Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

WelshWoofer

Morning all! LL - waiting to see why you're struggling and if we can help?

Just back from a trot around the water park with the dog and this morning it was a trot after the trauma of jumping on the scales this morning:eek::eek::eek:. This giving up smoking lark and generally being a little piggy has taken its toll. A stone has to go:mad:

I'm going to go through my summer wardrobe today and see what I've actually got (last years rubbish summer didn't encourage me to wear anything summery and I didn't go abroad) and what I might need for a holiday.

I also plan to do a bit of schoolwork and mow the front lawn and then sit down and plan meals and some exercise for the week. I love a list and organising stuff so will put it to good use planning an attack on the flab.

lessonlearned

Good name for a pop duo perhaps:rotfl:.

WW - had a power cut and lost what I had written before I could post. I'll try and remember it all.

LW - I noticed that you had stopped posting and I think I know why. I know I have upset you and I am sorry.

My first post to you about getting help was a gentle suggestion, my pm to you was a stark warning. Yes I admit I was neither tactful nor diplomatic, however, I was sincere and remain sincere in trying to help you and in wishing you well.

I called you arrogant. I stand by that, yes you are but no more so than I was when my husband was at the level you are now.

You and I both are guilty of hubris- me probably more so than you.

Although I have mentioned LW specifically what I'm about to tell you applies to all of us - maybe not now ..............but definitely in the future when we get old, frail and sick.

Read this and weep.

This is my Nemesis

I went to see OH yesterday. He asked if he could come home to die (Of course he can I will find a way). We're not there yet.

Later he mentioned that his bottom was sore. I took a look - he has a pressure sore. :mad::mad::mad:

I looked after my husband for 6 years, three of which he was confined to a wheelchair.

I took such care of his skin, I bathed, creamed and massaged any tender spots, I made him stand a little, I moved him around and made him change positions. His skin integrity remained intact.

In every nursing home he has ever been in my husband has had a fall, and has also sustained cuts and bruises to his face. He has a head tremor and he has to be helped and supported very carefully when transfers are undertaken.

In the last three months he has the obligatory fall, and head bruising. He's had a chest infection, a couple of eye infections and now a pressure sore.

Did he have any of this when he was at home - what do you think???

And this is the best nursing home I could find.

LW -I was just like you. I was proud and arrogant, I was blind and stupid. I would not listen to reason. I would not heed advice. I blithely ignored all the warnings. I would not take my head out of the sand. I could do it myself - ha. I didnt need help thank you very much. I don't want strangers in my home.

I was Stupid, Stupid, Stupid.

This is my Nemesis - to stand helplessly and watch my poor husband suffer. It's my own fault and it's a very bitter pill to swallow.

If only (oh the saddest words in the English Language) I had someone like me around to make the earlier me see sense I could have avoided all this.

LW - take your head out of the sand. Stop being such an ostrich. For God's sake don't make my mistakes.

Yes I'm being belligerant and bossy and no doubt LW you think I'm cruel and nasty. So be it. I don't know how else to get through to you.

All Of You

When the time comes don't be like me, don't try to go it alone, get the help and support you need as soon as you start to need it. Learn from my mistakes.

I've off to visit OH but first I have to do some serious fabbing.

I have been fretting, worrying and trying to plan for most of the night. I look terrible and cannot let him see me like this. He would be upset and worry about me. I will apply some slap to cover the ravages. :rotfl:

There is one chink of light at the end of the tunnel. Last night I received some very good news of a financial nature - a legacy will be coming my way.

It will be some time but I can at least see how it offers me the chance to make the changes necessary to bring him home again.
It won't be easy.:(

Molly41

lessonlearned wrote: »

Molly

Wow thank you for that. I have often wondered about doing some kind of textile courses and I've often wondered about doing some kind of "activity" based short break.

As a new "singleton" I am still a tad unsure about holidaying on my own - WW - maybe we need to form a "Holiday Club".

I've looked at some of the specialist companies like "Just You" and whilst they do look good they do seem quite expensive. I think if I was going on "biggie" or to a destination where you really need a guide - Far East - then I would be tempted. I'm still not really ready to travel too far at the moment so a nice WI type of residential course sounds idea.

I'm really struggling today - see next post.

I have been on my own before and many other ladies go on their own. You soon become part of the activity group and then people tend to eat lunch together etc. I really cant fault the place and my husband is happy for me to go alone as he knows that I will be safe and happy.

fedupandskint

Firstly LL - go ahead and vent on here - it is the place to do it. I understand how you feel as this is a horrible situation to be in. Hope things pick up for you soon x

Secondly, much more frivolous point.

Walked into town and collected the last 2 summer skirts. One for work and one for leisure. Work one is classic length and second one is maxi length. Came home and tried them on. Trepidation turned into disbelief. They both fitted absolutely fine. 2 x size 8 skirts fitted into for the first time. Ok, they had elasticated waist bands and I think they are generously cut. This time last year I was squeezing into a size 14 and now some size 10's are too big and have fitted into an 8. Weird and bizarre more than amazing. Feels unbelievable more than anything else and a little like a weird secret that isn't true. Not sure why I can't believe it.

