Is my brother being cheeky?

scoobydoobydoo

scotsbob wrote: »

He's blood, if you need it ask for it if you don't then let it lie.

I am confused, whats "being blood" got to do with it? Either in asking or not asking?

purple.sarah

scotsbob wrote: »

He's blood, if you need it ask for it if you don't then let it lie.

She's blood! He should put paying back his family before his holiday!

anjak-j

Yes, he is being cheeky. Paying the money back should have been his first priority and should have been done as soon as he had the amount borrowed saved. I'd have no issue in asking for the money back before he left on his travels. Repeatedly if necessary. And how many times I had to ask would definitely factor in if he asked to borrow again.

To be honest, I've been stung repeatedly by family when it comes to lending money - that and the repeated horror stories of friends and acquaintances are the two reasons I really don't think lending large sums in the family is a good idea a lot of the time. The animosity it causes is not worth it.

Androcles

As others have said, family debts are always priority. The reason it has been lent to you is because you are family, so therefore the first duty is to pay it back as soon as you are able, either in full or on a regular instalment basis to show your commitment to do so.

Big expenditure on non-essentials before you have done so is not acceptable behaviour! So remind him ....firmly.

lady1964

We lent my in-laws £500 a few years ago to help them with car repairs. OH told them there was no hurry to pay it back, just when they had it. They've never paid it back and it's now at the point I feel it's too late. They'd be horribly embarassed that they haven't paid it back and we'd be too embarassed to ask now. We're as much to blame as they are, although I do feel the onus is on them to offer it back, we shouldn't have to ask.

Get the money from your brother before it's too late to ask, cheeky sod should have paid it back as soon as he was able. I would also feel that I wouldn't lend him money again.

AlainaJane31

I would definately ask your brother for the money back, I have been in this situation about 7 years ago where I had to ask my grandparents if they could lend me £250 so that I could meet the months payment on the car I had on hire purchase at the time (I was in a very bad place financially then) I made the payment but in the end lost the car.

I had forgotten all about this money they had lent to me and over the years menaged to get myself out of the debt I was in, once I was back on my feet this year they asked me outright for this money although I was embarrassed that I had forgotten about it I realised that they had lent it to me in good faith that they would get it back one day, I was more than happy to pay it back as they had hit a bad patch and needed it. I now feel happier in myself that I am no longer in debt to them.

Ask your brother for the money it is yours after all which you lent to him at a time when you had it, xmas is coming and you need it back just tell him like it is, if he sulks about it then you know never to lend him money ever again simples

j.e.j.

My take on the M.M.D. is
£500 is a lot of money. Perhaps it's slipped his mind what with the excitement of planning his travelling, etc, but I do think someone should remind him of the money he owes.

Peater

Don't 'ask' for it back. Tell him you <b>expect</b> him to honour his debts before he goes and spavs a couple of grand on himself. You selflessly helped him out in his time of need and he is selfishly helping himself.

Don't feel awkward about it or worried about upsetting the precious little man. Be matter of fact.

marywooyeah

yes he's being cheeky. you shoudn't even have to ask he should just return it. the good thing about it though is that it appears he can give it all back in one go with his lump sum savings!

gaily

If it was my brother, i'd be making sure I reminded him of the loan (too big an amount for me to forget, even if it's slipped his mind) BEFORE he booked his holiday. If he's saved that much, he should be able to afford to pay me back, and still go on a good holiday.

Otherwise, he knows his big sister has a good left hook!! (Joke!!)