Reassure me I'm not being a heartless, witch, please!

Emmzi

set your phone to autoreject his number and he won;t be able to leave any messages. This is easily fixed, so just do it!

londonsurrey

The phone calls can be really unnerving, the blatant ignoring of all you've said. I've been through it before. I've even taken them to Family Court for harassment, so I understand. Even after all that, just last week, I got a Christmas card from them(I recognise the handwriting) and on the outside (they were told in court that their letters weren't being opened) so that I WILL read it, is the message "Dearest wish is to see you again". Awwww, diddums.

These stalking user personalities are all the same. Enjoy your Christmas. You have every right to.

Sambucus_Nigra

Just remember - he has a script and is following it. It's all mind games.

You are nearly there! Stay strong.

Stephb1986_2

If she did put the number on auto reject she wouldn't get notice that he is or might turn up where as if he's leaving these stupid messages she has some warning of not to be in.

OP if I was you I'd box up all of his stuff and get p4d.co.uk to collect it and deliver it to his mothers. With a note saying here's your stuff you no longer need to contact me now.

Well done for getting rid of him

Steph xx

BitterAndTwisted

I know that this is not the last time he will contact her. This story has an uncanny familiarity. There could be petulance, begging and then suicide threats. And possibly something else. One hopes he gets the message after the petulance.

19lottie82

OP - I'd change your number, trust me, once you do, you'll feel like a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

Perhaps before you do (not sure about this part, it's up to you) , let him know you're changing it, won't be giving it to him, and why. (no need to be nasty about it, just that it's for the best)

aliasojo

Wow. Wow. Wow. I just find it hard to believe there are people out there like this.

A split is a split. And in the case where one party acts like this bloke does, a split should also mean avoidance, no talking, chatting, continual interaction.

OP, continue to ignore and for goodness sake change your number. He needs a sign bigger than just you ignoring him, imo.

sqeeky

Had a whole bunch of messages today informing me 'we have to talk about something very important'.

Finally sent a text saying 'Stop contacting me. There is nothing to discuss'.



Phone has been practically ringing off the hook ever since. No more messages though.


I nipped straight into the nearest pub and downed a pint in record time.


(btw, I do, as someone has said, prefer having a rough idea of what he is up to, rather than blocking him and never knowing if he's going off on one/I'm going to come home and find him on the doorstep)



I haven't been blunt like that before. Not in a message.

I've told him to eff off before (and had the major guilt trip as a result, which I have always weakened over), but I have had enough. The last thing he said to me was that he was leaving me because someone very special to me had done something wrong to him/their attitude/their comments (which was balls, but hey, he was 'leaving' so I didn't want to get dragged into a discussion about it). So he was trying to ruin that relationship, whether to leave me isolated and easier to manipulate or just to hurt me, and that alone is enough for me to not care how much his feelings/pride/schemes are hurt or thwarted .


Don't suppose he ever thought that he couldn't just undump himself whenever he felt like it.


However, I have bought my tickets for the Friday and Christmas Eve dos, have plenty of cash for emergencies (no going to the cash machine at night) and will not be there if he does accidentally on purpose happen to find himself at my door with a screwdriver or chisel.

londonsurrey

You're doing well!

BugglyB

Things are getting to the stage where I would be contacting the police.

What he is doing is harrassment. If you ask someone not to contact you and they do, its harrassment.