Anyway this afternoon will be a nice long walk with the dog and some ironing and generally taking things pretty easily before making a nice proper tea. That's how I can tell I'm feeling better as I feel like cooking something again rather than reheating and shoving something into the oven to cook

Have a good afternoon everyone

WelshWoofer

fedupandskint wrote: »

Came home and tried them on. Trepidation turned into disbelief. They both fitted absolutely fine. 2 x size 8 skirts fitted into for the first time.
This time last year I was squeezing into a size 14 and now some size 10's are too big and have fitted into an 8.

That's flipping brilliant!!!!!:j:j:j
Well done you!

Your recent posts have actually inspired me to get off my backside and get on with the flab loss. Today I have trotted/jogged for about 45 mins with the dog, mowed the lawn and had a bath and washed my hair, done a face scrub and defuzzed - look a bit more presentable now.
I've also tried on most of my summer clothes, maxi dresses and bikinis. Now the bikini bit was :eek: (all white wobbly bits) but the clothes were surprisingly ok - everything still did up and looked ok but I know they'd look better with about a stone less of me.

So, as of tomorrow the new me will start to emerge! (very slowly I imagine!):rotfl:

System

Have to agree fedupandskint, your posts are completely inspiring!! Wow, well done you :j:j I know slow and sure is the best way, how long did it take you to get to your happy weight if you don't mind me asking

LL, sorry to read about the hard times you have been through and I can't even begin to understand. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and advice.

evilsquid1603

well thats the great manchester run over with for another year :j

my official time was 1 hour 34, i felt my blood sugar dropping just as i got past united so i had to take it easy. pushed a bit when i got the jelly babies at 8km and over took a bear, a panda and a group of insects :rotfl:

old trafford seems to be my bad luck charm, every year somethings gone belly up just as i get there.

lessonlearned

Hello again

Well - this mornings post was a bit me, me, me - sorry for that. I'm feeling better now, a lot more positive.

I've told OH that he will be coming home at some point but that it will probably take several months to get everything in place. His his face lit up. I've confirmed that he is by no means in there for the rest of his life so he's happy to sit tight while I go into organisation mode. He knows what I'm capable of when I get going.

I hauled a nurse in to look at OH's pressure sore because it still hadn't been dressed and she sorted it there and then. I've got his favourite carer and my favourite nurse on the case now.:) I shall be watching them closely to make sure things don't slip again.

I'll probably get myself a bad reputation for being the relative from hell but frankly I don't really care. I will make sure he's looked after properly.

WW & Rachel - May I join you in your bids to lose a stone. I really have slipped off the "healthy eating wagon" - tomorrow it is then.:rotfl:

I will walk, I will eat properly and I will exercise. Girl Guides honour, dib, dib, dib and all that.

I bought a melon yesterday and there's a scrappy banana which is only fit for a smoothie so will add that to some berries in the freezer. That will be my nice healthy breakfast and I will go shopping for some fruit and veg tomorrow.

Sparkles:T:T:T What can we say. Graduation with honours and distinction I think. You are an absolute inspiration. A size 8 indeed. Old lardy here will settle for a 14, although a 12 would be wonderful. My knees would appreciate me shifting some of this blubber too.

Off to cook dinner and a nice rest this evening.

Oh and as part of my new healthy eating and exercising routine I shall start going to bed earlier too.;)

lessonlearned

evilsquid1603 wrote: »

well thats the great manchester run over with for another year :j

my official time was 1 hour 34, i felt my blood sugar dropping just as i got past united so i had to take it easy. pushed a bit when i got the jelly babies at 8km and over took a bear, a panda and a group of insects :rotfl:

old trafford seems to be my bad luck charm, every year somethings gone belly up just as i get there.

:T:T:T:T

Well done you. That is fantastic.

WelshWoofer

lessonlearned wrote: »

Hello again


WW & Rachel - May I join you in your bids to lose a stone. I really have slipped off the "healthy eating wagon" - tomorrow it is then.:rotfl:

I will walk, I will eat properly and I will exercise. Girl Guides honour, dib, dib, dib and all that.

Course you can!
Now this is going to get confusing as my real name is Rachel too! I'll stick to Woofer to avoid it all getting a bit muddled.

Glad to hear that you have a plan of attack for OH - I'm sure you'll acheive it, you are one determined woman!

Evilsquid - now that's just showing off;) Well done you! I might join you next year.

Had a mini smoking wobble this afternoon - for some unexplained reason I started thinking of cigarettes and nothing else - took myself and the dog off for a walk for an hour and thankfully it passed. Weird - it came from nowhere - just sat down doing some schoolwork. Hmmm.....

Right off to make my final tea of abandon before I start being good again tomorrow.:p