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My dad died yesterday.

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  • madnessandmayhem
    madnessandmayhem Posts: 329 Forumite
    I'm so sorry for your loss xx
    I know nothing will ease the pain for you just yet, but just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and your family at this sad time xx
  • Gillyx
    Gillyx Posts: 6,847 Forumite
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    (((Hugs))). I have huge sympathy for you, OP. You are understandably hurt and angry at the moment. I would not wait before lodging a formal complaint, if the ward staff think that this is acceptable behaviour then other families will suffer the same.

    Totally agree with this. As much as there's maybe nothing medical they can do at such an advanced stage, they should be making sure each patient is comfortable and in as little pain as possible.
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  • TooSad
    TooSad Posts: 211 Forumite
    So sorry for your loss.

    I would advise contacting PALs as a first step in a formal complaint. When mum died they helped us a lot. We are now in a position where the hospital have admitted liability in causing mums death. We wouldn't have got this far without their help.

    I know it's all raw and your emotions will be all over the place, but from what you described the way your poor dad has been treated is appalling. And the way they treated you after his passing is too appalling for words.

    Feel free to PM me if you want any help.

    Again huge condolences for your loss

    TS x
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  • merlin68
    merlin68 Posts: 2,405 Forumite
    Thankyou for all your support, I am just disgusted that an old man of 84 was left to die like this with no compassion from the hospital.
  • CH27
    CH27 Posts: 5,531 Forumite
    I'm so sorry Merlin xx
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  • emsbet
    emsbet Posts: 5,237 Forumite
    I'm so sorry for your loss merlin

    As others have said I'd be getting in touch with someone at the PCT regarding your father's treatment so that no other family has to go through the same and so you get some recognition that the care your father received was way below what is expected.

    My thoughts are with you and your family.

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  • euronorris
    euronorris Posts: 12,247 Forumite
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    I'm so sorry for your loss Merlin, and the appalling treatment that your father and you and your sister endured at the hands of the hospital.

    I wish you all the best for the christmas season, and onwards also. And I hope that you receive a satisfactory response from the hospital when you complain, so that no one else has to endure that.

    xxx
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  • jungle_jane
    jungle_jane Posts: 635 Forumite
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    what an absolutely awful way to go. Your poor old dad - really sorry for your loss and the circumstances xx
  • doodoot
    doodoot Posts: 554 Forumite
    I can't offer you any advice regarding the hospital, but wanted to offer you and your family my condolences.
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  • flutterbyuk25
    flutterbyuk25 Posts: 7,009 Forumite
    So sorry for your loss x
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