Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

evilsquid1603

adelight, im sending love you you and your family. my nana was exactly the same, looked like she was fine and then just went downhill so quickly. we had doctors accusing us of neglect when she went in because when we weren't there with her she just didn't eat, take medicine or do anything for herself but smoke fags all day and we didn't realise just what she was doing until she went into hospital and we could have a proper look around her house.

I've thought about selling stuff but i think my stash has gotten a bit OCDish now. one of my best friends OCD has come back and he thinks he recognises the signs of it. he used to buy random stuff off ebay all the time to keep and look at with the idea that he'd sell it one day and my toiletries stash has kind of become a crutch. i feel like i'll be ok because my pride and making myself look good are all i have left and i get genuinely panicky if i *think* I'm starting to run low (even when I'm not). i have 1/4 of a cleanser left, 2 small sizes of one and 2 other travel ones and only by winning a 100ml liz earle one and knowing thats coming have the "oh god I'm running out! what am i going to do with no cleanser???" thoughts stopped. i only have 1/2 a mini bottle of my Liz Earle eyebright left and I'm starting to get a bit "oh god i need to replace it. how will i? i need another one!".

I've also been OCD about having to have my phone with me and knowing where it is for years and i used to get bad thinking i had no credit so i HAD to buy more "just in case" so i don't think coming off contract will be helpful. I'm on a pretty good one atm, its only £15 a month. i used to spend way more than that on PAYG anyway.

my parents have agreed to pay for the gym for now, if I'm going down the navy route i need to get fit and i need to do it fast so i need all the extra classes to go to and weights to work on my upper body strength because i have none and i need to be able to do 30 proper press ups in under a min. I'm currently on 15 "girly" ones before i die and my arm muscles start shaking everywhere. i also need to loose nearly 3 stone and fast to get in a healthy BMI range.

adelight

i was just thinking navy/raf for you! could you advertise gcse tutoring in law/science? exams are coming up and even if you're not a teacher you could get up to £10/hr?
hmm can you just stop buying anything new or stop your box subscriptions? taking pride in your appearance is one thing, but risking a future career for it is not worth it. if you feel you're getting out of control then maybe talk to someone or even ask your parents to help monitor your spending. i know it sounds a bit extreme but you don't want to risk harming your chances of a career in law. i really hope you can figure something out. i am the sort of person that puts 100% into things and ends up half killing themselves quite literally, i think i would probably be listing a kidney on ebay right now :rotfl:
i was just thinking a cheaper contract. are you on sim only or the position to change contract? if you check hotdealsuk and stuff you can get monthly rolling contracts for <£5 a month. ditch a box, downgrade contract that's already £20 less a month. sorry i'm in busy body mode.

thankfully the hospital haven't said anything cruel like that to us. they were shocked she still lived home alone so well and it is thanks to my mum, i know everyone thinks their mum is the dogs bollox but my mum really is i am already thinking "damn i need to save up for a house with a granny flat!" for my mum.

evilsquid1603

i'll have a look at tutoring tomorrow, I'm back at the job centre monday so i'll see what they say too.

I'm already on sim only. i have an iPhone and I'm one of the few people left with the completely unlimited data contracts so i don't want to give that up if i can help it because i'll never be able to get it back.

I'm trying to stop buying new, things i know i have lots of i'm fine not buying but when i get it into my head that I'm running out of one thing thats when i get all "i need to replace it now!". I've only got amarya now, i know this sounds sad but it gives me something to live for atm. its a nice something to look forward to in the endless drudgery of the job centre, interviews and rejections.

the only thing in worried about is if i go to my GP and try the military they get my medical records and i don't want to go for a medical for a job that involves me handling weapons, being in charge of other peoples lives in a highly stressful wartime situation and being away from home for long periods whilst saying I'm mentally ill, i have depression and possibly OCD but honestly I'm fine with rifles!

i went to my GP two years ago and they were useless, just dosed me up on happy pills and sent me off to a trainee councillor they had. the first time i was bad i had a proper hospital psychologist and even she took ages getting me right again. an inexperienced person who isn't even qualified is just not what i need and i know the waiting lists on the NHS are just horrific for anything proper. plus I'm trying to avoid those pills as much as possible, yes they stopped me getting very low but i did try to kill myself when i first started taking them (it was very half hearted and all i could find in the house was nytol, lemsip and antihistamines. i just had this overwhelming urge to take every drug i could find even though i knew i didn't want to die, it was awful) and when i stopped taking them i was white as a sheet, hallucinating and passing out for days.

adelight

just make a post on gumtree and join a site like uktutors.
someone here will have some good advice for you regarding the gp stuff. i've never been in a situation like that myself, always someone's crutch (or crotch, i like changing words for juvenile alternatives in my head to cheer myself up!)

bratz81

podperson wrote: »

bratz - I'm hoping to lose some weight as well so figure no point in buying lots of new things (even if I could afford it!) but am trying to get a few bits so I don't fall into my usual trap of thinking that I'll only buy things when I lose the weight and then looking like a complete scruff in my old, ill-fitting things in the meantime

yes, this is exactly how I feel! When things don't fit properly you don't look or feel as good - but I've bought some beautiful dresses and only got wearing once or twice before they don't fit which isn't nice either. Did sell them on ebay and use that to buy more clothes so it's not all bad

LL - I hope you don't think too badly of me but I don't feel able to read that thread. After being mentally and physically abused by my mother and first husband - until only around 4 yeas ago - I just don't feel strong enough to read it without setting myself back.

tru

Morning girlies

I need fixing. Too much stress over the last three months. The worst is over, just need to get next tuesday out of the way. Chocolate, wine and cigarettes have helped massively

Chocolate - it's almost become a need, it's normal to have it every day. I've told myself it's OK not have some today. So we'll see how that goes, lol.

