MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

wendz86

Gilly -Poppy was never engaged at any of my appointments and she was a day early so there is hope x

Lirin

Thats awful smlsave. I remember a night on the ward where the girl opposite me lost her baby- I cuddled Rose for hours that night.

I havent been on in a while, sorry. Congrats to anyone who needs them!

Rose is still sleeping well for us. She's getting huge now, finally just above her birth weight at 9lb (despite being a bottomless pit). Had to use gripe water a few times, barring that we haven't had any real issues. When she wakes, it's usually soundless- I'll turn to see a big set of dark eyes watching me.

They won't or can't test her eyes or heart at this stage. I'm happy enough with her eyes, I think, as she doesn't have any of the indicators I had for my blind eye. We would still like her heart checked, as since my nephews death from cardiomyopathy, all babies in our family are looked over as a matter of fact.

She has a huge range of expressions, and has spent the last week practising her smile. She's very very cute- I love watching her. Or the impatient looks she gets when she's waiting more than a second to be fed.

I'm still learning the differences between cries, and there's been a couple of moments when it's been heartbreaking when her face is screwed up, and defcon 1 is imminent..... In general she's happy enough mainly.

We've been busy with other plans, as DH has been told his position can't be renewed as there's no money- so from the end of the month he will be redundant. It's bad timing, but maybe was meant to happen. Something will come up, and he will get time to spend with his daughter. His bosses were close to tears letting him go- it's just been a hard year. We were upset for a while, but had seen it coming, had hoped it wouldn't happen though! We're upbeat about it now- DH is rarely down for long. It's the only thing that's marred the time since the birth though.

It's DH's birthday today, so will maybe get down and buy him a cake. I've only just ordered his present, as time kept getting away from me- every time I went to switch the pc on, Rose would decide she would need changed, cuddled or fed! I apologised to him, as neither of us has ever forgotten an event (though in my case, it's because mobile phones come with calenders and alarms to remind me of my wedding anniversary, etc. I never would remember otherwise!).

A Romanian friend of mine calls Rose 'Smally baby.' I quite like the term, so she gets that, and 'Roses' from my niece, who keeps trying to feed her the chocolates!

Gillyx

Oh Wendz that has cheered me up well I'll do all I can and keep my fingers crossed. Not to go back until 40+2 so hopefully I don't need to go back, as the clinic is depressing, a couple came in this morning and both of them stunk of stale alcohol.

Lirin good to see you about Happy Birthday to your OH and shame about his job, but I'm sure something will come up for him, maybe something even better

wendz86

Just to let everyone know sainsburys have money off a lot of baby stuff at the mo including nappies and wipes. Some huggies nappies were 50% off and a lot of others 25% off.

jenjade

well other half has been and things actually feel a lot worse. no hug, no hand holding he spent some time with Ellie which was good but then he made a couple of snide comments and left.

jenjade

oh and i said we had had a rough night last night and he said he has read in the paper that bottle fed babies are more content so therefore that must be the problem!

Gillyx

jenjade wrote: »

oh and i said we had had a rough night last night and he said he has read in the paper that bottle fed babies are more content so therefore that must be the problem!

Was in the Daily Fail, I wouldn't take any notice of it at all.

What the article actually said was

"The Cambridge researchers however, say that the irritability linked to breastfeeding is only natural, and not a sign of stress or even necessarily hunger.
Instead, it is the baby’s way of bonding and seeking attention and security.
While bottle fed babies may seem more content, they may simply have eaten too much.
Like adults who comfort eat, they may have been calmed by eating, or drinking, more than they should."

alison2020

Oh jenjade that's rough. Sounds like he is making bf an excuse to argue with you. That article goes on to say that as bottle feeding is the norm in this country some parents find the start of breast feeding demanding or stressful as it is unfamiliar to them. It ends with the statement that "We often hear from mothers who say that once they and their baby got the hang of it, breast feeding was a breeze".
Maybe he's uncomfortable with bf as he's not used to it. Were his sons bottle fed by any chance??
Stick with your instincts. If bf is making you and baby happy, there is no reason to change.

Kandboys

Re the Daily Mail article and This Morning discussion - I get so fed up of continual bottle feeding/breast feeding debates. Every baby and mum are different. What works for one doesn't work for another and some mums CANNOT breastfeed like me! I have been glared at for bottle feeding and my friend has been glared at for breastfeeding in public - neither are wrong. It drives me demented. Yes breastfeeding is best, I agree with that, but not when you have no milk and your baby might starve if you do not bottle feed. It's not rat poison is formula! And it makes me so cross when new mums are made to feel guilty if breastfeeding doesn't work. Rant over!!

missymoo81

i can only echo what alison said.

ooooh grrrrrrr men, really feel for you jenjade hun. if its any consolation, my OH is being a real pain in the ar$£ too and hes thousands of miles away!!! Not content with a picture email every morning, he complained he hadn't had a good morning text from me!!!!!!!!!!! i barely get chance to brush my teeth in the morning, and thought i was doing really well sending him a photo every day so he didn't feel like he was missing out too much!!!!!! grrrrrrr, not that im grumpy or tired or anythhing!!!