Sexting:(

Bumpmakesfour

Money_maker wrote: »

OP's not ready yet - but she will be one day. After an awful lot more heartbreak and tears, when she has the self belief and willpower.

See you on your next thread, Hazey. Don't be afraid to post, someone somewhere may just be able to help you find the key to realisation of your situation x

This is the bit that stands out to me and I find it quite depressing tbh
Hope you find the strength to get rid of this man OP before he destroys every ounce of self esteem you have.You say it would break your heart to leave him but let's be honest here,it's doing exactly that being WITH him xxx

Emmzi

Hazey, do you have somewhere you can go for a break on your own?

I think a week or two without him may make you feel differently. It would be good for you to find out.

Keep posting. Hugs.

mandragora_2

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Read and ring.

Birdy12

hazeyjewel wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies.I've had a good think this week, and tried to talk to him about it all.He says he gets why i'm upset and gutted about the sexting, but says he only loves me and was doing it for a laugh :mad::mad:
I asked him how he's feel if it was the other way round, and he said he's be gutted too:(:(
I've not been able to eat or sleep this week, but don't want to split up, and neither does he:(:(
I understand why I should finish with him, but it would break my heart:(:o

Look at what you've written above and compare it to the last post you wrote on your previous thread 'Partner hit me'. It didn't take long for all the 'happy' faces to turn to 'sad' ones, did it.

Did he get his counselling appointment? Did he go? Did it make an ounce of difference?

Everyone always has a choice. In this instance, you have 2 choices:

You leave and become happier or
You stay and become even more miserable.

You post, you know the sort of responses you're going to get (and, I suspect, agree with them) and yet do nothing about it. What are you hoping to hear, that he'll change?

Birdy

heretolearn_2

Are you a masochist or something? You just like being a victim? You like all the fuss and sympathy from other people? What? there must be some reason you deliberately stay in an abusive relationship with an !!!!!!.

You get over a broken heart. We've all had them. It's part of life.

You won't get over being stuck in this until you get out. Every day of your life will be a misery until you do. Weigh it up - a lifetime of misery, or a couple of months of feeling miserable then moving on.

Oh, and I hope you don't have parents to feel heartbroken when the police knock on their door with the news that your partner has put you in hospital/murdered you. 101 women died in 2009 at the hands of their 'loving' partners, probably all of whom had some kind of horrible past to make their excuses for their behaviour. Having a bad past does NOT excuse any of this, not one little bit of it.

He was acting like a pervert exchanging inappropriate pictures with a young girl 'for a laugh'. And you go with that? Really? Are you mental? 1) if he loves you why would he do that, no it's not for a laugh, that's complete carp. 2) How dare he use a young girl in that disgusting way. Would you like a man to treat a young girl in your family like that? He should be reported to the police. You have a lovely pervert there my dear, how much longer are you going to keep sticking up for him.

He's got you wrapped around his little finger. He's laughing at you for being such a mug. He does NOT love you in any normal sense of the word, he just wants to possess you.

Hope I don't see your face on the front page of the newspapers as yet another victim of not having the sense to get away from a potentially murderous man,

best wishes, but little sympathy, you keep yourself in this situation by choice, so have a miserable life forever being abused, hit, and disrespected by a cheating pervert if you want, it's 100% down to you. Wow, your parents must be so proud.

Birdy12

You know, I'm probably going to get shot down in flames for this but I'm starting to wonder if the OP isn't a little bit, well, attention seeking. It seems to be one 'disaster' with her boyfriend after another.

Someone wrote earlier about the OP maybe being a little masochistic...well I'm starting to wonder myself now...

Interhacker

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Oh, absolutely no discussion needed. I suspect that will just result in yet another smack in the mouth for the OP.

Have you packed yet?

Best sentence i have read on here int he 12 months i`ve been here.

meritaten

I think the OP isnt a masochist - just scared stiff in case she does the 'wrong' thing by leaving. I also think that deep down she feels that 'he loves her'! Nothing will convince her otherwise until he goes too far and it finally sinks in. Hopefully, that will be before he either hospitalises her or kills her.
as another poster has said hun, dont be afraid to post - you will get exactly the same advice each time though - that wont change, just like your OH!

make_me_wise

hazeyjewel wrote: »

My bf plays scrabble a lot online.He recently started hiding what he was typing online whenever I walked past.I feel really bad but looked in his emails today, and he's been sending dirty pics n messages to a really young girl, prob 17 or so.She has also sent pics:eek:
I feel sick to the stomach , but can't confront him or he'll just deny it and then change his password.I feel suicidal at the mo, due to lack of trust etc:(:(

From things I have read from others replies I think you should thank your lucky stars that all this guy is, is your boyfriend.

It could be worse, you might already have walked down the aisle with this nasty piece of work. Walk away hassle free and find someone worthy of you and who will treat you right.

Good grief fancy getting suicidal over someone like him. Have some self respect and kick him to the kerb.

doodoot

OP, you say that breaking up with him will break your heart?

What will break your heart is that this relationship hasn't turned out the way you wanted it to...your fantasy hasn't materialised.

Once you kick this c0ck into touch leave it for a couple of weeks, come back to this thread and read your last comment and wonder how the hell you could write such rubbish.