Sexting:(

hazeyjewel

My bf plays scrabble a lot online.He recently started hiding what he was typing online whenever I walked past.I feel really bad but looked in his emails today, and he's been sending dirty pics n messages to a really young girl, prob 17 or so.She has also sent pics:eek:
I feel sick to the stomach , but can't confront him or he'll just deny it and then change his password.I feel suicidal at the mo, due to lack of trust etc:(:(

Money_maker

Found your 'my partner hit me' thread.

Show him the door - you are worth more than this.

Tropez

If you're feeling suicidal then you should contact someone.

The Samaritans may be useful - 08457 90 90 90

NHS Direct can also be helpful in these cases - 0845 4647

If you're in crisis and there is a real chance that you might try and end you life then you should phone 999.

As for the issue with "sexting" after you have sorted your head out then you shouldn't bother with confrontation and just leave. Nobody who makes you feel this bad is worth your time.

justmel

He has hit you in the past? I have not read the details of that thread i admit but that in itself is enough and now this,you must be devastated but you are worth so much more than any of this.

If this girl really is under 18 not only is he betraying you in a disgusting manner but by exchanging pics with her he is breaking the law,itis illegal to do that with a girl under 18 and if you are sure of her age or can find out you should report him,she sounds as keen as him but it doesn't make it right.

As for you,well you don't need to confront him,as you say he will lie and you have already seen the truth,you need to get rid of him and start your life fresh.

You can't have trust with someone who lies and changes their password solely to hide things from you and honestly just feeling that need to constantly check up on him will make you ill,it's a miserable way to live and i couldn't do it for the world.

See your doctor,call for help and if he wont leave and you have nowhere to go or fear him speak to a women's refuge,anything to get away from him...i'm sure other posters will know where to turn for that kind of help,i'm sorry i don't.

You have to get out of this relationship though,it is making you suicidal and once someone behaves in a way that makes you want to end your own life there is no going back in my opinion,please get help and get away from him x

Edit:I have now read the first post on your other thread,he is truly vile and there is no excuse for his behaviour,no wonder you are feeling suicidal but stay with him much longer and he might just do it for you,he's already stripped your self esteem to shreds and thinks he owns you,be good or you'll get a slap type behaviour....there is only one way to go with this,out of there for good.

Bumpmakesfour

It was only recently you posted about him smacking you,not once but four times and now you find him doing this?Hun exactly WHAT will he have to do to make you realise you need to get out of this relationship?
This man is draining your self esteem and self worth...you need to leave xx

meritaten

does it matter whether the other party is 17 or 70?
YOU have to decide whether you want to be with this guy. I would say you dont - but you dont know how to leave!
It isnt simple is it? - contact womens aid hun. work out your plan, and take it one step at a time. because this IS abuse, your head says it is! that is why you posted..........now listen to your head and DO what you need to do.

ska_lover

Bumpmakesfour wrote: »

It was only recently you posted about him smacking you,not once but four times and now you find him doing this?Hun exactly WHAT will he have to do to make you realise you need to get out of this relationship?
This man is draining your self esteem and self worth...you need to leave xx

I really cannot agree more with 'bumpmakesfour' here.

Sometimes it takes harsh words from members of your family or girlfriends to see the situation HOW IT IS, and not how you wish it to be.

Years ago, I was in an abusive long term relationship, violence, repeated cheatings on etc - and finally after finding out about yet another girl he had on the side, I cried to my best friend -who had heard it all before a million times. She told me that I was making excuses for him, which I was. I carried on and on, until eventually she put one hand on each of my shoulders and she said very firmly - 'He does not love you, or he wouldn't treat you like this'. Those words stung - almost like she had slapped me round the face. Those words sunk in and I realised what she was saying. I thank her for waking me up from my daze like state, I really do.

Without someone to give me tough love, I would have probably still been there now, a battered and cheated on girlfriend, with no self confidence at all.

Only thing I regret now, is the 7 years I wasted on the a*sshole.

ska_lover

Just to add OP, I've just read your other thread, and you sound a lovely woman.

Please don't have the same regret that I have (over wasted years of your life)

You do not deserve this. You can do better than this. (Repeat in your head until you believe it).
I am honest to god not trying to be patronising saying that last sentence, as it is what I had to do myself. They get you so down on yourself and no confidence that you start to believe that you are deserving of this treatment somehow.

You HAVE got the strength to break free of this man.

VfM4meplse

This guy sounds like a total waste of space. Why don't you write down all the things you like about him, and all the things you don't. I think you're scared that you won't find anyone better, but the fact is being on your own is a better deal than being with someone who abuses your trust and your body.

Treat yourself to some well-deserved self-respect.

candygirl

He sounds like a complete c ock .Get rid asap:mad::mad::mad:

*Louise*

Why didn't you just print them while you were there? No one can deny things when faced with cold hard proof.

You would probably be wasting your time having it out with himanyway, he doesn't sound like much of a catch.