A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

prepareathome

kitschy wrote: »

Torch gets to us next week - I'm not going to go, because I'm performing in the Opening Ceremony and will get to see it lighting the cauldron - hurrah :j

After three bereavements, my fifth redundancy and the news that my landlady is selling my flat happening already this year, the rehearsals and the new friends I've made have saved me from going mad. It's taking everything I have to scrape the money together to get there, but I was determined not to let the opportunity go. Which is also having a positive effect on my cluttering and shopping problems

I will try and be a more regular visitor - forgot how much you guys cheer me up!

Oh I am so happy for you, after what you have been through you deserve this, something good you will remember all your days and if you have children can tell to your grandchildren, or anyone else's:rotfl:s

kitschy

Thanks PAH - I didn't want to sound like a sad sack, but I really am super excited about it.

The OSers used to wear a safety pin to identify themselves to each other in public - I'll try and work one onto my costumes!

After a few months of denial I have found my way back home to OS, and will endeavour to stick about. I'm very good about doing some things, but others I am terrible at and I'm hoping y'all will rub off on me some more! x

prepareathome

I forget about mentioning the ventilation as with having all the dogs my back door is open from around 5am till whenever last one goes to bed, unless its totally freezing with a gale blowing, same with my bedroom windows and even then will close the curtains to stop the wind rather than the windows as I loathe a stuffy house, even if it is cold.......

If you have a gas hob or oven then your kitchen should have ventilation via air bricks or similar......

Hugs, Love and Healing to all xxxxxxxxxxx

Mrs_Chip

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-politics-18728521

What a terrible situation - honestly, what a shambles this policy is!

prepareathome

Can you get your money back on train tickets that are bought in advance.......

As I mentioned friends ( well more hubbys as a bowls team mate) had a little girl born last week very prem and she died at 4 days old, funeral was to be 13th and hubby got it into his head to go but refused to let me go with - he has spent the past 32 years avoiding any mention if possible of our daughter, not ignoring she existed just in general and never ever faced her death properly, and if she is mentioned he will cry and usually have a panic over something non related a bit later. He said he wants to go for support but they have moved and its a long, long way away and no way could we afford the petrol so hubby checked trains and found one that would get him town about an hour before funeral was to start and a bus going to cemetary from the station so he bought the tickets on-line.

Today the father put on facebook funeral has been cancelled as for some reason there is to be an inquest, which is awful as they never got to hold her never mind bring her home so now tickets are no use and not cheap. Just as well now he said no to me ( not wanting to be seen with me is a growing thing - I am fat and don't look good any more, is something I am hearing more and more so unless its expected I am to be with him at some bowls do I am not allowed to go with him, he would be happy if I stayed home and he with a list went shopping, we have many an argument over me wanting to go out and him saying oh the dogs will be upset , but that is nothing to do with what I am asking which is can we get the money back anyone know, its been years since we used trains so not up to speed with the terms and conditions. It wasn't a special fare in any way except it was bought in advance so cheaper than if bought on the day and its money we cannot afford to lose and if we cannot get it back, he will not be going no matter how much he pouts and moans. We cannot just get an exchange as might not have the new date before the 13th.

Hugs, Love and Healing to all xxxxx

Mrs_Chip

http://www.nationalrail.co.uk/times_fares/buying-tickets/changing-and-cancelling-tickets.html

Hope that is helpful PAH

smileyt_2

Thank you everyone for your support yesterday. I have had a much better day today. I have managed to get some petrol and hopefully will feel brave enough to try the strimmer some time this weekend, weather permitting. Isn't petrol disgusting stuff? It's a long time since I've been a passenger in a car that's needed filling up and I had forgotten how much petrol stinks.

I collected 700g of raspberries tonight from my allotment so will make some jam tomorrow.

mardatha wrote: »

PAH thats a scam - what a load of nonsense! Tell her you're on benefits and have no money in the house at all and are really skint - then she wont bother you again!

Was wondering where you'd got to, Mardatha. I have been itching to tell you that I am growing kale, I know how jealous you will be . I hope you're feeling better soon.
And yes, that woman was definitely scamming. If she had been genuine she would have been grateful for a lift to go and get her keys. PAH make sure she knows you don't have two farthings to rub together or she will bleed you dry. And don't feel guilty about it. She was trying to pull a fast one.

shegar wrote: »

Everyday this past 2 wks theyve said rain but weve had lovely sunny and very warm days, we could do with a night of rain to soak the garden im sick of watering every night........But so glad to get the washing dry .................

..Im tired out and sick to death of everything the past week or so, phew me, dont life get you down sometimes?.........

