The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

satchmo1

Hi, 18/22 AF for me now.

41, how about freezing the horrible wine in ice cube trays, or small plastic bags? Then you can use it in cooking, and it isn't drinkable. I say that, cos I do like a beef or chicken casserole with red or white wine added to the dish, but if I buy a bottle most of it ends up in the cook !

Jak, so sorry to hear about the job situation. I hope you are ok, and that something more flexible comes along soon. I agree that it's worth you looking into whether you were unfairly dismissed, but I don't know how long you had been there.

I hope this post works, because it's the third time I've tried. Fingers crossed.

Even though we've got loads of snow here in Milton Keynes, I'm still hoping to do my 5k ParkRun tomorrow. I've had an email saying it's still on.

Hugs all round, Satchmo x

Lilith1980

Hi all, I have been lurking and lurking lol. I haven't had any alcohol since boxing day. So if we just count January then I am 18 days AF :cool:


I've used alcohol as a crutch since I was in my early 20s and I now feel I have broken the cycle because I have been able to go through stressful periods and not resort to drinking. I am not looking to give up totally but would like to restrict my drinking to special occasions, and even then, to not go mad with it.

I just wondered if people could help give advice on OTHER people. What I mean is, it seems in my case that friends/family have more of a problem with me being alcohol free than I do :mad: I made a friend on my uni course and we went out for a few drinks in early December last year and we would like to go out again but I have said I will probably stick to soft drinks as my IBS has really been helped by cutting my alcohol. I get a sense that she's being put off and I just think that if we're such good friends, do we need to both get drunk to enjoy each other's company??

Any thoughts? Would be interested to hear what others have experienced? x

jak

Well done Lilith thats brilliant. Personally I put my Jan alc free days in red but always put how many altogether afterwards because it's important that I record it. I'm proud of myself!
People can be so weird about not drinking. I've not been it that situation yet but I now when I see my sister she'll go on at me to drink. BUT I think that's because it will reflect badly on her if I don't. That's my theory. People don't mind if they are ok with their relationship with alcohol. When they're not they examine their drinking so it makes them feel better if you drink! Stay strong and achieve what you want to achieve X

jak

41. DO NOT DESPAIR! All is not lost, even though it may seem it now. I had to get to the depths of despair before I came to the realisation that I am an alcoholic. I have no control after I've taken that first drink. I cannot stop. I don't drink like other people.
You are not alone in this. If you need support the AA helpline number is: 08457697555.
When I was at my worst, I called this number. I hand reached out to help me and I took it. I was so drunk when I called I had no idea (blackout) until the next morning when I got a call back to see if I still wanted help. A lovely local lady called me and she asked if I wanted to go to a meeting. I did. So she took me and I sat there cried and listened. If you need someone to talk to then just call. You needn't give your name or number. Thinking of you X

jak

18 af and 20 altogether. This evening I went to a meeting. I'd not been to that one before. It really helped. I got a wristband to wear that says 'one day at a time'. I LOVE it! I am always going to wear it but under my clothes. I don't want other people knowing about this until/if I choose to tell them. I then went to see another new AA friend for a brief chat after my grim day. He and her husband were brilliant. They have both been in recovery for over 10 years and they are amazing.
I've got my first AA ladies wot lunch tomorrow and I can't wait! They are so much fun to be around. xxx

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

An AF Friday for me! I ate too many starburts and skittles last night however!



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

Just been on alcohol unit calculator. I drank 600mls of mixture of 13.5% and 8.5% white wine so average 11%, so alcohol units = 11.3. Not proud of myself, the wine was disgusting, I had no reason to drink other than knowing there was probably going to be no school this morning, which there isn't. Okay, it's done now. When I started drinking, I thought well I've started now may as well continue, and I tried to drink it really fast but because I don't like the taste thank god i had to stop, felt physically sick. Just goes to show that I drink for the effect not the taste, and I am not in control at all. I think I needed this as a wake-up call. 11.3 units in an hour or so. No wonder my head is a bit fuzzy and I had weird dreams again. I need to finish this wine off, I haven't got the heart to throw it away, I know I'm making excuses. I hate waste and I hate throwing alcohol away when I know I'll end up buying more when there's none in the house. Hope that this does not encourage anyone to drink, I am explaining to hopefully put you off, because all those AF days have been in vain, I didn't even have a reason to drink and yet I had to be in control, and be selfish and think I deserve and how dare anyone stop me. What a fool I am, and I still haven't learnt. Went in the fridge this morning and thought I'll have too buy some lemonade to go with the disgusting chardonnay I drank last night. That's the only bottle that's open so I have no reason to open the disgustingly sweet one. I'm so sorry guys, I'm in hangover mode and then the adrenaline will kick in getting off on the hangover. Aware of this and still the alcohol tricks me. I'll see you all later. Sorry

Does the wine belong to your DH too? If not, just pour it down the sink imho - at least if you end up buying more it will be something you like. Think of the calories too!

shaggydoo

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

Thanks for helping me last night. I won't forget your kind words in the middle of my binge. I don't like wine, so I don't know if I chose that as my poison because I knew I would stop at some point, but most likely because like I say, the moscadet was open and has been for ages, and I bought the chardonnay from the spar ages ago too and opened before I wanted to give up. Still got loads of opened chardonnay, it is vile. Please don't ask me to throw it away, it's not in my nature, I have OCD and have problems with waste, recycling takes up a lot of my time, because I am frightened to waste things. At least I know how much I drank and the unit values, now I can take the consequences. I am glad I measured the wine, at least I had enough sense to have a gap between emotion and drink, that measuring time would have made me stop and think, do i really want this, and each time i measured 200mls i thought no i dont want this but i deserve it and im in control. after the 400mls my stomach was saying no but i wanted to get off my face for the chaos, then i took my 50mgs sertraline antidepressant before bed. Didn't get off my face, but drowsy, mellow, and blurred vision. Today my aim is to sit down and add up everything properly, and I will feel better. Thanks for reading and I hope this will help you to abstain.

Wine goes off when it has been opened for a short time 41, which is probably why it tastes horrible - it reacts with oxygen and turns to vinegar ( a weak acid). There is a fair chance that if it has been in your fridge for awhile that it has much less alcohol in it. Old wine really can't be very good for you....it's like old food - it's past it's sell by date. It's also 100% biodegradable so there is nothing to worry about there either.

Throw it away lovely!

shaggydoo

jak wrote: »

Well bad day day today, I had the meeting with my boss and I've been sacked.

Sorry to read that

shaggydoo

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

Hi everyone. I've drunk 600mls of wine 11% so far, not drunk as yet, but stomach hurts.

Throw it away!!!!!!