Deliciosa’s DFW diary

deliciosa

I am still not ready to tell my friends about my debt situation. Noody knows but you guys. I don’t want to ask someone else to sell on amazon for me. F I came up with a cover stry (need storage etc) they would all just say whydont you brign them to oxfam. Theya re not in debt and don’t save…

Checking the ombudsman website now!!!

atypicalblonde

If you have any queries, you can also call the ombudsmen, they were v helpful ... x

atypicalblonde

Are you planning your meals for each week in advance out of interest? This will help you with your budgeting x

slowlyfading

I know things may seem hard, but you're doing well. There are always going to be some points which dont go as well as others, but keep going
Nicola x

kittyminx

Hi D

I don/t get much chance to check in here so it's great to see you doing so well!!! Well done on the ebaying you've made loads there!

All you really need to say to your friends is that you are paying off your credit card, you don't need to go into too many details, I bet at least one of your friends has some credit card debt even if you don't know about it. I recently told one of my friends that we were paying off our debts and that's why we couldn't afford to go out as much as we used to and she was SOOOO relieved....her and her partner have similar debts to us but she never said anything as she thought we'd thiink badly of her...i don't know why she thought that she's a good friend anyway now we do stuff together that is moneysaving..ie cook for each other and partners/have girly DVD nights with other friends too...infact we probably have more fun now than we ever did. I guess what i'm trying to say is, don't worry about telling your friends, if they care about you then they'll find other ways of spending time with you rather than not see you at all....

Think I better stop waffling....it's been a long week!

Take care

kit x

deliciosa

atypicalblonde wrote: »

Are you planning your meals for each week in advance out of interest? This will help you with your budgeting x

I tried, and it didnt work out. I am never at home, cant make food, it getts wobbly, unedible - this is something that just doesnt work out for me. Spunds like an excuse but honestly, I tried...

deliciosa

slowlyfading wrote: »

I know things may seem hard, but you're doing well. There are always going to be some points which dont go as well as others, but keep going
Nicola x

Thanks, sometimes its really hard... sometimes I just feel like giving up and just spending money and not caring... I wont give up, but you know what its like.. the debt is not reducing quickly enough....

deliciosa

Hi Kit, thanks for popping in and for your lovely words!

I am just scared to tell ym friends. I am still ashamed. Theya re just so different, I dont think any of them struggles with debt. My best friend is the most sensible girl you know, what she doesnt have, doesnt spend. Other one is very rich etc.. I just really cant tell anyone apart from you guys. everyone would be outraged and worried and would look down on me..

Im so glad to see that it turned out so well with you and your friends and that you do mse things together! i wish it would work like that for me too.. I already lost two so called friends due to my thriftyness..

slowlyfading

deliciosa wrote: »

... I already lost two so called friends due to my thriftyness..

then perhaps they were not your friends? (hugs) real friends wouldn't do this - not everything in life is to do with how much money you have.

deliciosa

slowlyfading wrote: »

then perhaps they were not your friends? (hugs) real friends wouldn't do this - not everything in life is to do with how much money you have.

I know.. but still. you know.