Neighbour finds our christmas lights "annoying"...

Gloomendoom

raven83

You should see my neighbours house...the front is fine but the back....well they have loads of lights all around the garden and inflatable things that are lit up and on the back she they have 3 light up characters.....which they havent turned off once since they put them up not even in the day :eek: I was a bit worried when i went to bed as i thought maybe it would be bright in the bedroom, but tbh it didnt really make any difference, just as well coz i like a dark room to sleep in:o

Anyways its only for a couple of weeks of the year so i just say live and let live, plus my kids love looking into their garden, i think they want our garden to be like that, but tbh...its not really my cup of tea, lights yes, inflatables etc NOOOOOO! :rotfl:

But each man to their own and all!

PinkLipgloss

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Bumpmakesfour

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

Feast your eyes on this lovely collection...

http://www.uglychristmaslights.com/2010_collection/lawn_glow.html


:rotfl:

No need to post a pic now...you blew my cover posting my link ^^

Kay_Peel

What are you going to do now that the neighbour has raised her concern about the annoyance?

seriousDFW

I have to say I disagree with people on here who say you should do as you like and she should just shut her curtains.

What has happened to people being considerate of other people? Your children may like the lights, but why should their happiness come at the expense of someone else's? It's quite possible that the lights are very irritating to the person opposite, and it's unfair for them to have to shut themselves away because of your lights. Having been the victim of inconsiderate neighbours playing loud music and making me feel uncomfortable and unsafe in my own home, I can understand that bright lights could do the same.

I'm all for people doing as they please if it doesn't cause harm to anyone else, but please consider that this could be distressing to this person. It could be a chance to teach your children a lesson in compromise and consideration for others. They needn't enjoy themselves any less - some less bright lights or fewer of them will still look good, and you can decorate their bedrooms with as many lights as you/they wish, as this will certainly not cause anyone else any discomfort!

xoxo_2

I don't see the problem with it. But to try and keep the peace a bit could you maybe turn them off earlier? I guess by 10pm your kids are fast asleep so wouldn't notice if they were off?

*Redhead*

I'd keep them up.

Not as if you have them up all year.

I love christmastime though so I'm biased

seriousDFW

*Redhead* wrote: »

I'd keep them up.

Not as if you have them up all year.

I love christmastime though so I'm biased

I love Christmas too. OP's neighbour may love Christmas. Still doesn't mean it is right to have such a blase attitude towards people like this. For all we know, the lights and 3 characters could be really intrusive to the person who has to look AT them from across the road. This means they can't relax in their own home. Yes the person may be a busybody making something over nothing, but it is entirely plausibe she is not, and this is causing real anxiety.

The spirit of Christmas is NOT to daub your house with masses of light, it's to be kind, giving, considerate and thankful to others. Don't get me wrong, inside my house there will be lots of Christmas decorations and lots of fun, but if I thought any of my Christmas decorations were causing someone else to feel uncomfortable in their own home, I would seriously consider changing them, as I would not feel comfortable causing someone that kind of stress.

It's very unfair to be so flippant and say that the neighbour should mind her own business and just deal with it. This is the attitude of a lot of people and it serves only to make every party involved unhappy.

Bumpmakesfour

seriousDFW wrote: »

I have to say I disagree with people on here who say you should do as you like and she should just shut her curtains.

What has happened to people being considerate of other people? Your children may like the lights, but why should their happiness come at the expense of someone else's? It's quite possible that the lights are very irritating to the person opposite, and it's unfair for them to have to shut themselves away because of your lights. Having been the victim of inconsiderate neighbours playing loud music and making me feel uncomfortable and unsafe in my own home, I can understand that bright lights could do the same.

I'm all for people doing as they please if it doesn't cause harm to anyone else, but please consider that this could be distressing to this person. It could be a chance to teach your children a lesson in compromise and consideration for others. They needn't enjoy themselves any less - some less bright lights or fewer of them will still look good, and you can decorate their bedrooms with as many lights as you/they wish, as this will certainly not cause anyone else any discomfort!

I totally understand.We have put up with early morning opera doorstep cleaning missions,her three yappy dogs barking and barking for hours on end in the garden.We've not complained about not being able to get our babies to sleep because her latest lodger is fixing his car on the road just under the bedroom window with his techno blaring out at ten/eleven pm whilst she hands him cups of tea knowing we have young kids upstairs.We only ever asked very politely twice to access/leave our drive when her sons car was left parked across it.We drop in a xmas card each year and the kids gave her some chocs last year.So she has shown little or no consideration towards us but STILL we feel bad about putting a few lights on our own house!I'll sleep on it but honestly feel she's just moaning for the sake of moaning:o