Jealous - I'm sure it has rained every single day here for the last five or six weeks! I'll swap you..... I hope things pick up for you soon, you sound so fed-up xx.

kitschy wrote: »

Torch gets to us next week - I'm not going to go, because I'm performing in the Opening Ceremony and will get to see it lighting the cauldron - hurrah :j

After three bereavements, my fifth redundancy and the news that my landlady is selling my flat happening already this year, the rehearsals and the new friends I've made have saved me from going mad. It's taking everything I have to scrape the money together to get there, but I was determined not to let the opportunity go. Which is also having a positive effect on my cluttering and shopping problems

I will try and be a more regular visitor - forgot how much you guys cheer me up!

Oh my goodness, that is a terrible year by anyone's standards. I hope the Olympics thing means you can turn a corner and you have better luck for the rest of the year. Take care of yourself.

Has anyone else watched 'Turn Back Time', the thing on BBC about families through the ages? Was anyone else struck by the similarities faced by the families then and what people are going through now? Does anything ever change?

PAH I have to say I am upset on your behalf by your husband's attitude. You don't deserve that. I hope one day he comes to realise what a lovely person you are.

Right I'm off to bed. I have warned Lodger Boy not to eat the raspberries in the fridge on pain of something sharp being shoved up his derriere :rotfl:. Bless him, he is quite excited about learning to make jam tomorrow!

Softstuff

PAH, I'm a bit gobsmacked about your husband and don't quite know what to say. You don't deserve treatment like that from anybody and shouldn't have to take it. The size of your body doesn't dictate how much love or respect you should get.

Sorry for not commenting much otherwise, have been on a cleaning kick this week. Everything from windows inside and out, to every inch of the car yesterday (and my body feels like I cleaned every inch).

Hubby and I tried to go for dinner and to the cinema last night (I had a couple of free tickets), dinner was a hurried mess in a food court and then when we got to the cinema the film we wanted was sold out. We went and had a cup of tea instead and hubby jokingly glared at me for a bit, since it had all been my idea! Still, thanks to the late night shopping, he got me a rice cooker/steamer. I'd been thinking about one for a while (I only have 1 hob and we eat rice a fair bit since I got sick, so it'll make life easier) and this was my treat from his bonus. So today, if I can figure it out well, we'll have sushi and dumplings for tea and that should make up for the funny date night last night.

Love and hugs to all!

mcculloch29

It's taken me ages to catch up....
I had thought about a day out in Barnard Castle today, good job I no-noed it as they had a truly Biblical cloudburst, ankle deep water swirling down the streets. I used to teach there, though never on a Thursday. It all looked VERY dramatic.
I did go to Darlington, heavy rain but no cloudburst, though when I got back home, we'd had two deluges and I'd missed them, but not the massive puddles to wade through in sandals, argh.
Then my feet slipped on the bike ramp coming in the front door and son had to pick me up off the hallway floor. Good job it was his day off.
I was unhurt, just pride dented and son didn't help by applauding when I asked him to give me a hand.

Front door wide open throughout. Thank goodness the park opposite was empty and nobody walked past. (There's no road at the front).

On the frugal front, I had enough energy to go to two pound shops and to the super-cheap greengrocers, woo-hoo. Sharon fruit or doughnut peaches, anyone?

prepareathome

Aw bless you smileyt, hubby is just hubby he cannot see beyond the physical he would say the same to anyone and has in the past - he looks sees me as fat and so tells me, he cannot remember I was slim in past, or what I am like inside, he is like this with everything - if I say I am going to do this or that in the house its useless to him he cannot picture it at all, he has to see it. Its not as if he thinks of himself as handsome or perfect, he will tell you how he has a tummy ( true but is skinny everywhere else) and balding. When i dress up he will tell me I look nice just shame I am so fat, just the way he is so I try hard not to let it upset me but it does at times - think depression is hitting me a bit as been feeling a bit down on and off lately.

Just opened a letter from tax office for son - he still has mail sent to us, hence the bailing out of money the other month as we had baliffs turn up at our door thinking he lived here and it was either pay up or they were going to come in and take our things.....scared the life out of me as we have had our problems but never had baliffs at the door and he has not lived here for 10 years......anyway letter contains a cheque for tax refund for nearly £900 so I expect him to repay me every penny of the £220 he owes me next week as he had already given me back £60, well paid it to my brother as my last share towards dads headstone, which had to be paid and I did not have the money, if not it would be £280 he owes me, and I will then hand over a good part of that to gardener to do garden ( he usually charges me £35 to do garden but think he will want a good bit more considering the state it is in now).

This letter proves though he has not done as I asked and changed his address so baliff problem could arise again, and no way I can prove he doesn't live here as I found when baliff came last time she would not believe me and stayed on my doorstep refusing to go away until she was paid or she was allowed in to take belongings, . I know I should have sent her to his home but didn't want the kids losing their toys etc.,

He has his cheque and been warned I expect full payment as soon as it is clear. He is just hopeless with money and for many years let his partner deal with things and that was fine as she is great with money but this year for some reason he has decided he will deal with 'his' money not her and so bills not being paid as he just does not see where it goes, totally clueless, his 7 year old son has more money sense than him.

Hugs, Love and Healing xxxxx