Cigs - I roll my own. When I buy the tobacco, I'll make loads of cigs - cos I'm organised and like things to be ready for when I want them. Lately I've noticed that this causes me to smoke more, just because they're there. So I've left the tobacco in the pouch and I'm making one when I want one. Half the time I can't be bothered to make one so I don't bother. So far so good.

Wine - not too bad, I drank some on the really stressy days, not all the time. I don't buy it very often, outside of Christmas it's probably twice a year. I've been drinking the stuff from Christmas, then it was my birthday last month and most of my pressies were wine so I've been drinking that. I have three and half bottles left. I'll probably finish the half-bottle on tuesday night as a celebration of never having to see or deal with a certain evil, lying cow again The other bottles probably won't be touched for months.

tru

Oooh meant to say - fab video Podperson :T

lessonlearned

Good morning Ladies

Bratz - Of course I won't think badly of you for not reading that thread. If it's too close for comfort then don't go there. I think it has been deleted now anyway - unless it's me just being daft but I couldn't find it last night.

Adelight - I am sorry to hear about your nan - my best wishes to all your family. It must be a very difficult sad time for you all.

Evilsquid - just hang in there sweetie. You have a lot on your plate right now. Just as banks and law firms have rules about financial difficulties etc I understand that the military also have rules about medical conditions.

My heart does go out to you - you seem to be thwarted at every turn at the moment. Stay strong and just try and navigate your way through the maze. You OH and family sound very supportive.

Times are so tough at the moment, partners, families and friends need to come together to get through it all. Just been watching an item on Breadfast TV about food banks etc - is it me or does anyone find it deeply shocking that we have come to this, when even people who have jobs still have to rely on food banks.

Noticed that Cameron was referred to recently as "Just a posh boy who doesn't know the price of milk" - by a member of his own party:rotfl:. Sad thing is she was right. Talk about fiddling whilst Rome burns.

Tru - cigarettes, wine and chocolate hmmmmnnnnn.

Perhaps you should just tackle one at a time, easiest first.

I think that a little alcohol now and again won't harm, in fact it can be beneficial - especially red wine. A couple of squares of chocolate each day won't kill you. As for cigarettes - well if you can't kick them completely just gradually reduce your intake.

Provided you are not chain smoking, knocking back a couple of bottles a day and are diabetic then I'm sure you won't have done too much damage.

Went to see Mum & Dad - they are 87 and 86 respectively. Dad is still pretty much ok, but mum has become what she always calls "a poor soul". She can just about shuffle around the house and that's it, Dad is virtually her carer. He's finding it hard but absolutely refuses help.

I set up a meeting with Social Services but Dad showed them the door. My sister and I have had to back off because our offers of help were seen as "bossy interfering" and was causing bad feeling.I guess we'll just have to wait until there's a crisis and then try and pick up the pieces. It is such a worry though, what can you do.:o. They seem to be living off ready meals and what can only be termed "crap". Mum can't really cook any more and dad never did bother to learn. Sigh.

Oh well time for my bath, and then toddle off to see OH. Going to try visiting earlier in the day to see if it's less tiring for him - then he can have a proper nap. If I visit in the afternoon he won't have a nap, so going to change the visits to either late morning or early evening.

Was hoping to take him out for a spin but looking at the weather it doesnt look like it's going to be possible. I know we do need rain but ...........

When I rule the world I will pass a law that says it will rain from midnight until 7-00am and then it can be nice during the day. Would you vote for me???

tru

lessonlearned wrote: »

When I rule the world I will pass a law that says it will rain from midnight until 7-00pm each night and then it can be nice during the day. Would you vote for me???

No. But I will if you switch those times around Ooooh just noticed your edit, lol

My wine is cheap, white, sweet fizz, no benefits there, lol.

The cigs are automatically being cut down, what with the hassle of having to roll one each time.

The choc is the big problem I hate dark choc, it has to be dairy milk. I KNOW I'll end up with diabetes if I carry on like this.

lessonlearned

Tru - do you have a family history of diabetes. If so do you have regular blood tests. I do, my mum has it now and her mum before her. I get regular blood tests - so far I'm fine.

I don't know whether it's true or not but I read that oatmeal is good for helping to regulate insulin levels, something about cleaning the blood.??? Porridge, flapjacks, oat biscuits etc. Because I can't eat much wheat I often have oatcakes instead of bread. Perhaps my oatmeal consumption is helping, or avoiding wheat has helped me or maybe I've just been lucky so far.

I understand that low GI (Glycaemic Index) foods also help. I'm sorry I think that's spelt incorrectly. Things like swapping mashed/jacket potatoes for new potatoes, avoiding large amounts of "white" foods, i.e.. switching white pasta, white bread for wholemeal versions.

Anyway - must dash........