Christmas "get if off your chest" thread.

pixie76

Kili wrote: »

Great thread, and just what I need......

I wanted a Kindle for Christmas, not a huge ask, but I know money is tight at the moment. Imagine my little face on Christmas morning when OH has bought me a kindle. I was over the moon. He tells me its a joint gift from him and our teenage children (who I believe have contributed £40 to this as that was the amount they spent on him).
I open a card from my Mum In Law and it's got £40 in! Great, I can buy a nice case to protect my pride and joy? Well no, because OH says he needs that money to pay towards the Kindle..... I'm a bit disheartened at this but I hand it over and work out that if the kids paid £40 and I just gave him £40 he paid £9.

Having spent 36 marvellous hours with my new toy happily reading I realise that there is a way you can put your own screen savers on and I mention this to OH. He has a look and says its complex. I tell him to leave it. He doesn't.

My beautiful new Kindle is now firmly bricked in a 'developer' screen which wont turn on or off. It can't go back because you aren't even supposed to access that menu apparently and OH can't fix it. I am gutted. Did he say sorry? Offer to replace it? Did he !!!!.

I have spent most of the night in floods of tears, he's not apologised and there is no way I can afford to replace it myself. I am gutted beyond belief.

I hope you get it sorted.x

Spendless

Kili- and tell your hubby you want that £40 back to pay for the repair. I can't believe his cheek. If MIL had sent you some bubble bath and socks he wouldn't have expected you to hand those over would he, so why should cash she sent you be any different?

VfM4meplse

merlot123 wrote: »

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/help/customer/display.html/ref=hp_kin_200504350_trub_frzn?nodeId=200504350#screen

If this fails to help, get intouch with amazon, they are excellent with the customer service, they may well exchange it for you, they did exchange my friends when her screen froze.

V helpful post.

Kili, when you get it fixed password protect it immediately and then keep it well away from your OH. If he's going to act like a child then you need to treat him as such.

He obviously doesn't understand the meaning of the word "gift" so to avoid further disappointment, maybe you should agree not to buy for each other in future?

renegade

Barneysmom wrote: »

Look, what's the point of having all this bad stuff inside and not letting them out?

This is a rant.

Right, Christmas Eve my sis came with her hubby, and 3 children.
I did a stew and dumplings which they ate, some strawberry milk shakes for the kids, then rice pudding and custard.

So that's 5 plus hubby and me.


Today I had DD and boyfriend, mom and dad, plus 2 friends with their son.
I did a big buffet, roast beef, roast pork, turkey, pork pie, salad, baked spuds with garlic butter, roast veg, etc etc 2 different desserts, drinks.

So that's 9 plus hubby and me.

How many people offered to help lay the table, or help clear it after?
None. Not a flipping one of the bone idle lot. Didn't even put a plate by the sink.
Meanwhile there's me and my seriously ill hubby chasing round and waiting on them like a pair of feccin idiots.

Never again.

Pah.
Tomorrow DH's dad's coming.
Wednesday my br his wife and their 3 boys are coming.
Plus another 2 friends.

We'll see who helps.

This is the reason I prefer to have my Christmas on my own! Perfect, eat when I want clear up after MYSELF,watch what I want,I have a ME ME ME christmas and I love it!

pavlovs_dog

my mum had invited OH and I over for Christmas dinner. I was very much looking forward to this, as mum and I went through a really rough patch afew years back and it's taken a lot of time and effort to rebuild our relationship over past 2 years or so.

all week leading up to Christmas I have been horribly, horribly ill and the one thought keeping me going was getting to spend Christmas day with my family, and have Christmas dinner at home again.

fast forward to late Christmas eve, and my mum and brother have a falling out. When we arrived 9am on Christmas morning, mum had already decided that she wasn't celebrating Christmas anymore this year. Christmas dinner was cancelled and she had already taken down 90% of her decorations.

To add insult to injury, she didn't even have the manners to offer us anything to eat at all in all the time we were there, knowing full well that as we'd planned to spend Christmas night and boxing day with other family groups we had run the fridge empty in readiness to do a shop today. further salt in the wound was her telling me that she'd cooked the turkey because she wanted to have a turkey sandwich at least. (Whilst I can see this is progress from a few years back where the whole lot would have gone in the bin and gone to waste, that's no real comfort at the moment).

