Anyone else hate the school run?

purple.sarah

Caroline73 wrote: »

Well when inequality of the mums came across and made the effort to speak to you today you then came onto a public forum and spared her for doing it so that's probably edgy you'd be classed as unfriendly.

Predictive text?

It did seem a bit barbed of the other mum to pretend not to know the OP when they'd spoken before then laugh at her and make a point about how they haven't seen her for a while (because she can't do the school run like they do.) Not very friendly!

Buttonmoons

Oh I hate the school run, the school is thankfully about 4mins walk away, and I make sure we leave the house at 8:55am and I leave to pick her up at 3:10. I have had problems with one of the mothers (she thinks I reported her to SS - I didn't - should of though!) and her and her gang stand around discussing the newest person on their hit list, and are not afraid of actually throwing punches in the playground :eek:


AVOID!!

Becles

I'm on round two of this as my eldest have moved on to secondary, but my youngest has just started primary school.

I was in the clique in round one, but fell out with the queen bee over a misunderstanding that she blew all out of proportion. She spread nasty rumours about me to the others so I kept my distance after that.

She's still on the school run as her youngest is in Year 6 now. She stands on the path outside the school gate with a dog (not allowed in school grounds with a dog) looking for people to talk to.

Everyday she gives me a really filthy look for no reason, so I just walk tall and confident past her and smile sweetly back at her

In round 2, the parents in my daughters class are much nicer. Nobody looks down their nose at anybody else and we all just stand and have a natter about stuff. I've enjoyed going to parties and stuff and sitting having a coffee with them while the bairns play.

Caroline73_2

purple.sarah wrote: »

Predictive text?

It did seem a bit barbed of the other mum to pretend not to know the OP when they'd spoken before then laugh at her and make a point about how they haven't seen her for a while (because she can't do the school run like they do.) Not very friendly!

Yes predictive text fail. I've changed the original.

Maybe the 'queen bee' genuinely didn't recognise the OP.

neverdespairgirl

I don't do it that often, as I work full-time.

Our nanny had a day off on Tuesday, so OH dropped him off and I picked him up.

Almost no-one drives there - no parking at the school or on the road outside, which is very narrow. Everyone walks / cycles / takes the bus.

I've no idea how long others had spent on their hair or makeup, it's not the sort of thing I notice, really. I was pretty smartly dressed, having come from work, and was wearing a dark grey suit, white shirt with cufflinks, etc.

Everyone was perfectly friendly towards me, as I was to them. As my son's 6, whoever picks him up has to collect him from his classroom.

I reckon less than half his class is collected by a parent anyway. At least half of the numbers on our class contact list are for nannies as well as parents.

Cherry_Bomb

Caroline73 wrote: »

Yes predictive text fail. I've changed the original.

Maybe the 'queen bee' genuinely didn't recognise the OP.

Are you the queen bee at your school gate? :cool:

She recognised me hence they 'oh we just haven't seen you in a while' remark

Had she said I've never seen you before then yes I would take that as her being friendly but that's not what she said.

Caroline73_2

Am I the queen bee? I have no idea. I'm not entirely sure I know how to define it properly. Give me a proper description of one and I'll let you know. I don't do the school run everyday because I work part time. I like to see my childrens faces at the end of a school day.

I have some close friends at school, I chat to lots of mums. I'm not prejudice about people, I don't assume that I have nothing in common with anyone. I'm not arrogant enough to assume everyone likes me but I'd like to think anyone would be happy to try to get to know me.

Nicki

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Are you the queen bee at your school gate? :cool:

I really can't imagine why the other mums at school think you are unfriendly

Odd definition of a clique though, that they spot a new mum at the school gates and invite her to join them for coffee! Where I live, a clique would deliberately try to exclude a stranger and not try to get to know them.

It was your choice to keep a distance from these women because you assumed you would have nothing in common with them, so why are you now so concerned that they didn't immediately recognise you today and clasp you to their bosom. For what its worth, I don't have a good memory for faces and wouldn't necessarily recognise a parent in my child's class if I had only met them once or twice, even if I did suggest on one of those occasions that they join a group of us for coffee. I need to meet people at least half a dozen times, or spend a decent amount of time with them when I first meet them, before I will recognise them again, as that is just the way my memory works. Strangely, I can remember people's names though even if I can't put a face to the name. So just because you recognised the woman, it doesn't follow that she instantly recognised you, and her opening remark might genuinely have been intended as a friendly overture to someone she thought was new rather than the !!!!!iness you took it for.

I can't help noticing that on this thread the mums who have made an effort to get to know some of the school mums seem to have a happier time than those who have been standoffish from the start and now feel they have to hand back from the school pick up because they are not one of the crowd. Starting school can be as daunting for the parent as the child clearly, but as others have said it is worth investing a small amount of time in getting to know at least a few of the other parents, as they can be a useful network to have. That half an hour having coffee and talking about children which OP could not bear to spend might have been far more useful long term than she realised at the time, and would almost certainly have prevented the awkwardness today.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Not so much hating the School run as the School Mums, isn't it?

Cherry_Bomb

I think it's quite obvious what the term queen bee means. If you're still not sure you could Google it. Maybe Urban Dictionary or something along those lines seeing as I'm using it in a slang term rather than it's literal meaning.

Sorry but I'm having real trouble seeing your point of view.

I have to listen to a woman and her friends make a snide remark and laugh because I don't pick up DS very often (because incidentally I'm at work) and I'm the unfriendly one?

Your first comment you said she was trying to make an effort. I absolutely fail to see that. Then you say I'm jealous, again that ones lost on me, then I think I'm superior for not wanting to go out with them?
Do you talk about kids at mum type meetings? Like I said I don't know! I don't have an interest in knowing because it's not me to socialise with other people just because a) they are mums and b) we are at the same school. Maybe I should have put a smiley as it was sarcastic but that's irrelevant now anyway.