The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

maralum

Dearest weller,

Well, you know how me and mine feel about you, so I won't get soppy or I'll blush! Just woke up this morning (that'll be the pregnancy insomnia then) and wanted to add our support.

I think you're doing a fabulous job of keeping on top of everything and know that I couldn't stay as strong and positive and loving as you do. Your husband and children (and lots of the people on this board apparently!) adore you, so you must be a very shiny star indeed.

Not much more I can add really, just take care of yourself and that lovely family of yours. With all the world's best wishes, Mara x

Dumyat

nice to see your later posts sounding more like you!
hopefully there will be a way of sorting this money stuff out. Its just such a pity its a holiday weekend.

looks like its going to be another nice day....get the coats on and get down the local park. some fresh air and fun would do you all the world of good.....and its free

catewithers

Glad to see you're sounding more postive. Keep going. You can do this. Try and enjoy the lovely weather and the holiday weekend with your beautiful children. X

moonlightpjs

Well I finally got through to my dad, started crying (again!!!!) and he said of course he would lend us the money so hes going to drop a cheque off tonight made payable to the mortgage people so I will ring them on Tuesday, explain the situation and tell them my a cheque is on its way. He is going to make it payable to them and I am going to post it as soon as I get it. Am also going to cancel the dierct debit cos when that isn't paid they may start getting funny and I dont want to incur any charges or get another black mark against us so as long as I phone them first thing on Tuesday, things should be ok. Its going to be a building society cheque, does anybody know if that makes any difference?

Andy due home from work in half an hour so going to make some sandwiches etc and we are all going to the park and try and get Sam riding his bike without stabalisers (sp). He's found it really hard due to his co-ordination problems but we've no where else to go and the housework and washing can wait, so we'll be there all day if need be. We all need some fresh air and a break from the house so I'm sure it will do us all the world of good.

Dad didn't say much to me but I could tell by his voice that he had a lump in his throat and I hate it that he is in this situation with me and my Mum, I just wish he'd see her for what she is (I think he knows really but doesn't want to face it). In fact, I would go as far as saying that if Mum came clean and admitted she had lied about me, I would somehow gain the strength to have some sort of relationship with her - but only for my kids and my dads sake. Things will never be how they were with her but if I'm honest I wouldn't want them to be the same, oh I don't know, rambling again now so off to make the sandwiches etc I go.

I have also realised that if "I kill myself" that it is a purely selfish act and the people who will suffer is Andy and the kids and I love them so much that I couldn't harm a hair on their heads (well, Andy hasn't got any hair on his head so somewhere else:eek: ) and so I've done with doing that IYKWIM, the next time I feel utter despair I shall look at my family and my home and the people on here and realise how lucky I really am. I will face up to things and tackle them head on and try not to fall to pieces - i can but try!!!!

I'm going to change the title of this thread with something more positive, just dont know what yet so will update.

love to you all xxxxxxxxx

jennynoo

Hurray, things are looking up. Finger crossing works :rotfl: Actually I felt sure your dad would help. He sounds a lovely guy, especially for putting up with your mum all this time. Have fun today

jennynoo

Oh, and take some plasters with you, learning to ride a bike is a dangerous business!!

Dumyat

I'm glad your dad is going to help you out. maybe it will open up communications with you and him again.

have fun down the park. kids love that kind of stuff...a ball ..a park..hours of endless fun. hope the bike lessons go well...no injuries

elantan

brilliant news lisa just brilliant ...

Snaggles

I'm so glad your Dad was able to help weller, and I'm sure the mortgage company will be okay with waiting a few days for a cheque (it will cost them an awful lot less to wait than it would to repossess your house, that's for sure! Banks really don't like repossessing, it's the very very last resort, if they're sure there is no other way to get their money back).

I'm glad to hear you sounding so much more positive, in fact you have really made my day!!

RAS

Weller

Glad that you have found a way to sort the immediate problem and that you are feeling a bit better. Take it one step at a time at the moment and when things get tough, take a deep breath.

I know what you mean about wishing you had a different mum, just I was 3 years older than you when I decided that. Thing is you have got her, so you need to find other people who can give you the support that she cannot offer.

Take care, and have the best Easter possible. Give the kids a hug and DH as well.