fighting again.
I fear I have no fight left in me, and who am I fighting anyway?
It is ludicrous.

Ok - so they are being kept an eye on and their actions may have serious consequences - they will have to deal wth this, hard as it may be to step back you have to - if they get an eviction notice lets deal with it then.
The police could have and should have PPO'd (Police Protection Order ) the 15 yr old when they realised she was at the girls flat.

Ring me if you need a chat - I'm home Thurs after 8, and Friday till 12, then all weekend mostly.

Take Care x

Savvy_sewing

Needless to say, I had a rough night. I did go to bed early and fall asleep quite quickly but DGD woke around 12.30am and then we were both awake for a couple of hours! Very unusual for her.
I wrote a lot did a brainstorm in my diary just to try to clear my mind a bit and get back to sleep. Around 3ish I turned the light back out.

I have been awake since around 7am, but DGD came in and has been watching TV in my room, and I was reading.
I suppose it was lethargy after lack of sleep, and also reluctance to deal with the coming day!.
Procrastination again.
I am going for my shower now, see if that will wash away my cobwebs.
I hear you Gizmo. I just am not sure how I can step back? Its so scarey. I know, I shouldnt worry about what may happen, and only worry about what is happening. But that is easier said then done.
Alas.
I will call you if I struggle much more. Thanks.
Certainly feel more inclined to ring now that I have met you!. No longer a faceless stranger! thanks to the Bristol weekend.
I have a 10% discount offer to use up on my Massages or someother treatment., so I am hoping to make the time to arrange another one before the discount runs out. I think another massage may be a good way to relax a bit too. the tension in my shoulders is not good and that affects the arm etc as you well know.
DGD is watching CBBies, so off to the shower I go. Then I must contact Molly again. Not heard back from her which is strange. She really has not been well for some time now.

Savvy_sewing

To top everything now the Department of Works and Pensions are stopping my ESA on the 30th April. Letter arrived today. Say I am not eligeable for the other benefit as I have too much income/Assets.
The Tax credits will also stop on the Guardianship going through on the 24th (ish).
So I have to get new claims in for everything, but cannot do anything until the guardianship is sorted out. Then it will be a very bleak time till the benefits are sorted. There will be a potential drop in income of £875.98 a month!!
ARGHHHHHHH

Jo4

Mooloo wrote: »

To top everything now the Department of Works and Pensions are stopping my ESA on the 30th April. Letter arrived today. Say I am not eligeable for the other benefit as I have too much income/Assets.
The Tax credits will also stop on the Guardianship going through on the 24th (ish).
So I have to get new claims in for everything, but cannot do anything until the guardianship is sorted out. Then it will be a very bleak time till the benefits are sorted. There will be a potential drop in income of £875.98 a month!!
ARGHHHHHHH

Will you have any money left to live on if you lose that amount? :eek:

gizmo111

Mooloo wrote: »

To top everything now the Department of Works and Pensions are stopping my ESA on the 30th April. Letter arrived today. Say I am not eligeable for the other benefit as I have too much income/Assets.
The Tax credits will also stop on the Guardianship going through on the 24th (ish).
So I have to get new claims in for everything, but cannot do anything until the guardianship is sorted out. Then it will be a very bleak time till the benefits are sorted. There will be a potential drop in income of £875.98 a month!!
ARGHHHHHHH

Has it been agreed that you get the SGO allowance from SS? If so what tax credits will stop?
They should continue to pay you and SS should pay you until the CB comes through - they may see it as a loan awaiting benefits.