Partner had to leave house - single or joint claim for benefits?

Orville

looby75 wrote: »

social services would see it as putting the children in danger. Because someone who is trying to kill themselves obviously isn't in a stable frame of mind SS would consider any children living in that household to be at risk. They don't know that the mentally ill person wouldn't "snap" and do something to also harm the children.

It's exactly that situation which lead to my friend having to take her grandsons into her home and get special guardianship of them.

That is totally correct, you don't have to physically hurt a child for them to be scared.

Not gonna go into too much detail but someone i know tried to jump out of their bedroom window and kill them self while the kids were downstairs. Can you imagine the horror if the person succeed and they had gone outside and found her..?

jetplane

OK so your going to reduce your Sky you also need to contact the local authority and renegotiate the rate of overpayment they can accept much lower than this especially if you have made regular payments and it is only for a temporary period. Offer them £5 week.

You say that your childcare costs wil lincrease? Unless tax credits are already paying the full wack for childcare tell them straight away so that they can recalculate.

As the social workers are so keen to help! ask them for temporary help with childcare costs.

Order the DLA forms today 08457123456 and get them to CAB or Welfare Rights and get them completed and returned. He clearly has care needs and possibly mobility too.

Oldernotwiser

Orville wrote: »

:eek:
Shocking answer, you would always put your kids well being first.

Coming from someone who's arguing on another thread that the children he's been bringing up for 10 years aren't "his" and don't now matter, I find your hypocrisy stunning.

Orville

bestpud wrote: »

There is nothing to suggest it is an either/or situation though...

No but if someone in your house is suicidal and you have children there, the best thing to do would be to remove that person from the home until they get the help they need.

When you are in that state of mind i doubt if you would even think of the kids and could very well harm them while not meaning to. Is that a chance worth taking..?

Orville

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Coming from someone who's arguing on another thread that the children he's been bringing up for 10 years aren't "his" and don't now matter, I find your hypocrisy stunning.

There is no hypocrisy at all. This is a totally different situation. Making a claim through the csa is nothing compared to someone trying to top themselves...!!

Take it from me i know..!!

bestpud

Orville wrote: »

No but if someone in your house is suicidal and you have children there, the best thing to do would be to remove that person from the home until they get the help they need.

When you are in that state of mind i doubt if you would even think of the kids and could very well harm them while not meaning to. Is that a chance worth taking..?

I don't think he should be left alone with the children (as in while their mum goes out, not just another room) but that doesn't mean he is a risk to them.

There is a vast number of suicidal people about and it would be mayhem if they were all taken away from their family!

I imagine being in a B&B all day would exacerbate any symptoms anyway.

AimeesMum_2

I am already claiming the max childcare allowed for 2 kids There will be £550 less coming into the house (£360 incapacity benefit and £190 per month additional childcare costs incurred Social work acctually suggested that I give up working and would be financial better off but I can't do that I am only 23 and the thought of trying to get back into work after being off for a long time would be too worrying plus I worked really hard to get my job.

I feel that it was definitely the right decision that we made for him to go somewhere while he gets better but it's just so hard worrying about the implications of it

Orville

robpw2 wrote: »

the police charging him with breach of police is a bit harsh

I agree, seem silly. I mean if it were to happen again he's hardly gonna stop just in-case the old bill charge him.

LL30

OP - have you tried doing an SOA on the debt free wannabe board, they have some fab ideas which could help you shave off some pounds here and there.

Really feel for you and I hope that 2012 sees your situation move forward in a positive way. Have you been provided with any support? If you're going to juggle all of these balls effectively, you will need some help. Don't try to go it alone, your little ones need you well and emotionally available to them x

Orville

bestpud wrote: »

I don't think he should be left alone with the children (as in while their mum goes out, not just another room) but that doesn't mean he is a risk to them.

There is a vast number of suicidal people about and it would be mayhem if they were all taken away from their family!

I imagine being in a B&B all day would exacerbate any symptoms anyway.

Yes i agree on the B&B bit, as was said earlier he should be in a hospital. Either way IMHO he should not be in the house with kids. More so if knives are being used, a kid could run up to him and try to stop him, and we all know what could happen then, accidents even if UN intentional do happen.

I wouldn't chance it.