Sad at christmas

GeeBee38

I just wondered if anyone else dreads xmas?

I know, it will be, just another day, no presents, fancy food etc as my family can't afford it....

I will be glad when it's all over

pinkclouds

I'm sorry you feel sad at this time of year.

Can you not afford to travel to church - either for midnight mass tonight or the Sunday service tomorrow? It's free to attend.

If you are only grieving the commercial side, then there is still time to do some homemade crafts with the kids/for the family. I don't think tomorrow is about a lump of overpriced meat and some expensive tat that will be 90 percent off in the sales the next day. Use a free local newspaper, cut into strips and make paper chains to decorate the house. Go for a walk tomorrow and say "Happy Holidays" to as many people as possible. Hug, phone, Skype as many of your relatives as you can. It depends on what you really want from the day.

mountainofdebt

It is just another day, whose original meaning and significance has been lost under the barrage of adverts of 'must-have-otherwise-Christmas-will-be-carp' - in fact I thought it was quite sad that a number of shops that I went into today were removing their christmas decorations.....but there again if they've been up since October then I guess they've been up long enough.

Its not the amount that you spend on someone, its about what you do for them the other 354 days of the year.

OH and I aren't buying each other pressies this year (we didn't last year either) - not that we don't love each other but because there's nothing we need and we don't see the need to spend money on things that will just clutter up the house.

as for fancy food - have you noticed that shops 'force' it down our necks in the run up to Christmas and then 'force' all the diet stuff down our necks in the new year.


I'm just thankful that I've made it to another Christmas - alot of good people I know haven't.

X

milliemonster

I am so sorry to hear how sad you feel, you know presents aren't everything, I am very sad too and feel incredibly lonely, the true meaning of christmas as I keep hearing is about spending time with loved ones, my kids are getting presents this year but we are not really having much of a family time as both me and my hubby have to work, my mum is dead and my father doesn't want to know me anymore so it's making me feel incredibly blue this yr too.

candygirl

I've got a partner and lovely Grandkids and family, but still feel rubbish this year as my Dad wont be there for the 3rd year:o:oI try and make the most of it, but still feel like there's a massive hole in my life:(:(
TBH the bset bit i'm looking forward to is seeing my Grandkids faces in the morning, I CBA with the rest of the hype anymore:(:(

GeeBee38

milliemonster wrote: »

I am so sorry to hear how sad you feel, you know presents aren't everything, I am very sad too and feel incredibly lonely, the true meaning of christmas as I keep hearing is about spending time with loved ones, my kids are getting presents this year but we are not really having much of a family time as both me and my hubby have to work, my mum is dead and my father doesn't want to know me anymore so it's making me feel incredibly blue this yr too.

Thanks milliemonster

I am sorry to hear about your mother, and the situation with you're father...

I understand the lonely feeling, this will be the 3rd xmas without my partner, he passed away too....

I know presents & money aren't everything, it's the spending time with the ones you love, i miss the most.

But i do believe having money does help, when you haven't got the spare cash to buy & make a christmas dinner and have to settle for a sandwich only adds to the sadness....

GeeBee38

candygirl wrote: »

I've got a partner and lovely Grandkids and family, but still feel rubbish this year as my Dad wont be there for the 3rd year:o:oI try and make the most of it, but still feel like there's a massive hole in my life:(:(
TBH the bset bit i'm looking forward to is seeing my Grandkids faces in the morning, I CBA with the rest of the hype anymore:(:(

Thanks, i bet that is the best, i don't have children so i can't experience that, but i'm sure its a lovely feeling

milliemonster

well Goblin, if it's any consolation, me and my 2 kids will be having festive bacon sandwiches for xmas dinner tomorrow!, I am working the night shift tonight, will get home at 8 in the morning, watch the kids open their presents then go to bed til lunch, get up so hubby can go to work and then me and the kids are on our own for the rest of the day. I don't really have any friends either so this is our lives, working around each other for childcare now and it's no different at xmas.

When I feel incredibly sad though, I try to think that I am healthy, my kids are healthy, we have a nice home that is safe and warm and secure and I am very grateful for the happy years I had with my parents before it went so horribly wrong.

Take care of yourself xx

inkie

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Originally Posted by milliemonster
I am so sorry to hear how sad you feel, you know presents aren't everything, I am very sad too and feel incredibly lonely, the true meaning of christmas as I keep hearing is about spending time with loved ones, my kids are getting presents this year but we are not really having much of a family time as both me and my hubby have to work, my mum is dead and my father doesn't want to know me anymore so it's making me feel incredibly blue this yr too.

Thanks milliemonster

I am sorry to hear about your mother, and the situation with you're father...

I understand the lonely feeling, this will be the 3rd xmas without my partner, he passed away too....

I know presents & money aren't everything, it's the spending time with the ones you love, i miss the most.

But i do believe having money does help, when you haven't got the spare cash to buy & make a christmas dinner and have to settle for a sandwich only adds to the sadness....

Goblin36 I am sorry that you are feeling sad, and that Christmas will not be what you had hoped for. Just to reinforce what another poster has said - find out what is happening at your local church and get down there. Good way of meeting people and discovering the real Christmas. Also, find out if you have a local Salvation Army, and give them a quick ring to see if they are doing a Christmas Day meal and if so if they could find room for one more (tell them what you have shared on here).

GeeBee38

inkie wrote: »

Quote:
Originally Posted by milliemonster
I am so sorry to hear how sad you feel, you know presents aren't everything, I am very sad too and feel incredibly lonely, the true meaning of christmas as I keep hearing is about spending time with loved ones, my kids are getting presents this year but we are not really having much of a family time as both me and my hubby have to work, my mum is dead and my father doesn't want to know me anymore so it's making me feel incredibly blue this yr too.

Thanks milliemonster

I am sorry to hear about your mother, and the situation with you're father...



Goblin36 I am sorry that you are feeling sad, and that Christmas will not be what you had hoped for. Just to reinforce what another poster has said - find out what is happening at your local church and get down there. Good way of meeting people and discovering the real Christmas. Also, find out if you have a local Salvation Army, and give them a quick ring to see if they are doing a Christmas Day meal and if so if they could find room for one more (tell them what you have shared on here).

Thanks , i agree with pinkclouds post about the church, it's a great idea but sadly i don't go out of the house...

So i would be unable to do it, sorry

GeeBee38

mountainofdebt wrote: »

It is just another day, whose original meaning and significance has been lost under the barrage of adverts of 'must-have-otherwise-Christmas-will-be-carp' - in fact I thought it was quite sad that a number of shops that I went into today were removing their christmas decorations.....but there again if they've been up since October then I guess they've been up long enough.

Its not the amount that you spend on someone, its about what you do for them the other 354 days of the year.

OH and I aren't buying each other pressies this year (we didn't last year either) - not that we don't love each other but because there's nothing we need and we don't see the need to spend money on things that will just clutter up the house.

as for fancy food - have you noticed that shops 'force' it down our necks in the run up to Christmas and then 'force' all the diet stuff down our necks in the new year.


I'm just thankful that I've made it to another Christmas - alot of good people I know haven't.

X

Yes, you're right, thanks x