Finally seeing the right track getting closer

MuffinTops

What happened to this week? Have we had a week of good weather or has it been dreary? It changes so much and so quickly at the moment it's difficult to tell.

All is ticking along nicely though, which is always good. Bank accounts have been checked and my main account is looking healthier than I expect it to, so I'll have to go through it at the weekend and work out what I've missed.

I paid the water company yesterday as I think the DD is going to be refused again. In my "previous life" I didn't have enough money in there to cover the direct debits so the bank would automatically cancel them, stating that I had requested that. So when companies try to add it back it shows that I've said no. I can't complain about that as the bank is trying to protect me, and under different circumstances I'd be so relieved, but they're also making it so far impossible to reinstate the ones I want. In this instance, the bank refers me to the water company, but once they've put their (signed by me) request of a direct debit in what else can they do? Even a letter from me hasn't worked. Again, it's something I need to put time aside to properly deal with and resolve.

Yesterday I had lunch with A! Overall it was a nice time, but I managed to throw a whole glass of lemonade over which just threw my head out of sync! I was so sorry and so embarrassed and I just couldn't "lighten up" enough or concentrate on anything else afterwards. He has children so is possibly used to being shown up like that I guess, as he was very good and calm about it, but my family have always been so outwardly and verbally frustrated with me being a klutz that I just inverted in on myself waiting for the fallout. I still feel a bit sick thinking about it!

I guess the plus side to me being really clumsy is that I'm so used to it that when I fall I never actually bash myself on anything. We joke at work about how I should get into stunt work as I seem to have a method of falling where I never smash my face or graze myself or do any serious damage. So with a chiropracter on hand to keep shoving my ribs back in place I could possibly make a fortune!

A fairly nice and quiet weekend coming up. I've been told there's free ebay listing this weekend, so I'll be ready for that. I was meant to visit my best friend tomorrow but she's feeling really out of sorts so we decided to reschedule. A has suggested we do something now I'm free, so I think I'll be seeing him tomorrow afternoon. Maybe backing off a bit has worked for a while again with him as I've seen a lot of him since Wednesday. He was out of the office Monday and Tuesday.

Sunday is a definite eBay day for the bigger things. If the rain holds off long enough I'll photograph the tent (and then panic at not being able to fold it back down again) . But once that picture's taken with the sleeping bag too then they can go up for sale.

I also need to have a ruthless sort out of books too. They either get put away properly or they go up for sale! :cool:

Anyway, I think that's all the excitement since my last update. I was hoping to eat my lunch on the steps of St Pauls today but that's not going to be possible with this rain. I think I need to find a nice indoor place to eat my own brought lunch otherwise I end up staying at my desk!

Happy Friday everyone x

We made it through another week and are therefore now another week closer to debt freedom!

miggy

Oh Muffy, a glass of lemonade is nothing! {hug} I think I heard once that if anyone knocks their glass over at a royal banquet, the queen manages to do the same so they don't feel too bad about it. So you are far from the only one.

Have you ever looked into the cause of your 'clumsiness'? I wonder if there's something, either a physical cause or something to do with how you process information, like dyspraxia? Of course I may be jumping in with totally the wrong idea, but I am sure if it were something you could just change, you would have done so, so it doesn't sound like a cause for blame.

(I'm almost completely incapable of catching a ball and eventually worked out that my head can't process how far away a moving round object is, fast enough to be any use. It's not for want of trying! I also have difficulty in reading numbers aloud in the right order, but that's another story).

What a pain about the DDs. I can see why they do it but you would think they would make these things as easy to reverse as they are to set up. I hope you get it sorted so you don't have all the hassle of paying each thing individually any more (I rely on my DDs as I'm the sort of person who remembers birthdays but not until the day they happen).

I think you deserve a pat on the back for having turned your situation round so far that this can be a problem. :T:T It shows what great changes you've made, even if it is a nuisance!

