Virtual Sex - cheating or 'just p@rn'

Errata

candygirl wrote: »

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Right I get you now, so you agree that cyber sex with another person while in a relationship is wrong.I know a lot of blokes see them both as the same thing, mainly because they're soo used to objectifying women:(

Cyber sex with an unknown woman demeans and trivialises women and an intimate act of love.

DS4215

Errata wrote: »

Cyber sex with an unknown woman demeans and trivialises women and an intimate act of love.

What about with a known woman?

DS4215

I think there is a spectrum that ranges from p0rn (photos/videos, etc) that is purely one-dimensional. At the other extreme you have "fantasy" chats with two (or more) people interacting, which can be purely text or include pics/vids, etc. Some of it you can pay for, but if you can pay for it someone will offer it for free.

For most men a lot of this is nothing more than a means to an end, but that doesn't mean it is right...

benjus

lynseyloop wrote: »

If he has been doing this, I know he's 'chosen' to do so, but if the sites weren't there in the first place then he wouldn't be able to!

That's the kind of thinking that has lead to women being forced to wear the Burqa in certain cultures. People do have self-control and need to take responsibility for their actions, not just blame whoever/whatever it was that tempted them.

TimBear

It'd be cheating to me. Why is it different if someone is doing that online with a 'stranger', to sexting a 'real life' friend?

Mayflower10cat

This may sound very devious, but..... a few years ago when I was cleaning up the hard-drive of our old desktop pooter, I came across quite a lot of rather dubious .jpegs which had been deleted, but of course, not overwritten yet, so they could still be restored. At the time my DH had been working with a single man in his early thirties who, shall we say, prided himself on his unfailing success with women, many of them way older than him. I gave DH the benefit of the doubt, pretty damn' sure that the Lothario friend would have egged him on to visit certain sites just for a giggle and almost certainly sent him dubious photos. He'd texted him some really filthy jokes that even husband wouldn't share with me! I noted down the addresses of the sites hosting the images and, on our old computer and also our current new one, I went into 'internet options' and 'content' and I turned on parental controls for sites rated '18's only' and I also password-protected the sites that I''d listed as visited........ Well, all I can say is, I've not found anything dubious since and DH hasn't worked with the womanising friend for years. I felt a bit sneaky doing this but I did make the discoveries totally innocently. If DH had been really techy he could have covered his tracks far better, so in a way I felt reassured I'd always know how to check up on him if I ever needed to. Which I haven't!

Peater

That is devious...

So it this:

When i was living at my parent's as a teenager, we had 1 family computer. As a teenage boy would, i 'explored' shall we say. I thought i had my trail covered with deleteing browser history/cookies etc. However, one day we had a guy come in to do a website for my mother's business. He installed 'Picasa' on our computer to manipulate some images for the site. It searched for every media file on the hard disk and up popped a load of pictures that i had definatley seen before. The guy laughed and said 'you dirty little !!!!!!'. My mother was also present which was mortifying so i denied it and blamed it on my Dad!! Later on, when my mother confronted my dad, he accepted it and apologised. My Dad took the hit for me, unbeknowns to him. I still havent told him, it was 10+ years ago. I feel dreadful now! hahaha!

Mayflower10cat

Peater wrote: »

My mother was also present which was mortifying so i denied it and blamed it on my Dad!! Later on, when my mother confronted my dad, he accepted it and apologised. My Dad took the hit for me, unbeknowns to him. I still havent told him, it was 10+ years ago. I feel dreadful now! hahaha!

Ahh! NOW I know where John Bishop got his 'wife discovers pron on family PC' routine from!!!!

Peater

I shall have to check that out. I'm sure its a familiar story in households up and down the land!

*Louise*

Peater wrote: »

However, one day we had a guy come in to do a website for my mother's business. He installed 'Picasa' on our computer to manipulate some images for the site. It searched for every media file on the hard disk and up popped a load of pictures that i had definatley seen before. The guy laughed and said 'you dirty little !!!!!!'. My mother was also present which was mortifying so i denied it and blamed it on my Dad!! Later on, when my mother confronted my dad, he accepted it and apologised. My Dad took the hit for me, unbeknowns to him. I still havent told him, it was 10+ years ago. I feel dreadful now! hahaha!

Your Dad must have been guilty of it as well if he didn't realise he was taking the hit for you :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: