How to turn down a wedding invitation?

SimonAndJane_2

We got invited to a mutual friends wedding last year, but it unfortunately clashed with our holiday to the Maldives we had booked months earlier. The friend in question was someone my husband worked with and although a friend, not one of our best.
When we recieved the invitation and told them we would be unable to change our holiday they got really rather annoyed and have since cut us from their social circle!

Very unfair we both thought as we explained the mitigating circumstances but to no avail.....some people!

TimBear

I'd just say I'm busy.

Although - if you're only in a small office and the wedding is a weekday, surely you wouldn't all be allowed annual leave at the same time?

Brighton_belle

Oh my word, she sounds:eek:.
I was going to suggest that surely you can't commit to taking a day off work before you know if that will be possible with your new job.
But I see you have found another way. I am glad you didn't feel guilted into attending.

bubbles0169

SimonAndJane wrote: »

We got invited to a mutual friends wedding last year, but it unfortunately clashed with our holiday to the Maldives we had booked months earlier. The friend in question was someone my husband worked with and although a friend, not one of our best.
When we recieved the invitation and told them we would be unable to change our holiday they got really rather annoyed and have since cut us from their social circle!

Very unfair we both thought as we explained the mitigating circumstances but to no avail.....some people!

its their loss! i wouldnt even class them as friends if they react like that!

OP its her problem that she cant deal with everything, not yours so stop feeling guilty

74jax

I have had a text from B2B this morning.

As you'll know from the thread I'm currently signed off sick and unfortunately the doctor this morning signed me off for a further 4 weeks.

I'm friendly with the 2 other girls in the office and text them about the extra 4 weeks off work.

They must have been talking about it in the office because the B2B has just text me (she's not text me in the 9 weeks i've been off work) and said:

Got your reply. You never mentioned you were going away.

And that's it :eek: I'm thinking of reply something like 'oh yeah, probably just Spain like last year, but nothing planned yet' trying to keep it light and simple?

I might be stressing cos I'm off work and not in the office but would that reply be ok? I hope to be back to work soon and don't want any hard feeling?

stir_crazy

I would keep short like that, maybe say thats definitely the only time you can go.

Luckyred

"Got your reply. You never mentioned you were going away." Was that it? Didnt she have the decency to ask how you are?
She sounds a bit self obsessed to me.
You have given your reasons for being unable to attend... end of! If she doesnt like it thats her problem.
If she goes on about it I would just say something like "I am sorry I cant come. I have explained the reason why so there is no point keep bringing it up so can we just leave it please".
I could understand her being upset if you were family or her best friend but you arent so I cant really see what she is making a fuss about.
I hope there are no hard feelings when you go back to work. A sensible adult would understand why you have declined the invitation. Unfortunately she sounds not only immature but positively childish and selfish. Good Luck!

RainbowDrops

I'd say don't bother getting into a dialogue, why should you have to justify yourself?

nickki44

RainbowDrops wrote: »

I'd say don't bother getting into a dialogue, why should you have to justify yourself?

i agree

you have replied - she has no concern about you or your health - just ignore any further interaction if it os on this level

xx

Jewelleryfan

74jax wrote: »

They must have been talking about it in the office because the B2B has just text me (she's not text me in the 9 weeks i've been off work) and said:

Got your reply. You never mentioned you were going away.

And that's it :eek: I'm thinking of reply something like 'oh yeah, probably just Spain like last year, but nothing planned yet' trying to keep it light and simple?

Blimey :eek: this just keeps getting better and better :rotfl:

I would keep it blunt and to the point, you have very nicely declined the invite and given her a perfectly understandable reason so you shouldn't need to justify it to her. She obviously doesn't care enough to ask how you are and if your ok or even thanks for your reply and she understands you can't make it, so I wouldn't bother with her anymore. Let her get on with her own little world :eek: