Anyone else hate the school run?

InsertWittyName

I hadn't experienced the school run previously due to working full time.

However, on some recent time off from work I've picked the kids up a few times with the missus - it's a bit strange that's for sure!

Every day the same people appear to stand in the EXACT same places and talk to the EXACT same people and give you the EXACT same looks, what's with that?

It's like being on the school playground regresses these people back to their own school days when they were the underdog or queen bee (to quote from an earlier post) and they have to make their 'status' known.

To be honest I've taken it as a new source of entertainment, it's like a TV reality show and in fact I expect to see one very similar soon, 'Britain's Got Clique Parents' or something similar.

The kids saunter out to their parents and then get shouted at for not having their shirt tucked in or not having their coats on etc.

My kids come out of school, rush over to me and the missus really pleased to see us and look genuinely happy.

That's all the 'status' I ever need.

We do say hello to quite a few of the decent folk there and are friends with a couple of them. They share the same opinion as us, it's all nonsense!

mummyroysof3

i hate the school run..crap weather, kids messing about, avoiding the dog poo. parents are very friendly at our school though but it doesnt bother me if i stand and wait for kids coming out and no one speaks to me..im there to pick up the kids not socialise

indebtinsussex

I chat to about 4 mums and thats it. I thought being a pupil at school was bad, the school run is terrifying. We have a lead mum who I have lovingly renamed as nazi mum who enjoys telling you about how much her husband earns and what he brought her just as a little prezzie and your made to feel like sh*t if you havent got the latest stuff for your or your kids.

If she doesnt like you then thats it she seems to be intent on destroying you and your kids seem to become social pariahs. my son couldnt understand why he had been told by her child that he was invited to his birthday party and birthday party came and went and no invite. he was absolutely devastated.

She used to try and tell me how to raise my children including I shouldnt use slings because she didnt, and I should stop bfing at two weeks as children dont need it and its my body as well. but my personal favourite was hearing her telling people how to disguise the smell of alcohol from your kids and family and the kit she has in the car to disguise hangovers - classy

Becles

indebtinsussex wrote: »

If she doesnt like you then thats it she seems to be intent on destroying you and your kids seem to become social pariahs. my son couldnt understand why he had been told by her child that he was invited to his birthday party and birthday party came and went and no invite. he was absolutely devastated.

That's what annoys me when the children suffer as they don't understand it all.

The lady I mentioned in my post made a huge point of inviting every boy in the class to her son's party but made sure everyone knew my lad was not invited. That's an awful thing to do to a child, just because you've got some problem with his mother

LegalBlonde

Gillyx wrote: »

I'd have said "I work every day so can't be here to collect my child unfortunately" Smug face

I know you are suggesting this because the woman lashed out to the OP in the first place, but this phrase on it's own got my back up a bit.

Why would you get to be smug because you work and they don't??

I am at the very start of this journey but I spent most of my 20's getting qualified in a high pressure profession and now I am pregnant I have by choice left and plan to be a SAHM for the first few years.

Everyone has to do what suits them. The woman may not work out of choice, she may not have worked a day in her life. Why does that make you better than her?

I wouldn't be smug towards anyone staying in the work place about this. Equally, when I was in the work place, I wouldn't be smug about working when others don't. I wouldn't be smug about anyone who chose to work when pregnant and went on maternity leave. I certainly hope none of them would be smug to me in a vice versa position!

Maybe I will come back and resurrect this thread in a few years when I am doing the school run and mums are being smug to me for whichever reason!:rotfl:

CH27

I treated the school run like work.

I was polite & friendly to everyone & made good friends at the school gate & good friends at work.

My son is now 16 & i'm still good friends with 3 of the school mums.

IMO you get out what you put in.

onlyroz

claire16c wrote: »

Im not done up to the nines but it only takes about 15 mins in the morning to do it and put my hair up or straighten it, its not that hard to fit in.

Wow, I can get myself and my two kids washed, dressed and down for breakfast in that time.

moomoomama27

I must be odd then. I love the school run, some of the Mums I socialise with, others I don't. Sure there are a few cliques I'm sure, but I have never got an unfriendly vibe from anyone.

I enjoy talking about my children, and listening to how my friends children are getting on! There will always be some pushy parents around, but not everyone can be tarred with the same brush!

I put make up on before the school run every day, and straighten my hair on the days I'm going out to work after I've done it! I also go for a 40 minute run, but still make sure the children are fed, washed and dressed! I didn't realise people judged because you want to look nice for the school run. I couldn;t care whether someone turned up in jogger and a tee, or a business suit, as long as they are friendly.

cr1mson

Whatever happenned to sisterhood? Since having my kids I am shocked about the assumptions and judgments we make about our fellow mothers!

I am off for coffee now with another mum but whilst can't guarantee the conversation will be kid free last time our discussion was on Eurozone crisis!

C

Nicki

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I didn't realise people judged because you want to look nice for the school run.

Don't forget what you drive and the kind of things you talk about . And if they don't like any or all of those things, they will dislike you for it, but it will be you they judge to be unfriendly