The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

ChocolateCupcake

Barny1979 wrote: »

18 days in a row for me now. Think this is the longest time I've not drunk alcohol since I think January 2006.

You and me both.........and I'm feeling better for it!

18/31 for me too.

shaggydoo

January :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved



Barny1979 18/31

Cazzyd 1/30

Chloris 4/23

Chocolate Cupcake 18/31

CuppaTea 10/18

December Baby 5/20

Flat Eric /31

Gien 13/20

Jak 18/31

Kiittiej 12/30

Lamarsi /31

Mackeroo 11/12
Maman 15/10

Mari 12/25

Mookie Pook 7/29

Muchin /31

Mummy2threeboys 9/31

Pinkbrick /25

Rachel 15/31

priceySOS 11/25

Satchmo 18/22

Shaggy 14/17

StupotStu 6/TF

Top Girl 17/31

Tracy 17/31

Unself 5/15

Warbonnet 17/31

WBF 9/10

41 and I know it 15/TF



Everyone Welcome!

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've got your AFDs wrong!!!!!

shaggydoo

Wanna_Bee_Free wrote: »

I had good news and was offered a job for a few months

:T:T:T:T and Good Luck!

Lilith1980

jak wrote: »

Well done Lilith thats brilliant. Personally I put my Jan alc free days in red but always put how many altogether afterwards because it's important that I record it. I'm proud of myself!
People can be so weird about not drinking. I've not been it that situation yet but I now when I see my sister she'll go on at me to drink. BUT I think that's because it will reflect badly on her if I don't. That's my theory. People don't mind if they are ok with their relationship with alcohol. When they're not they examine their drinking so it makes them feel better if you drink! Stay strong and achieve what you want to achieve X

Thanks Jak, so my AF days are 19 for January and 24 in total. Could I be included on the list please Shaggy?

Although I am aware that it's more about the other person's discomfort with their drinking, I feel this pressure inside me to 'make it ok' for them by going along with what they want. And why should I? Think I need to avoid situations like that for a while before I tackle them

mummy2threeboys

wow lilith..your debt busting is amazing well done (not to mention the af !) xx
41..as jak said one day at a time..i agree bin the wine , then its not there staring at you..plus its too blooming freezing to go out to get some more , good luck for tonight chickadee xxx
jak..im sure they cant do that either, id definatly ask the mse people they whoud be more up on employment laws, im sorry to here this, boss sounds liek a right jerk/jerkess , maybe though finacially as your on your own it might work out better? Have a look on entilited to /turn to us xxx
Another 1af fir me please shaggy 10/31 thanks have a good weekend everyone x

Lilith1980

mummy2threeboys wrote: »

wow lilith..your debt busting is amazing well done (not to mention the af !) xx

Thanks hun, I have to say it took me a while to pay the loan off and to get the credit card down to that level (as in years)!

Well done on the extra AF day, feels good doesn't it! Stay warm and safe everyone

jak

Hiya everyone. I'll look into the work situation and decide what to do. I'm trying to see this as a positve thing as 1. I will have less money to spend so therefore less likely to buy al. and 2. I can be a stay at home Mummy for a bit and sort little ones school out. Also I have been advised that after quitting it's advisable to Lillith, I too have been avioding situations with friends that will involve al. Not only do I not feel strong enough but I also don't want to get into it with anyone. This is my private journey at the moment and I need to find the strength to do it myself without non af friend interferring!
I have got my ladies AA lunch today and I am so excited!!!! XXX

Lilith1980

Good for you Jak, you have to do whatever is comfortable for you. So do we all. And good luck with the work situation, I am sure you will find a way through that works for you.

I guess there's something scary for me in that I could end up losing friends I have known for years if they are so uncomfortable with it. I guess though, that they're not really that good friends if they base friendship on alcohol, but even knowing that it is still scary.

I went to my mum's last weekend (she lives down south) and I had told her on the phone not to buy me any drink. She did, and when I said I wasn't drinking she played along like she hadn't remembered me saying it and then said "Well, I didn't think you really meant it". Hmmm, thanks mum - and it's not like she is a big drinker or anything

But I proved her wrong and stuck to soft drinks all weekend.

I am enjoying going into places and having soft drinks, my partner is also having an AF free January but I know he wouldn't pressure me into drinking after January as he too wants to cut down.

warbonnet

AF18/31

I really felt like having a drink yesterday, and felt a bit depressed at the thought that I couldn't have one. I worked really hard in the house sorting out and usually my reward would have been wine. But instead it was a bottle of Becks blue!


Lithe I haven't come across the people wanting me to drink thing yet. But I know that someone who is not comfortable with their own drinking will want you to drink with them. Anyone who drinks normally will be happy for you to drink pop when you are with them. Also when we are trying to give up i think that it is better to stay away from the people who are not happy for us to drink pop.


I've been invited to a dinner party next Saturday, I will take wine and ginger beer for me. The host already knows that I am not drinking and she is fine with it. I also have a bottle of my very favourite
lemoncello in the freezer, I might - no I will - take that to get rid of it as well.


Jak sorry to hear about your job, I know that employers have to be flexible about childcare, but not sure if you are on a temporary contract how it works, I think it would be worth looking into though.
Maybe at the moment you need to concentrate on getting yourself better, it sounds like AA are really helping you, I know they are a great help as I know people who have been saved by them


41 I have been where you are many times, saying I am not drinking and then giving in after a few days. Then the disappointed feeling and then the drinking again, it's a vicious circle. Like i said earlier in the post i am feeling depressed about not being able to have a drink. You have done so well and you can do it again, it's just a minor blip. I really think you need to get rid of the alcohol out of the house, and replace it with some other treat. I know it's not the same but if it can get you through 1 more day then it would be worth it. It's all about 1 day at a time.


Well today is another sorting out and eBay day, also going out tonight, but I will be driving so there will be no temptation, my OH is very supportive, but he does think that come February, I will be back on the wine, but I am determined to prove him wrong!


Thanks everyone for this thread, it is really helping me to focus, it's difficult to talk to friends and family about the issues of drinking too much.


Thanks for listening
Have a good day everyone


Julie

jak

I'm listening to Ed Sheernan. I've got to say his music deals with alcohol demons very well, could've been written by me (I wish!) I'm taking small pleasures from that. Someone mentioned before on this thread him mentioning 'I don't drink like everyone else, I drink to forget about myself'.
Also speaking to friends in recovery yesterday they both said, the best thing about recovery is the feelings and the worst thing about recovery is the feelings! I'm a leaky tap this weekend, I literally keep crying and thinking and crying again. It's all part of the process... Hee...talking in song quotes today! Anymore????? X