Should I complain about this postie?....

jojo_2012_2

Firstly he's not very good. Leaves letters sticking half out of my postbox regularly but this has been getting better.

Anyway. I live alone with my son. I started my car this morning and left the ignition running. Came back in and shut the porch door and inside door completely. It's freezing.

Anyway after 5-10mins I go to open my front door and the postie is standing IN my porch, facing my front door. He has NO letters for me. By sheer luck my boyfriend stayed last night and is standing next to me as I open the door. Postie then looks very uncomfortable and asks to use the loo, I say we're going out (OBVIOUSLY) and he turns and walks off. I still have no letters.

Anyone find this a bit odd that a postie was lurking in a young woman's porch or am I freaking out over nothing? Are they meant to use people's loo? I live about 5 mins drive to the sorting office.

On a side note my boyfriend is now joking that I'm having an affair with a middle aged african postie.

crazyfj

We are human and needs must, if my postman or women asked I wouldn't have a problem (as long as it was the regular one and had id).

Mrs_Huggett

Why does the fact that he is of African descent have anything to do with it may I ask?

septemberblues

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

Why does the fact that he is of African descent have anything to do with it may I ask?

Did I miss something?

Hermione_Granger

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

Why does the fact that he is of African descent have anything to do with it may I ask?

Yet another person who seems to take offence when nothing wrong was mentioned or implied.

The OP didn't state that the postman's race had anything to do with their problem. They simply mentioned it as an aside stating that their boyfriend joked about them having an affair with a African person.

If someone joked about me having an affair with an Eskimo or an American Indian, what would be wrong with mentioning their race in that instance?

redlooney

Hermione_Granger wrote: »

Yet another person who seems to take offence when nothing wrong was mentioned or implied.

The OP didn't state that the postman's race had anything to do with their problem. They simply mentioned it as an aside stating that their boyfriend joked about them having an affair with a African person.

If someone joked about me having an affair with an Eskimo or an American Indian, what would be wrong with mentioning their race in that instance?

Because it's out and out racism - whether the OP intended it or not and your reply also intimates the same tbh

jojo_2012_2

Yes, I was just poking fun was that my boyfriend was jokingly accusing me of having an affair with someone who would be an unusual choice for me. Notice you didn't pick up on the middle aged thing, but thanks for seeing the worst in me. Also thanks for your opinion on my question about whether to complain....oh wait you didn't give one.

Oliver14

Hermione_Granger wrote: »

Yet another person who seems to take offence when nothing wrong was mentioned or implied

They didn't take offence (it seems you have). They just asked why it was relevant to the story. The OP had just told some convoluted story about how they refused to let their postie use the toilet and felt the need to drop his race in to the story. So no offence but just relevance.

As for complaining why would anyone think it's acceptable to complain about someone asking to use a toilet? Just a silly question really.

dibuzz

I hope you didn't leave the car unattended when it was running, it takes seconds for somebody to jump in and drive off.

marywooyeah

OP I wouldn't complain, he was probably in the porch plucking up the courage to ask to use the loo when you opened the door - it would probably be embarassing for him to have to ask which would also explain why he scarpered pretty quick when you refused.

Dave_C_2

1. Yes complain, it's your property and he is on there without permission, especially as he has no postage for you!
2. If he wants to use your toilet, £10 is a reasonable fee.
3. If you leave your car with the engine running and it's stolen you get nothing from your insurance.

Dave, by the numbers