Living with an addict.

marie-20

elantan wrote: »

i can understand where your coming from Marie ... my hubby tried all the medication that he could for his pain ( tramadol, diazepam, cohydramol, amytriptaline, diclofenac etc etc) nothing worked ... so he turned to alcohol and hash... it seemed to be the only thing that took away the pain for him

Ohhh it's awful to see! He had the occasional spliff (once a blue moon) to start with when his mum had some (they suffer with pretty much the same things but Si is worse - well to me anyway) but TBH we don't know anyone that sells it so it ends that one there which is good.

He takes so many different meds it can be hard to keep up with but he's tried pretty much everything. His current main pain killers are Oxycodine @ 80mg twice daily and Oramorph (liquid morphine) @ 15mg up to 8 times a day as well as Raboxin/Methacarbolmol, Pregablin, Paracetamol and his sleeping/depression tab which I can't remember the name of but even so they aren't strong enough but Zomorph @ 90mg made him ill and still didn't work even with the Oramorph so just waiting for next appointment as hospital and hopefully they will be able to suggest something else.

WhiteHorse

An addict will kill you, slowly.

Bear in mind too, that there are people who are addicted to living with addicts.

verystupidwithmoney

Ravenlady wrote: »

Yep, the dope is hiding the fact he has refused to accept and deal with his fathers death, the fact he has been clinically depressed since the age of 17 with the first suicide attempt (he had his heart broken and dont think he ever got over the rejection) and the fact that we are in a very large financial hole.

Yeah, knew it. Dope is often used to curb depression but it makes it far worse. When you're stoned the problems multiple ten fold in your mind. You become very deep in thought and make thought processes and paths which aren't true. It makes you think of the past a lot too. You become hopeless.

Is he paranoid?

Sounds like he needs to man up, get off the dope and seek depression help and support you properly.

Gillyx

My heart goes out to you OP. I don't live with an addict but I have lived with one, not even in a relationship but a family member and it is soul destroying.

How do you feel about bringing a new born baby home to that? Especially if you're struggling financially and he's spending over £100 a week on his habit? Is it money you need for the kids?

Metranil_Vavin

My ex used to smoke a ton of weed too, and it eventually broke us up, aside from other things which stemmed from it.

It was never just an occasional and recreational thing to do, it was a regular and habitual thing, and on the odd occasions when he couldn't get any weed, he was horrible to be around.

My flat always stunk of it, and I found that for a while I got into smoking a fair amount of it too, just as it was easier to join him than to beat him. We were zombied out a lot of the time, didn't communicate and it was rubbish.

I feel for you OP, and you are pregnant too so really what you need right now is support from your OH.

Barneysmom

'I dont mind the odd joint or two in the garden.'


^ That speaks volumes to me. You either agree with cannibis or you don't. There can be no half measures. Do you smoke it yourself?


If it was me, when he goes on tour I'd have the locks changed. Then phone him and let him know what you've done and say he is allowed home but his his friend and the cannibis is no longer welcome.

sqeeky

How do you cope?

You don't.


You leave.

property.advert

Don't walk away, run and don't look back, not even once.

They know all the excuses and are better liars and manipulators than you.

Everyone deserves better than people like this. Let them spiral into oblivion with their ilk.

nuttywoman

My 25 yr old son is an addict. His partner left him last xmas taking the baby cos he was`nt safe to be around. he`s now addicted to that bubble that is really bad and dangerous He`s turned into a nasty person. I love my son but i hate what he`s become .

marywooyeah

Ravenlady this sounds awful, I can't imagine what it must be like for you. me and my ex used to smoke weed a lot, we were always slobbing about playing games or watching films and it at first was relaxing then it just became so habitual being stoned was normal for us. When I fell pregnant he advised me to carry on smoking because "you're not keeping it anyway so you might aswell". I stopped for 3 weeks and noticed my skin and general health improved and I began to see he was just a waster and a loser. I was planning to keep the baby but at 19 with no family around/no money/nowhere else to go and a dad who expressly didnt want the baby I felt I had no choice but to terminate. I think a fair few people on here know what happened to me so don't want to go into too much detail. I then smoked weed more than ever, I used to roll a joint before bed so I'd have one ready for the morning, it dulled the hurt and guilt of losing my baby, it was too painful to deal with so I just smoked until I felt numb - much like your OH seems to be doing.

the only way it got better for me was when I eventually realised if my baby could see me he'd be disgusted that his mum was a waster. have you asked your OH how the kids see him? are they old enough to realise what he's doing? I underwent a very good counselling course which helped me face my loss and now I celebrate my lost child although there is still a lot of hurt there. I think your OH seriously needs some help or he's going to lose you and his kids. has he even considered what breathing in all those thc fumes are doing to you and your unborn baby?

something needs to change in your relationship and fast. when is your baby due? you seriously don't want your newborn in that environment.