We then went to to visit other relatives in the afternoon, having had nothing to eat since 7am, only to have them ask 'how did dinner with your mum go?' Not a happy conversation to have. OH, who is quite scared of my mum because he feels like everybody is constantly walking on egg shells around her, now understandably feels more resentment. She meanwhile is blind to the fact that she has shot herself in the foot, because I can't see us rushing to accept an invitation to spend Christmas or any other big event with her knowing that she could well leave us in the lurch.

catch_me_if_you_can

Dec 23rd my OH tells me that I will get my pressie after xmas. I was a bit taken aback as I know what he planned to get and think maybe the delivery company let him down... But no. He didn't even order it yet. I got upset and started crying (v emotional due to hormone imbalance so cry over anything at the mo) he gets v uncomfortable and says he'll sort it on xmas eve.

Later that night I fall asleep watching tv so goes to bed and leaves me downstairs. No attempt to wake me... I wake up as he's going up stairs and follow him and get into bed and ask why he didn't wake me, he replies because "you always Fall asleep after a glass of wine" and pulls the covers over his side and goes to sleep.

fair do's I had one glass of wine but drank about half of it, he drank the rest of the bottle. (I fall asleep often due to my high blood pressure tablets, recently had them changed and its a side effect in the first few weeks)

Xmas eve I get up at 7 to put gammon on, make mince pies and do the fiddly prep for xmas day. Potter around, he gets up at 2pm and ignores me. DD (aged 15) arrives from her dad's, he's nice as pie to her but being cool with me. He doesn't go out, instead plays solitaire on his puter.

Xmas eve dinner is nice, we settle down and watch tv. I fall asleep again.

DD wakes me and I go to bed.

Xmas day I get up and prepare breakfast, DD comes down and helps (by standing looking vague saying "can I help" and getting in the way) so I tell her that when it comes to pressies not to look for any with my name from my OH as he's getting it later.

she looks shocked and then says... "oh by the way, Xmas crept up on me and I didn't get you anything. What can I get you in the sales?"

She then details what she got for her dad.



I was tempted to take the champagne and chocolates back to bed for the day with my lappy!

Gleek

Been rushed off my feet for months as am a carer for my grandad, but Christmas seems to have put that on speed. Have done all the cooking, clearing away, washing up etc etc over the past week for every meal and I just want to sit down and finally relax (even if I do have to still do the cooking later!)

Apparently even that's not allowed today as I'm wanted to go out and look at TV's which will still be there another day. They can sod off, I'm sitting down and not moving today aside from dinner :rotfl:*


*I'm picking my battles before I moan about providing all the meals and stuff. Today is just light snacky food like all the stuff we need to use up. I'll 'give up' when it's a full meal to get a proper break :P

thrifty_fifty

I'm kind of glad Christmas is over, you always build it up to be this great time and then when it happens you realise that it was just as carp as the previous years. Everyone falls asleep meantime you can't make yourself a drink as it's not your house and you don't know where stuff is, and just end up sitting there bored listening to everyone's snoring.

Then the next day your autistic brother kicks off and claims the living room, meanwhile everyone else sits huddled in the conservatory, while your mother asks when you're getting married and providing her with several grand children to look after, in front of OH, after telling you about your ex best friend who is due in february-oh and by the way it's a boy.

The presents which were supposed to be a laugh were a toy landrover, because we'd really like one and can't afford one yet, and an allotment handbook because all the pests ate our stuff last year.

Parents have a really good way of making you feel carp about yourself.

Bring on the new year I say.

Pollycat

What dreadful, thoughtless, rude family some people have!

I think I must be pretty lucky.

pavlovs_dog
I don't know the history between you and your Mum but I think she's behaved appallingly selfishly to take her disagreement with your brother out on you and your OH and ruin your Christmas.

catch me if you can
your OH and DD (if I were you I'd ditch the first 'D') sound very selfish and (if they were mine) next Christmas they'd be looking for a present from me in vain.

I'd say 'as you two couldn't be bothered to get me a gift last year, I decided to spend what I would have spent on you on myself instead'.

"Xmas crept up on her"?
Has she been in hibernation or in Outer Mongolia for the last 3 months?

aliasojo

I wonder if anyone on here actually has a 'chocolate box' family and therefore a 'perfect' Christmas.

I suspect we've all got an 'issue' of some sort.

Never mind peeps, we're past this one now, just got next year's to 'look forward' to. :rotfl: