Sexting:(

BitterAndTwisted

Oh, absolutely no discussion needed. I suspect that will just result in yet another smack in the mouth for the OP.

Have you packed yet?

Lotus-eater

I remember the last thread and thought she may be back. And she is. Have you learnt enough to leave yet?

Tiddlywinks

On 16th of November in your last thread, you said:

" Hi everyone.Thanks for all your replies.I have been mulling them all over, and had a good talk to him last night, and a cry:o:o
He told me a few things about his past that made me realise why he gets so pent up about stuff, and he has agreed to go to the docs this week to get counselling:o
I am very on my guard at the moment though, but since last week he has been fine, loving and attentive.
I know a leopard rarely changes it's spots, but i'm gonna give him another chance.If this doesn't work he has to go:( "

Now just 6 weeks down the line you are here again with another example of his poor behaviour. Why do you not trust yourself to make a decision about your future?

If you stay, you are effectively agreeing to accept anything he throws at you.

If you go, you are acknowledging that you deserve better.

Stay or don't stay - YOU have to CHOOSE - don't just limp along feeling crappy because you are unhappy in the relationship whilst refusing to deal with the realities of the position you find yourself in.

What do you feel you deserve? Happiness? Then make it happen - like the advert says... because you're worth it!

Good luck.

p.s. What about his offer to go for counselling?

TimBear

It's easier said than done, but you need to leave him. I haven't read your other thread regarding the violence but NO ONE should do that to anyone, and the fact that he's done it more than once means he's most likely to do it again.

You are worth so much more than this, and you don't need him to confirm that he's been sending these messges for you to leave. You must love him, but he surely isn't acting like he loves you. He's physcially hurt you and clearly doesn't respect you if he's sending messages like this to someone else.

It will be hard to leave him but you must do this for your own wellbeing. If he's making you feel suicidal, why would you want to stay? Please do get help if you're feeling that way, whether from friends or family or from the Samaritans.

If you were my friend I'd take you in in an instant, please do get some help x

flutterby_lil

Sounds like a right catch - from what you write, he is not interested in being a couple if he can do this.

How old are you both and how long have you been together...?

victory

Oh please listen to what the others are saying, you are better than this, this is not the right way to be treated and you know it, please do something

hazeyjewel

Thanks for all your replies.I've had a good think this week, and tried to talk to him about it all.He says he gets why i'm upset and gutted about the sexting, but says he only loves me and was doing it for a laugh :mad::mad:
I asked him how he's feel if it was the other way round, and he said he's be gutted too:(:(
I've not been able to eat or sleep this week, but don't want to split up, and neither does he:(:(
I understand why I should finish with him, but it would break my heart:(:o

balletshoes

hazeyjewel wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies.I've had a good think this week, and tried to talk to him about it all.He says he gets why i'm upset and gutted about the sexting, but says he only loves me and was doing it for a laugh :mad::mad:
I asked him how he's feel if it was the other way round, and he said he's be gutted too:(:(
I've not been able to eat or sleep this week, but don't want to split up, and neither does he:(:(
I understand why I should finish with him, but it would break my heart:(:o

so are you going to wait until he breaks your bones? to be honest, if he's already hit you more than once, and he's sexting young girls, he doesn't give a monkeys about your heart, he really really doesn't. He'll carry on doing whatever he likes, because you put up with it. He can say all the right things to your face, but its his actions that matter, not his words.

kizkiz

It sounds harsh, but you are making the decision to stay with him knowing full well what he will do to you
He will hit you
He will cheat on you
He will not change
It will not get better
You are making a conscious decision to accept this
Is that really what you want?

There is plenty of help if you want it

Money_maker

kizkiz wrote: »

It sounds harsh, but you are making the decision to stay with him knowing full well what he will do to you
He will hit you
He will cheat on you
He will not change
It will not get better
You are making a conscious decision to accept this
Is that really what you want?

There is plenty of help if you want it

OP's not ready yet - but she will be one day. After an awful lot more heartbreak and tears, when she has the self belief and willpower.

See you on your next thread, Hazey. Don't be afraid to post, someone somewhere may just be able to help you find the key to realisation of your situation x