The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

WiseOldBird_2

Just a quick note - good luck for today. I'm sure it'll bring you and your dad closer. Must be upsetting for him to find out what your mum's really like though. Give him lots of love and reassurance, his world must be collapsing. Nothing like thinking about others to help you forget your own worries. Happy Easter - and to your little ones.

JoKay_2

First post here - thinking of you all this morning Weller, glad you're back again with your dad...

dinkytwostep

:easter: Hello Sweetheart
From reading your posts I'm struck by how alike you and your Dad are. You both think the world of each other, adore your children & would never hurt anyone intentionally. You have a very strong bond between you which I reckon your mum is very jealous of (But that's HER problem not yours :rolleyes: )
Would you suggest to your dad that maybe he gets a PC/laptop & broadband installed in the room he uses most (which your mum uses least). It would mean he could MSM you or go onto the internet when he's feeling lonely. The idea of him having a mobile is good. Keep it PAYG and text him before you go to ring on the house phone - that way if your mum should answer he will be nearby to take the phone from her!
Give him plenty of hugs and reassure him that your house is a place he'll always be welcome to visit. He's going through a horrible time at the moment so please let your home be somewhere he can 'switch off' from what is going on in his own house.
Easter Sunday is traditionally a family day - but he needs to be assured that he's still very much part of your family.
Please remember that the problems in his marriage are between him and your mum and that you are in no way responsible for any of it
... your mum will do her best to make you think you are ... but you are not and NEVER have been ... it's your MUM who is at fault.

Here endeth the sermon (how I wish I could write like ZTD and sum everything up in a few sentences!!!!:rolleyes: :rolleyes: )

ZTD

dinkytwostep wrote: »

Here endeth the sermon (how I wish I could write like ZTD and sum everything up in a few sentences!!!!:rolleyes: :rolleyes: )

You write pretty damn well as it is - don't knock it!

lou_lou_skinty_poos

been a while since ive been on to look at ure progress weller although uve had ups and downs with everything i think ure doin really well stay strong and as much as you shouldnt have too from now on id just never believe a word your mother says.

keeping you and your dad apart is an act of pure selfishness :mad: and i think a bit of desperation like ztd says shes just digging a deeper hole for herself!!! what your mother is hoping to achieve here i dont know but shes actually showing herself up for what she really is selfish and manipulative.

good luck with everything hope your husband gets a permanent job again and everything turns out great for you its what u deserve best wishes lou lou

verderci

I am in a similar situation and end up robbing Peter to pay Paul, but hiding it all from my family, the stress takes it's toll and makes me so unhappy - I would love to do a "Shirley Valentine". I feel like I've let everyone down (especially myself!). Sending you a "big hug"

chevalier

Isn't it great how asking the right question (ie poster asking you how did you know that your dad wasn't talking to you) can change everything again? WOW:T

Your poor dad caught in the middle of this. And I am speechless about your mum:mad: I can't ever imagine a time when I would do that to one of my DS's, that is just so so vengeful. I feel very sorry for all of you.

I hope that you are enjoying your day with your dad. And well done to your dad for giving your the money. One thing, though, might it not be better to take it into a branch personally rather than posting it? And if you do post it make sure it is sent registered so they can't say they didn't get it on x day.

chev

kathfisch

Weller, I hope the talk with your dad went well and that the two of you will be strong together from now on, with as little interference from your mum as possible.

Take care,

Kath x

Sugarhunny1

Just a wee bump, How did yesterday go? Hope your all enjoying the good weather!

Sugar xxx

moonlightpjs

Well, Sunday went quite well, as well as could be expected any anyway. Dad looked terrible and drawn but soon cheered up when he saw the kids and enjoyed playing with them. He's going to but a PAYG mobile so I can keep in touch with him and hime with me. He says he doesn't know my Mum anymore and is distraught about what shes done. He did tell me some things about her childhood that I didn't know which makes me feel despartely sorry for her but my dad also had a bad childhood and whilst he wasn't the greatest Dad while I was growing up, very strict, always in the pub etc he now sees that he was wrong and is a totally different man. On the other hand, I can now understand something about my Mum but, in my mind, that doesn't excuse the things shes done. Suely, you wouldn't want your child to go through what you did?? Well, not in my opinion anyway.

I told my Dad that i think my Mum needs to talk to somebody proffessinaly but he didn't say much.

On a brighter note, Andy rang up about a job he found on the internet this morning and has got an interview at 1pm today, so keeping everything crossed. I phoned the mortgage company up this morning, explained what had happened and they were fine, I checked on the Royal Mail website and the cheque has been signed for. We just have to make sure payment is made on time next month.

Had a lovely day yesterday sorting the shed and garage out ( I know it doesn't sound like fun but it was honestly, and found lots of stuff to e-bay and car boot. Have even persuaded my hubby to part with some of his beloved tools - well, who on earth needs 7 hammers?? He says every one does a different job but I think he's having me on. I couldn't believe the amount of tools he has and hes very pecious about them and while he does need some for his work, the amount he has got is unbeleiveable. Men eh?

Thanks for all your good wishes xx