MuffinTops

Thanks Miggy,

I've actually never looked into why I'm so clumsy. The funny thing is I've never thought it could be anything other than sheer stupidity and no one else I know has either. Friends tend to just laugh at me (fair enough, I'm 41 and stumbling all over the place) and family get irritated and angry with me. I've often assumed it's based on the worry I feel that I will do something stupid when I'm with people I know will get angry with me or have harsh words to say. Fear makes me clumsy, and I either slip and fall or knock something over. But that doesn't explain my slip out of the bath when I was on my own, or falling over nothing and breaking my foot a while back, again while on my own etc. Maybe I should get my inner ear checked or just check it with a Dr next time I need to see one.

Does the Queen really do that? Brilliant! I'll have words with A now for not throwing his drink over to make me feel better!

That's fairly common, isn't it? Not catching a ball because of space and size issues with the brain. You think it's a bit further away than it is? You have number dyslexia too?

I like your way of looking at the difficulties with resetting the direct debits! That is a good place to be that this is now an issue. Thank you x

My_Lil_Revolution

Hi MT

We have had nothing but rain rain rain this week but it has been soooo warm

What a lovely place you have to sit and eat your lunch, I would love to be able to do that. I work on an industrial estate and although we can see grass and trees there isn't really anywhere nice to have lunch so I usually end up eating at my desk or pop to see my mum for a quick bite.

Going back to a previous thread about me and DD coming to London, I think it will probably be early next year but we are going to start planning it soon so we can get everything fit in and work out how many days we want to be there.

DD has said that she wants to see Buckingham Palace and Trafalgar Square and I would really like to take her to Camden Market. As I'm from up north I'm not really sure how far these places are apart so any advice would really be appreciated. I would also love a hotel really central but as I'm a scaredy cat and I'm scared of heights, I really need a nice hotel that I can have a room on the third floor at the most :rotfl::rotfl: Not going to get the greatest view but might be able to sample the night life just outside the window if you know what I mean. My phobia means we also won't be going on the London Eye :rotfl::rotfl: Might have to send my little dare devil up on her own.

Oh well, happy weekend and will catch up soon.

Take care.

Lil
xx

MuffinTops

My_Lil_Revolution wrote: »

Hi MT

We have had nothing but rain rain rain this week but it has been soooo warm

What a lovely place you have to sit and eat your lunch, I would love to be able to do that. I work on an industrial estate and although we can see grass and trees there isn't really anywhere nice to have lunch so I usually end up eating at my desk or pop to see my mum for a quick bite.

Going back to a previous thread about me and DD coming to London, I think it will probably be early next year but we are going to start planning it soon so we can get everything fit in and work out how many days we want to be there.

DD has said that she wants to see Buckingham Palace and Trafalgar Square and I would really like to take her to Camden Market. As I'm from up north I'm not really sure how far these places are apart so any advice would really be appreciated. I would also love a hotel really central but as I'm a scaredy cat and I'm scared of heights, I really need a nice hotel that I can have a room on the third floor at the most :rotfl::rotfl: Not going to get the greatest view but might be able to sample the night life just outside the window if you know what I mean. My phobia means we also won't be going on the London Eye :rotfl::rotfl: Might have to send my little dare devil up on her own.

Oh well, happy weekend and will catch up soon.

Take care.

Lil
xx

Hello Lil,

Give me a week or two and I'll put together some ideas and links for you to have a look through. I may pm you a bit to find out exactly what you want and I'll give you travel details of getting from one place to the next etc. x

MuffinTops

Well, a rare visit to the site on a Saturday morning. I need to be focussed this weekend though as there are things I really want to finally cross of my list as done, or at least in progress.

While logged on I've submitted my shop & scan information. I may go shopping tomorrow, but I'll just upload the new stuff, which I'm sure is fine.

I've also been doing more surveys and managed to add enough to one for a very small payout. I've decided to keep it in there for now though while I'm going through a kind of financial transition period.

Yesterday I finally managed to get a mini statement on my unexpected income account. There's a little more in there than I expected so very happy with that.

