The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

mrsrainman

MarkMan wrote: »

Cuppa and 41 and I know it

Just had to say big hugs to both of you. That's all. I can' think of anything useful to say but just had to say you've got friends here and someone out there is on your side and caring.

Do what you need to do - one life one chance. Tomorrow's always there and we often hurt ourselves more than anyone else does.

Just think of everything you've achieved :A:A

Well said Markman

MrsR xx

mrsrainman

Morning

I'm glad Monday went well Shaggy

Cuppa, It makes me mad that you're still being left in limbo :mad:. Has DH shown any signs of making a decision one way or another? I remember you saying he had a lot of stress at work, is that still some of the problem?
Of course you ar going to have bad days, but don't lose sight of all the good things. You are a good person and a good mother. Sending you hugs.

No change in anything here, thank you for asking Markman. MrR is halfway through the book, and I have gently mentioned that I can sometimes smell alcohol on him when he goes off to work in the morning (I don't want to embarrass him by saying his colleagues have mentioned it)
Today I'm mostly thinking **** it! I will do the best for myself and BabyR and if he wants to waste his life and risk illness in later life then that's up to him.

Have a good Friday everyone

MrsR xx

trainingdad

Oh boy, there's some heavy stuff on here the last couple of days and I for one am really proud that we are able to share our pain and worries with each other. A problem shared may not be halved, but it is usually a weight of the mind to at least get our thought's down on (e-)paper.

First, the simple stuff: Shaggy - 17 AF. And *Mari* 4 SCN. I do feel really very proud of myself to turn around from drinking just about every day to 17 AF this month. It reminds me what I had forgotten I am capable of - stubborn determination (both in drinking and in abstaining...)

Now, CuppaTea and 41 and i know it, my heart went out to you both when I read your messages of feeling so low and hurting. I can't pretend to know exactly what you are feeling but I will share this with you, in the hope that it helps:

A good few years back, I was in that same place. Standing by a busy road crossing, with lorries thundering by, thinking "one step; that's all it would take to stop the pain". I didn't step and today, I am so glad I am still here. What I did do was go to the doctor who diagnosed me with depression. That was me, not you. I don't know what you've got - I'm no doctor . However, the psychologist I subsequently saw referred me to a fantastic book that I found very, very helpful.

So, here it is. It is a really interesting read about how to make your body feel less low without drugs. It may help it may not. I'm just putting it out there.

Healing without Freud or Prozac: Natural Approaches to Curing Stress, Anxiety, Depression without Drugs and without Psychotherapy (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Healing-without-Freud-Prozac-Psychotherapy/dp/1405067187)

Suffice to say, the underlying causes of my depression where complex and took a long time to resolve. In fact, recovering has become more of a life journey for me and I am learning more about myself all of the time. Now, I embrace life and live every moment remembering how lucky I am, despite the dips and downs that life presents to all of us from time to time.

I do hope I've been of some help. You two brought tears to my eyes.

missrlr

Hey so sorry for phone posting in the middle of the unhappiness above and not acknowledging it, not intentional just being lazy and could not be doing with fighting the phone.
Cuppa and 41 you are both great, very strong and in horrid situations. I cannot offer words of wisdom as to what to do other than please realise you are both great people. Please keep coming here and getting help anywhere else you can at this horrid time.
My current mindset (I am saying this to myself currently about 100 times of an evening) Alcohol is not a crutch it is a will o' the wisp - looks like a support then vanishes and makes you fall over so you have to pick yourself up. A fickle friend indeed.

it is however Friday and I know I have to spend this weekend making arrangements for the in laws to come and stay plus that means actually mucking out the study and getting life back in order.

Chin up all we are here on a Friday and by all accounts there may be some (whispers) sunshine this weekend to brighten the day.

openscreen

trainingdad wrote: »

Oh boy, there's some heavy stuff on here the last couple of days and I for one am really proud that we are able to share our pain and worries with each other. A problem shared may not be halved, but it is usually a weight of the mind to at least get our thought's down on (e-)paper.

First, the simple stuff: Shaggy - 17 AF. And *Mari* 4 SCN. I do feel really very proud of myself to turn around from drinking just about every day to 17 AF this month. It reminds me what I had forgotten I am capable of - stubborn determination (both in drinking and in abstaining...)

Now, CuppaTea and 41 and i know it, my heart went out to you both when I read your messages of feeling so low and hurting. I can't pretend to know exactly what you are feeling but I will share this with you, in the hope that it helps:

A good few years back, I was in that same place. Standing by a busy road crossing, with lorries thundering by, thinking "one step; that's all it would take to stop the pain". I didn't step and today, I am so glad I am still here. What I did do was go to the doctor who diagnosed me with depression. That was me, not you. I don't know what you've got - I'm no doctor . However, the psychologist I subsequently saw referred me to a fantastic book that I found very, very helpful.

So, here it is. It is a really interesting read about how to make your body feel less low without drugs. It may help it may not. I'm just putting it out there.

Healing without Freud or Prozac: Natural Approaches to Curing Stress, Anxiety, Depression without Drugs and without Psychotherapy (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Healing-without-Freud-Prozac-Psychotherapy/dp/1405067187)

Suffice to say, the underlying causes of my depression where complex and took a long time to resolve. In fact, recovering has become more of a life journey for me and I am learning more about myself all of the time. Now, I embrace life and live every moment remembering how lucky I am, despite the dips and downs that life presents to all of us from time to time.

I do hope I've been of some help. You two brought tears to my eyes.

My goodness, I thought it was only myself who had thoughts of "throwing myself under a train" I even stood at the edge of the station platform to do it, due to the alcohol problems. I tried to hang myself in the garden, I have fallen down stairs top to bottom, ended up in hospital more times than I care to admit.

But, I have recognised my problem, done something about it, I go to AA, (it works for me!) have got a life now better than my wildest dreams. I am lucky enough to have a job, that has taken me to Belgium, Holland, Germany, Italy, Cyprus, Ascension Island, & have work in Italy & Kenya to come.

Life is good, I have access to my kids, a job, a life. But I know it will all turn to dust if I pick up a drink.

Good luck to everyone & take care

missrlr

Morning all
I really hope this weekend brings some much needed peace to those in need. I (despite being AF last night) slept atrociously once indeed I managed to attain a few zzzzz.
As a consequence I am grumpy, achy, and I don't want to be awake, but I am too awake to go back to sleep. So cup of tea #2 and I have decided to crack on with the to do list. Washing and ironing first on the agenda then packing of clothes and car for trip with a dog walk in between.
Have a lovely day everyone

tracy_36

Hi all, no more AF for me to report...will def have to improve next month!!!
I had a horrible hang over today - 1st in a very long time, so being sad and miserable vegging out on the sofa

Hope Cuppa and 41 are feeling a bit better today xx

Tracy

MarkMan

Just wanted to say Hi! and give best wishes to everyone. Not AF again but determined to be AF tomorrow to hit my target.

I'm still thinking of you all and taking strength from this thread. :A

Have a nice evening..

41_and_i_know_it

tomorrow is october and everything we have done is gone, we cant live twice so forget the past and embrace a chance to enjoy each precious moment. goodbye september i wont miss u

41_and_i_know_it

tracy_36 wrote: »

Hi all, no more AF for me to report...will def have to improve next month!!!
I had a horrible hang over today - 1st in a very long time, so being sad and miserable vegging out on the sofa

Hope Cuppa and 41 are feeling a bit better today xx

Tracy

i am now downing milk choc digestives 85 cals a biccie so what