The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

mrsrainman

CuppaTea wrote: »

Thanks for reading, i know i've gone off topic, i apologise, but its gonna happen a damn sight more, if allowed.;)

Of course you're allowed!!!! I think you're doing really well Cuppa. Have you shown him your list of Pros and Cons? Maybe you should. Like the others have said, dropping hints probably won't work. I think you just have to say exactly what you want. I hope you get another opportunity to talk to him without him rushing back to Gavin (The names did make me chuckle).

Very busy couple of weeks in the Rainman household with BabyR. 1 year check this week, followed by her Christening, and then a Birthday!!

MrsR xx

CuppaTea

missrlr wrote: »

I think he was indulging in psychological warfare , so review started second bottle didn't finish it and so not toooooooooo bad, not as planned but I could have drunk the lot before now and then one!

Hope things are better today and you are both feeling better.

Of course you're allowed!!!! I think you're doing really well Cuppa. Have you shown him your list of Pros and Cons? Maybe you should. Like the others have said, dropping hints probably won't work. I think you just have to say exactly what you want. I hope you get another opportunity to talk to him without him rushing back to Gavin (The names did make me chuckle).

Thank you. I have realised the hints thing doesnt work as he can't see past his own needs at the moment, so i need to be more direct. Maybe at some point i will show him the list but for now it could be taken as nagging and i want to let the dust settle for a few days as things have been fragile. I'll await the right moment.

So tired today 5 hours sleep and a dreary day too.

missrlr

Morning, so first things first
13 days for me please
even with the Saturday drinkies I still am on target.
Things are better and I will initiate the discussion tonight ...

de1amo

15 af days so far this month.

sorry i cant write in red!!--i have now lost 12lbs in 64 days without really cutting down my food just alcohol

maman

de1amo wrote: »

15 af days so far this month.

sorry i cant write in red!!--i have now lost 12lbs in 64 days without really cutting down my food just alcohol

:T that's great progress on the Afness and weightloss! You're obviously not munching to keep yourself busy.

8AFDs for me for July please.

Easy to get back on the wagon tonight after the weekend I'm pleased to report.

Hope everyone is keeping their scores ready for Shaggy's return.

missrlr

14 days for me please

maman

Decided to have a small glass of wine with lunch out today. Hardly a disaster but no more AFness to report.:(

*Mari*

Another 2 AFD's to declare please Shaggy

tracy_36

I am on 5AF now, big blip on Mon, chatting to mate on phone, 3 vodkas later.....

Off out for a meal tonight, will try to be AF on Thu!

Holiday next Tue, so am sort of thinking sod it now - esp as just eaten apple crumble and custard for lunch lol

Hope everyone ok

maman

tracy_36 wrote: »

I am on 5AF now, big blip on Mon, chatting to mate on phone, 3 vodkas later.....

Off out for a meal tonight, will try to be AF on Thu!

Holiday next Tue, so am sort of thinking sod it now - esp as just eaten apple crumble and custard for lunch lol

Hope everyone ok

It's never a good idea to say s*d it! Let me rephrase that. I know it happens but the answer is to start afresh on a shiny new day. Do try and get a few AF days in before your holiday to keep a balance and remind yourself it can be done.

Sorry if that comes across as a bit preachy, it's not meant to. i'm only on 8AF myself!;)