So while having a read through diaries I'm also going to finally upload things to Amazon again. I've got a small pile of books by my feet that will hopefully go well, and once I get started I'm hoping it'll be easier to keep it going.

Although it's free listing this weekend I'll wait until tomorrow before updating eBay. I need to rejig some pictures and listings to make them more appealing and I'd like some time to dedicate to that.

I'm off to see A later so time is a bit limited for me today for production purposes. Which probably means I should stop waffling and get moving! Have a great day everyone. x

Knitting_Nora

As a fellow klutz, I like to think of it as a skillset enabled by a mind far too busy thinking about more important things than where my feet are going...

miggy

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

As a fellow klutz, I like to think of it as a skillset enabled by a mind far too busy thinking about more important things than where my feet are going...

I like that.

Am reminded of Lucy in Narnia. When asked why girls can't carry a map in their heads, she replied 'That's because our heads have something in them',

miggy

MuffinTops wrote: »

Thanks Miggy,

I've actually never looked into why I'm so clumsy. The funny thing is I've never thought it could be anything other than sheer stupidity and no one else I know has either. Friends tend to just laugh at me (fair enough, I'm 41 and stumbling all over the place) and family get irritated and angry with me. I've often assumed it's based on the worry I feel that I will do something stupid when I'm with people I know will get angry with me or have harsh words to say. Fear makes me clumsy, and I either slip and fall or knock something over. But that doesn't explain my slip out of the bath when I was on my own, or falling over nothing and breaking my foot a while back, again while on my own etc. Maybe I should get my inner ear checked or just check it with a Dr next time I need to see one.

I'm sure fear doesn't help, and it may be that you and everyone else have got into a habit of thinking it's your fault, perhaps reinforcing each other, but as you say, that doesn't account for it happening when you're on your own. It would be interesting to see what the doctor thinks. I had years of tiredness which I blamed on late nights, and I'm sure they didn't help but there were other problems alongside all of which I thought were my fault. Turns out there is a problem with my thyroid so I now take synthetic thyroxine which has made things a lot better.

It does seem very unfair that anyone should be blamed for being clumsy. After all, it's not something anyone chooses, and I wonder whether ears or eyes or something else might be behind it.

MuffinTops wrote: »

Does the Queen really do that? Brilliant! I'll have words with A now for not throwing his drink over to make me feel better!

That's fairly common, isn't it? Not catching a ball because of space and size issues with the brain. You think it's a bit further away than it is? You have number dyslexia too?

I like your way of looking at the difficulties with resetting the direct debits! That is a good place to be that this is now an issue. Thank you x

I always feel I'm the worst when it come to any kind of ball games! I didn't realise it could be common... makes me feel less odd!

I don't know if it's number dyslexia but I think there could be some degree of that. The same happens quite often in reading music, which I've been doing since I was eleven but it still happens. I will see a note quite clearly on the page but not be able to tell you which of two it is. On another occasion it will be perfectly clear.

Incidentally Dd has dyslexic tendencies. She doesn't have a diagnosis because her reading sounds fluent, although she finds it hard to take in meaning while she's reading due to print appearing to move as she reads. Her brain's too busy decoding the movement to get meaning as well. There's a name for that which I forget. She does have 50% of the other indicators of dyslexia, though, according to the school - so maybe it runs in the family.

What strange beings we humans are. I think schools are much more aware now than they were when you and I were there, and possibly if we were at school now we would be taught differently and not blamed for things we can't help!

Sorry for the long digression! I find it all very interesting and I do hope you get some useful feedback if ever you speak to the doctor about it.

I hope too that you had a nice time with A? It sounds like a busy day but hopefully a productive one too?

LondonGirl252

I feel your pain on the clumsy-ness... I am forever knocking drinks over, walking into things.... I love that story about the queen, I will remember to do that if anyone get embarrased about knocking a drink over!!

Would be interesting to hear if your doc things there could be a reason for it!

Hope you have a lovely afternoon with A