Partner had to leave house - single or joint claim for benefits?

Torry_Quine

You absolutely have to do what is best for the children and only you and those involved can determine what that is.

I'm shocked though that he's in a B&B, I would have thought he would have been sectioned at least for assessement.

samroo

How are your childcare costs calculated. They seem very high. I calculated £6 x 40 hours per week to be £1040

~Chameleon~

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I'm shocked though that he's in a B&B, I would have thought he would have been sectioned at least for assessement.

With the state of the Mental Health services in this country now it's very unlikely he will be sectioned as there aren't any beds available for anyone other the most acutely ill, even for those currently suicidal

Torry_Quine

~Chameleon~ wrote: »

With the state of the Mental Health services in this country now it's very unlikely he will be sectioned as there aren't any beds available for anyone other the most acutely ill, even for those currently suicidal

That's awful. Surely attempting suicide is a sign of acute illness.

Vejovis

samroo wrote: »

How are your childcare costs calculated. They seem very high. I calculated £6 x 40 hours per week to be £1040

perhaps x2 for 2 children

charlieismydarling

Surely attempting suicide is a sign of acute illness.

Not necessarily.

You have done the right thing op. There is a history here of op's partner, shall we say, not exactly doing his best to get better. I speak as a mental health professional by the way, before I am flamed for being harsh.

Op needs to perhaps build a life away from partner. Sorry if that is not what she wants to hear, but if you trawl through old posts it will become clear. Well done for putting kids first op.

AimeesMum_2

charlieismydarling wrote: »

Not necessarily.

You have done the right thing op. There is a history here of op's partner, shall we say, not exactly doing his best to get better. I speak as a mental health professional by the way, before I am flamed for being harsh.

Op needs to perhaps build a life away from partner. Sorry if that is not what she wants to hear, but if you trawl through old posts it will become clear. Well done for putting kids first op.

Thank you Charlieismydarling...you are right - he hasn't done much in the past to get better. Since posting things seem to be a fair bit clearer in my head and from the things that he has said. I'm not sure that he ever sees us living together again Said that it just doesn't work but I'm hoping that when he is better that might change. With help from the social services and my health visitor hopefully I can build a life for me and the kids and then when he is better we can see how we feel. I am still going to continue to see him once a week but feel even more confused about the single/couple part. I am going to give it another 3 weeks and see what happens in that time.

Childcare is based on 50 x hours per week (need to travel to and from work) plus £12 per week costs for pick ups and drop offs xxxx