Because I'm bl**dy well worth it!

hypno06

Thank you RT!

Have had a lovely day so far - superb in fact. Have laughed until I cried, have had some amazing company, a surprise visit from a friend, and everything has gone according to plan.

Oh, and several bottles of fizz have been consumed so far. All is well in hypno land

hypno06

Happy Boxing day everyone!

So far, my Christmas has been incredibly stress free - I cannot begin to tell you how much this means to me. My only fly in the ointment is that by relaxing, I have let the lurgy in, and I have developed a nasty hacking cough.....hey ho, I have the next week off work anyway so will stay relaxed and let it work its way through.

A lovely couple of days, though, so far.....might go into the City this afternoon with a friend to do a spot of sale shopping....no real plans though - all very chilled.

I hope you are all having an equally relaxing time xx

gallygirl

hypno06 wrote: »

.might go into the City this afternoon with a friend to do a spot of sale shopping.

Can you pick me up a big, squishy, soft black leather bag for around £40 please. I'll drop you the money off later. Ta missus

Sorry about the lurgy, hope it remains as a cough and doesn't turn into anything else. I had that rotten cold, feeling a bit better this morning but had to cancel friends coming round last night

hypno06

Will see what I can do, GG!!

I'm really not surprised that I have been hit with this cough,.....apart from the sickness bug of a couple of weeks ago, I have largely managed to brush off every cough and cold as soon as it appears, because I simply haven't had enough time to give into them.

I think one of my first stops on my shopping trip will be to Boots, though - I really really don't want to be floored by this one!!

Double_Trouble

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Hi Hypno what stands out amongst everything in your diaries lately (for me) is how many friends you have! I really envy this. One thing that home and children and the all consuming juggling everything has done for me is make me (without realising until this year...I'm 40) forget to have a life myself. I haven't forgotten about me totally luckily I've been able to spend on me when needed but time to make new friends and nuture my social side has been nil and I find myself in quite a family 'bubble'.....which is lovely because I have a lovely family in all senses however I still feel lonely sometimes...does that make sense?

I mean lonely because I need more friendship. I think people who know me think I have lots of friends but I don't anymore and I need to make new ones. Don't know how but I think 2012 should be the year that I open myself to bringing people into my life...the other thing is I am intensely private (no idea why?) so its 'safer' I think for me to stay as I am and easier BUT I don't want to....am I even making sense lol

Have a lovely Christmas with some of your many lovely friends...you're very rich!

I can so relate to this KM and it is hard to deal with it hope you make a better job of it than I am

Sorry for the hijack glad you had a stress free Christmas Hypno and hope the cough goes quickly

DTxx

hypno06

Hi DT, I am hoping not to let the cough drag me down - am certainly not giving in to it too much at the moment. Thankfully it is only a cough and not a cold, so I don't feel bad in myself which helps.

KM, and DT, re the friends thing - it is a difficult one to explain, but we all have something that we feel is missing, that we don't do well at. I may have friends, but I have no one who considers me special enough to want to come home to every night, to share stuff that you only want to share with a partner, blah blah blah.

People may look at me and be a little envious of my various groups of friends. I look at others and feel as though I have failed on the relationship front. Very few of us have it all.

ZTD

hypno06 wrote: »

I may have friends, but I have no one who considers me special enough to want to come home to every night, to share stuff that you only want to share with a partner, blah blah blah.

Unfortunately you don't know that. Relationships are two sided, and there may be someone looking at you going. "It's a shame she doesn't consider me special enough to come home to every night..."

Sometimes lives move in parallel, but just never quite touch.

hypno06 wrote: »

People may look at me and be a little envious of my various groups of friends. I look at others and feel as though I have failed on the relationship front.

:grouphug:

Don't talk shite woman...

You only fail when you stop trying. Or stop risking things. "Life begins where your comfort zone ends..."

hypno06 wrote: »

Very few of us have it all.

Nobody has it all.

Knitting_Nora

Don't argue with Z....no good can come of it....

But I do think it's an important step to understand where we are strong (if you have friends, then it's because you appreciate them, and they appreciate you - trust me, people don't stick around if that's not the case), and where we would like to see more going on - just so we have a bit of direction to our lives.

I always thought that if we had it all, that would be a desperately sad affair since we'd have nothing else to reach for. Well, that was far too deep for me *scuttles off for a choccie*

Nora.x

MrsMoo2U

Interested in the friends discussion...... for many years I had no friends when I was married (or rather no close friends just for me), then when I got divorced I opened myself up to friendship and found a few people who have become quite close friends. Then I moved away and now have nobody nearby who I can just have coffee with and that has made me feel lonely. The trick is to understand the different levels of friendship I guess. For me I would like friends that I can have a bit of fun with (nothing deeper) so that is my aim for the New Year, to get out and meet new people and make new acquaintances who share my interests.

Z is so right....... for many years me and my now OH skirted around the issue that we were wanting more than friendship..... we ended up going our seperate ways never knowing....... 20+ years later we got together and all of our still remaining friends and my family said About Time.........

Hypno...... move out of your comfort zone and you will find that special somebody. I think that you mentioned about on line dating and levels of confidence....... my friend does on line dating and I often (when single) was amazed that she had the confidence. Then I look at how many people I have befriended on this forum and think that on line dating is just the same as this really........ my friend chats with people for a while before arranging to meet up with them. Give it a go...... if you can do burlesque you can have a bit of fun chatting on line.

ZTD

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

Don't argue with Z....no good can come of it....

Oh, no - hypno knows me, so always argues...

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

I always thought that if we had it all, that would be a desperately sad affair since we'd have nothing else to reach for. Well, that was far too deep for me *scuttles off for a choccie*

So I guess that proces that someone who has everything, can always reach for a choccie...