The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

mrsrainman

pixiegill wrote: »

morning, feeling really pleased with myself for getting through this week. Its taken alot of willpower as my oh as still been drinking but i was determined to prove to myself i could do it.......sure next week will be easier;)
thanks for everyones support - its really helped :j
4 snc for me !!

with last weeks effort it means i have had 7 afd so far this month

well done!!!!!

MrsR xx

missrlr

10 for me please

mrsrainman

I had a worrying text yesterday from MrR's sister.

She had been contacted by a family friend, who also happens to work with MrR. I will call him MrA.

MrA had been approached by a co-worker who mentioned that he could smell Alcohol on MrR. MrA doesn't know how to broach the subject with MrR and he didn't know how to tell me that this had happened. So MrA did the only other thing he could think of and went to MrR's sister.
She text me to tell me what had been said and to ask what we should do about it. I have suggested that she arranges to come over for a visit but tell him she does need to speak to him about something important. I have also said it's probably better if she doesn't mention that she came to me first. If MrR thinks we have been discussing him then he won't be happy.

I don't think for one second that MrR has been drinking at work. It's just the amount he drinks in the evenings means that it's in his skin and the smell lingers the following day.

I don't know what to do. If he loses his job we're going to be in trouble.

Sorry for the downer on a Friday morning.

MrsR xx

maman

Pixiegill wrote: »

Morning, feeling really pleased with myself for getting through this week. Its taken alot of willpower as my OH as still been drinking but I was determined to prove to myself I could do it.......sure next week will be easier;)
Thanks for everyones support - its really helped :j
4 SNC for me !!

With last weeks effort it means I have had 7 AFD so far this month

It's a great feeling isn't it pixiegill? :T for finding the will power and you're right it will get easier but beware of the odd s*d it feeling that can creep up on you.

maman

mrsrainman wrote: »

I had a worrying text yesterday from MrR's sister.

She had been contacted by a family friend, who also happens to work with MrR. I will call him MrA.

MrA had been approached by a co-worker who mentioned that he could smell Alcohol on MrR. MrA doesn't know how to broach the subject with MrR and he didn't know how to tell me that this had happened. So MrA did the only other thing he could think of and went to MrR's sister.
She text me to tell me what had been said and to ask what we should do about it. I have suggested that she arranges to come over for a visit but tell him she does need to speak to him about something important. I have also said it's probably better if she doesn't mention that she came to me first. If MrR thinks we have been discussing him then he won't be happy.

I don't think for one second that MrR has been drinking at work. It's just the amount he drinks in the evenings means that it's in his skin and the smell lingers the following day.

I don't know what to do. If he loses his job we're going to be in trouble.

Sorry for the downer on a Friday morning.

MrsR xx

Is MrA in a position of authority at MrR's workplace? If he's simply a friend/colleague then he could be just giving the heads up before bosses become aware. I think the idea of letting his sister talk to him is a good one. Perhaps she could call him and arrange to meet and talk to him privately if you'd prefer not to be around. He may ignore her or it could be the kick up the proverbial he needs. We're thinking of you and do keep us posted.:)

missrlr

mrsrainman wrote: »

I had a worrying text yesterday from MrR's sister.

She had been contacted by a family friend, who also happens to work with MrR. I will call him MrA.

MrA had been approached by a co-worker who mentioned that he could smell Alcohol on MrR. MrA doesn't know how to broach the subject with MrR and he didn't know how to tell me that this had happened. So MrA did the only other thing he could think of and went to MrR's sister.
She text me to tell me what had been said and to ask what we should do about it. I have suggested that she arranges to come over for a visit but tell him she does need to speak to him about something important. I have also said it's probably better if she doesn't mention that she came to me first. If MrR thinks we have been discussing him then he won't be happy.

I don't think for one second that MrR has been drinking at work. It's just the amount he drinks in the evenings means that it's in his skin and the smell lingers the following day.

I don't know what to do. If he loses his job we're going to be in trouble.

Sorry for the downer on a Friday morning.

MrsR xx

:eek: Here's hoping this is the kick up the butt needed, and really hope he takes this on board, sadly his colleagues are both now in a really difficult position too. I hope it can be sorted without it going further for everyone's sake. Hugs for you and let's hope it goes no further.

mrsrainman

maman wrote: »

Is MrA in a position of authority at MrR's workplace? If he's simply a friend/colleague then he could be just giving the heads up before bosses become aware. I think the idea of letting his sister talk to him is a good one. Perhaps she could call him and arrange to meet and talk to him privately if you'd prefer not to be around. He may ignore her or it could be the kick up the proverbial he needs. We're thinking of you and do keep us posted.:)

MrA is just a colleague and longtime friend. I don't know who mentioned to him about the smell of alcohol, I assume it was another colleague. If it had been a boss it would have gone further by now.
It's on my mind but I think I need to let his sister contact him.

MrsR xx

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

I completed the SNC Mari.

I had a couple of glasses of wine with OH last night - probably 4 to 5 units.

So glad

Shaggyx

shaggydoo

Pixiegill wrote: »

Thanks for the advice, I am a heavy coffee drinker so will give it a go. I have recently started drinking peppermint tea as I was suffering from IBS so will try that in the evening instead

Cadbury's hot chocolate is my poison - made with water and milk (like coffee)...I'm also a heavy coffee drinker - I stop between 5 and 6 and switch to fruit juice or hot chocolate.

shaggydoo

Pixiegill wrote: »

With last weeks effort it means I have had 7 AFD so far this month

Do you want to join the monthly challenge? No pressure honest